Resign without letting on about next role

Capital One / Strategy peeta
Sep 3 344 Comments

I am about to resign from my current role and would like some thoughts on how to tackle the question "Which company are you going to?"

I definitely do not want to inform my current manager about my next role/company.

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TOP 344 Comments
  • Capital One hejaksfhj
    I’m curious, why don’t you wanna disclose that?
    Sep 3 14
    • Boeing SkepticM
      There was a wrongful termination suit at a former company where I worked. My boss had to turn over his diary and personal notes regarding the employee. As soon as the judge agreed to that disclosure, the company settled.
      Sep 4
    • Gusto walala
      @CapitalOne not in Gusto, but different company I’ve worked with. A friend of mine gave 2 weeks notice and unbeknownst to him, the hiring manager is know his current manager. Needless to say, the current manager talked shit about him and the new company retracted the offer.
      Sep 4
    • Gusto walala
      @hodlbtc just responded. If you still think I “talked shit”, well, that’s on you.

      Based on my experience, I now NEVER tell my current company where my next gig will be. Why take the chance?

      But since you work for banks, maybe things are different.
      Sep 4
    • New DkbP71
      What EKVe82 said. Great answer, going to use that.
      Sep 4
    • Lending Club / Eng
      CtrlC.lc

      Lending Club Eng

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      CtrlC.lcmore
      I have seen people telling that they are taking a break and will look for work afterwards
      Sep 5
  • Cisco dream-big
    So which company are you going to?
    Sep 3 0
  • New DYbp46
    I am considering 2-3 options currently, and have not finalized it yet. I would rather not say at this stage, but I will let you know once we finalize the agreement.
    Sep 3 9
    • Amazon bezzozzzz
      Watch my LinkedIn for an update
      Sep 4
    • Salesforce
      OHANA GANG

      Salesforce

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      OHANA GANGmore
      "Watch this space"
      Sep 4
    • Google amdg
      It seems you are considering answering that question as an obligation. It is not correct.

      They don't deserve that much attention from you.
      Sep 4
    • New DYbp46
      As others have said, you are under NO Obligation to give them any response. Also, in case you live in “right to work” state (CA, TX, NY and many other), you don’t even have to give them two week’s notice... as they can walk you out on the very same day if they feel like it... without *giving any reason*... that is the law. And this specific sentence is the key... since every relationship is a 2 way street, you also have the same right... can walk away from a job, without * giving any reason*.

      Unless I was leaving for a career upgrade opportunity, I stopped providing any feedback or answering any exit interview questions. Typically, I was leaving those employers since they wronged me some how (did not keep the pay at market rate, under appreciated my work, poor work life balance, favoritisms etc etc).
      Sep 4
    • Yelp bbtea
      This doesn’t work if you are on h1b, nobody believes you
      Sep 4
  • ServiceNow ksdW54
    Write out an NDA agreement with yourself. Sign it. Tell people you've signed an NDA about it. It's not a lie and it will shut down conversation.
    Sep 4 6
    • Love this, man... I'm definitely going to use this in the future.
      Sep 4
    • Google TljD52
      😂
      Sep 4
    • ServiceNow ksdW54
      I'm pleased to have thought of it. A friend told me "That's genius! It's like a dad joke in legal form.".
      Sep 4
    • New DkbP71
      Also a great answer.
      Sep 4
    • Tableau
      Tyh257

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      Tyh257more
      That’s like trump giving awards to himself . Sign NDA to self lol
      Sep 4
  • Bloomberg / Eng F.U. money
    One of the best things about moving on to a better role is shoving it in your management chain’s face. Why would you deprive yourself of that?
    Sep 3 9
    • Dropbox ThiccBicc
      Or your manager could be as dumb as mine was: "What's Dropbox?"
      Sep 5
    • Chase / Eng Sha_
      @uber - Such type of shit statements that won't let us evolve as human beings ever and fix the bad attitude of plenty. People with power can misuse their power and mistreat people under them but no don't burn the bridge, just keep on sucking up to the same bat shit crazy asshole. I'd rather tell them what they need to fix in them politely whether it burns the bridge or it doesn't. It should be OK with everyone if I don't want to share that info. Fuck this shit fucking bridge!
      Sep 5
    • Uber ZombieZoo
      I feel your pain, man. But you can’t do anything. You can’t change people. You may try but if they don’t want to, they never will. You can change your attitude only. So yes, lots of asshole managers. But you can’t say “fuck it” and leave because you may want to come back someday. Not to this manager, some other team. And you won’t be able to.

      Plus you never know who this manager is a friend of. By destroying relationship with him, you risk to destroy relationships with people you may not even know yet. Network effect is a powerful thing.

      So is it worth it? I don’t think so. It won’t change a thing. Only make them worse.
      Sep 5
    • Chase / Eng Sha_
      @uber - when you say it that way, it makes sense... But don't you ever think that one day you'll be in such a power? I mean you surely can reverse this chain right for such people?
      Sep 7
    • Uber ZombieZoo
      You may or you may not. That person may also climb high. Don’t forget that most of people in power are more or less assholes. Look around. Jobs, Musk, TK. That seems what it takes to get there. So your manager may have good chances too. With more power comes more influence and they may implicitly have effect on you. They may become investors and you may not get funding because of an “innocent” “fuck it” episode. Again, it’s not worth it. SV is too small.
      Sep 7
  • New / Eng bytec
    “I’d prefer not to discuss that” or something similar.
    Sep 3 0
  • New / IT ifsH82
    Do not let them know, my ex-CEO called my future CTO behind my back and asked for me to extend my stay for a month. I couldn’t say no since it would make me look bad alienating a very important project. I moved overseas and it just sucked selling all my shit and planning flights. Only to stay a month in an empty apartment with a lot of boxes.
    Sep 4 15
    • Charter dwayneWayn
      Are you kidding Google? In the US that definitely not always the case.

      Forced to be a pawn and go on strike.

      Letting mobsters get fat off you're dues.

      If no one picks up slack the quality and quantity plummets.

      Then companies look for non-union.

      It's not like we dont need to advocate for rights but Unions are not the answer.
      Sep 5
    • Tyler Technologies
      batwomann

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      Well run unions are the answer and please consider if the cases you're referring to are just widely publicized by a certain political party.
      Sep 5
    • Flowcast lulll
      Wel run unions happen about as much as well run communism (or socialism). IE, its a pipe dream
      Sep 6
    • Tyler Technologies
      batwomann

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      batwomannmore
      Then what is the solution to pervasive corporate overreach that isn't consistent with the free market?

      SF companies agreeing on low wages with each other to keep labor costs down
      Unfair non-compete agreements
      Churn and burn mentality
      Healthcare tied to employment

      All these things should be address and in no way enable low performance.
      Sep 6
    • Flowcast lulll
      Huh? These are already against the law, there are already regulations for them
      Sep 6
  • Amazon CulStryBro
    L4 answer: "I am going to Google, b**ches!"
    L6 answer: "I have several offers and am considering my options."
    L8 answer: "I have decided to take some time off to consider my next steps."
    L10 answer: "I have decided to take some time off to spend with my family."
    Sep 4 2
    • Amazon whatevеr
      L5 answer: “I don’t want to appeal. I’d like to take the severance”
      Sep 4
    • GitHub LLFG78
      CulStryBro thanks for the answer!
      Sep 4
  • Pandora x0kjF
    Just say "I don't have anything lined up quite yet."
    Sep 3 2
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

      Microsoft Product

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      Brazukamore
      Thats no fun. Just say I'd rather not say at the moment.
      Sep 4
    • Intel gsjyet3566
      I know don't know, if you want to stick it to them nothing says "anywhere is better than here" better than quitting without another offer in hand.
      Sep 4
  • Bank of America RLPK44
    "Keep an eye out for when I update my LinkedIn."

    I usually say some variation of the above.
    Sep 4 7
    • Salesforce
      OHANA GANG

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      Power move
      Sep 4
    • Marqeta Pn8€cd
      True 😂. But honestly idk what the big deal is. Are you ashamed of your new gig? Unless you are a VP and above what’s the point. I get it if you’ve been a dick to people and they are out to get you, then go for it and don’t tell anyone where you are going, otherwise it’s pretty absurd imo.
      Sep 4
    • Bank of America RLPK44
      I wouldn't say ashamed. Certainly never been a dick, lol. I just don't like nosy people, especially people I sorta kinda know at my current company (it isn't their business where I'm off to). The co-workers with whom I'm close with all know where I've gone and vice-versa. Just got to know who you can really trust. That's all. Really that simple. I've also been super lucky and none of my managers or people in senior management have ever questioned my departure. I could be an anomaly and don't mean to skew the norm.
      Sep 4
    • Marqeta Pn8€cd
      Nah I get it. I usually tell people if they ask but the ones who do are the ones who are closer to me already. The rest can’t get past my rbf 😂
      Sep 4
    • New / Eng 星期三
      Then they find out and you are with a competitor, so then you get sued since you signed a non compete and refused to tell anyone because you felt entitled
      Sep 5
  • Had a few coworkers who left and kept silent about their next job. The team really resented that especially when we found out that the ex-employee told people outside our team. WTH?!
    Sep 4 3
    • New DYbp46
      Because they hated their team... it goes beyond how much they hated the company.
      Sep 4
    • Tesla / Eng shotgun1
      Why is there an expectation that the coworker HAS to share it to the team and not outside the team? Usually within teams the dynamic is all about being professional and maintaining a distance. Outside the team the people you meet are cool to become friends with as they have no direct stake in your career. Just because you sit and work with someone for x years doesn't give you automatic rights to their personal thougts
      Sep 4
    • If your teammates “resented” that, then that says something about your team.

      Being “disappointed”? Sure. Being “annoyed”? I suppose. But “resenting”? Lmao no gtfo with that nonsense.
      Sep 4
  • Google TljD52
    Imagine being intimidated by a boss that in the near future will be out of your life. Some people in tech really need to develop more confidence in themselves. You don't have to be nice to people, the world won't implode!
    Sep 4 2
    • BrightEdge hsAY58
      Seconded. You don't have to be rude either. Just say "it'll be on my LinkedIn once i start" and smile. If they insist, repeat yourself.
      Sep 4
    • Google TljD52
      Yeah , too often we feel irrationally obligated to maintain an overly nice image. I agree no need to be rude, but it may feel that way if you're super nice all the time to not be so open about something.
      Sep 4
  • Pivotal / Field Ops
    peeeeeaaaa

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    peeeeeaaaamore
    I made the mistake of disclosing where I was heading when I left my previous job. My boss got pissed, thought I went to the competition and they turned my two week notice into an immediate termination of employment.

    It was not a pleasant experience, especially since we just had a baby and I had the health insurance that also got terminated immediately.

    And yeah, a few weeks later I got a letter demanding $1,200 back as they claimed they had overpaid me on my last paycheck.
    Sep 4 8
    • Uber Utrecht-
      Which company is that? Just so we can all avoid
      Sep 4
    • In the most cases, boss just can't kick you off same day without PIP or something. On the paper, you left voluntirely. My guess is you could fight that and stay for 2 weeks and the boss could do nothing with it
      Sep 4
    • Scotiabank WWaN62
      So my friend always makes sure to tell them it’s a competitor his going to after he gives notice, because then they tell him not to go in for the last 2 weeks lol. But I think last day of employment is based on the notice and they can’t immediately terminate you. Although could just be a Canadian law thing
      Sep 4
    • Pivotal / Field Ops
      peeeeeaaaa

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      peeeeeaaaamore
      Technically speaking they didn't fire me. I was already leaving, so all they did was to move up my last date of employment a couple of weeks.
      It's no problem to do that kind of things as long as you work in an at will employment state. In those situations you are completely out. I should know as I paid one pediatricians appointment out of pocket.
      I won't share the name of the company. It's a major software company headquartered in the Bay area with a significant legal department.
      Sep 4
    • Cox Communications zoink99
      They absolutely can stuff your benefits immediately, and yes, dick move.
      Sep 5
  • Morgan Stanley
    Vicebird18

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    Vicebird18more
    Just say you are following your passion to work as a scuba instructor in Costa Rica. They will all be so jealous
    Sep 4 0
  • Okta Lffo32
    "I will be sure to update you when I am settled in." NEVER say where you are going. You'll have a million people try to convince you not to go (everything from a friend hated it there to they're going to be acquired.)
    Sep 4 2
    • Splunk / Eng ImaRainbow
      Yes, this ^^^. I told my previous boss I was headed for Splunk. He started telling me all the stories he had about Splunk’s earlier days. Things I just really didn’t need to hear.
      Sep 4
    • Tesla / Eng shotgun1
      They might try to convince you but that's ok. That's not a bad thing. You have to realize that a friend hating it there is quite a subjective experience. Every place out there has something bad about it. Knowing such things makes you prepared for the new job than being blindsided. Take the info, don't give into the panic, move onto the new job and beware of the warnings, anticipate and navigate around them.
      Sep 4
  • EPAM Systems / Eng
    knako!MF2E

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    knako!MF2Emore
    Never underestimate a-hole managers and vicious colleagues..
    Sep 4 1
    • Paychex poochex
      I have one asshole manager in a different company called paychex
      Sep 5
  • Chase
    ptgi36

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    ptgi36more
    You shouldn’t believe the urban legends of “my manager ruined my offer.”

    Do you honestly think your manager has that kind of power? If he called them he’d actually get them on the phone and convince them not to take you? That’s pretty elaborate and far fetched, honestly.
    Sep 4 14
    • Chase
      ptgi36

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      ptgi36more
      Yea, we probably shouldn’t drive cars either because sometimes there are car accidents.
      Sep 4
    • Twitch nonezo
      For example, let's say I pointed a gun at you, that only has a 1% chance of having a bullet in it. Would you let me pull the trigger?

      I wouldn't want that to happen to me, even if the chance is only 1% of me being shot.
      Sep 4
    • Twitch nonezo
      Your example is bad, because there are massive benefits to driving a car. So the risk is worth it, problably worth it.

      Perhaps someone doesn't think that there are any benefits to telling their ex boss where their new job is.

      There could be no benefit, and only a risk.
      Sep 4
    • Chase
      ptgi36

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      ptgi36more
      Once again, you’re overdramatizing and inflating a bias in the numbers. It’s probably more like 0.0000001% chance of them trying to blow up your offer compared to all of the times that it DOESN’T happen. Brush up on statistics and take off your tinfoil hat. Turning off notifications for this childish nonsense haha, live in fear forever.
      Sep 5
    • Bloomberg jdxR17
      Read the main thread. At this point it turned into a sort of #metoo - screwed by management.
      Sep 5
  • Amazon crushcandy
    Tell them to keep hitting refresh on LinkedIn.
    Sep 4 3
    • OpenDoor HWyz21
      LOOOL!!! YES I LOVE IT!!!😂😂😂
      Sep 4
    • LinkedIn Zeiwkf5
      We love it too
      Sep 4
    • Centric Consulting / Consultant Annelise
      Perfect!
      Sep 4
  • New / Eng
    WGmH13

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    WGmH13more
    Does it matter? You gonna update your LinkedIn in a week
    Sep 4 1
    • New / Eng ubtyucf
      Why does he need to update his LinkedIn..
      He could update after say the first 3 months
      Sep 5
  • The Hartford RedHorn
    You can give some random name saying I have couple of offer from a,b,c whoever pays more will join there.
    Sep 4 1
    • Oracle / Eng (Q)anon
      Tell them your going to Hooli
      Sep 4