TC 170K, mid 20s, Software Engineer male in SF Bay Area.
I need help/advice for how to plan my life and career.
Please help me get perspective to make intelligent life choices.
1. I see dating is hard in the SF Bay Area due to skewed male-female ratio. What are my chances to find a woman with similar TC as me. I assume for every 1 woman at 160+ there would be 10 other men that can match her income to be equals, so I have crazy competition?
2. How do we split common bills in a relationship for couples with a TC gap.
If my partner earns half as much as me, I highly doubt how she will be able to match my contribution for common stuff like rent, food, holidays. Will I be expected to pay for everything?
3. How do I financially safe-guard myself. Everybody tells me just get a pre-nup, but how many women in the bay area would actually agree to sign a pre-nup, when they have soo much choice. Does pre-nup equal trust issues. Also people say divorce lawyers can easily find loop-holes in a prenup?
4. They say “why buy the cow when you can drink the milk for free”. I am loosing my motivation to study for technical interviews and advance in my career. I’m now prioritizing fitness, personality development and social life. I feel like earning a TC higher than 200K will only put me at risk for divorce and alimony. Is it advisable to ONLY date a woman in the same income bracket. Please help me gain perspective.
Thank you all for your help.
2) Have a conversation and see what you are comfortable. If you want 50/50, find someone that can do you with you or reduce your lifestyle to make it possible for the other person.
3) You don’t make enough for anyone to gold dig no offense. Prenup 😂😂😂the girl should def sign that to protect her assets.
4) Money comes and goes. Find someone that you love and loves you. Life is really hard sometimes and having that person that will stick by you and you do the same, makes growing old and facing life much more pleasant.
You need to have more relationships and see what you want.