Resigning

ViaSat qjoxke
Jun 10 55 Comments

I am about to give in my two week notice to resign. I am so f**king nervous. This is my first time resigning from a job.

Edit:
I have accepted another offer and ready to join. Nervous because this is my first time resigning and my manager is a nice person, even gave me a salary bump two weeks ago.

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  • Tesla Hdhaga
    Just play the ‘it’s not you it’s me’ card. Act super grateful and let them know it’s an opportunity you did not want to pass up on. Let him know that he was a great manager and enjoyed all that he taught you and did for you (bonus points if you can recall actual events or things he’s passed onto you) - he will LOVE that. Managers are *usually* understanding about these things.
    Jun 10 1
    • SpaceX ex-banned
      This guy fucks

      Most of these things apply to breaking up as well :P
      Jun 10
  • IBM ut3d4
    Yo, I feel ya, but after your first resignation you’ll learn to be excited about turning those suckers in
    Jun 10 0
  • Veritas old tiger
    It’s a business and treat it like so . They would drop you like a rock in bad times. Just do it professionally.
    Jun 10 3
    • Cadence / Product
      luna.

      Cadence Product

      BIO
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      luna.more
      This.Business that's all.
      Jun 10
    • Cisco Smileyss23
      Literally this.
      If you are manager is a nice person. Thank him. Also try to be in contact with him even after you leave the company obviously if he wants to. After all he is also just an employee of that company not owner/CEO of the company
      Jun 10
    • Cisco / Eng
      ImOffended

      Cisco Eng

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      Microsoft, Northrop Grumman
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      I.O.T Software Engineer.
      ImOffendedmore
      I got dropped like a fuckin rock once. Hurt bad for two months, then I learned ....... fuck em.
      Jun 10
  • Grab 102948
    What’s the worst thing that can happen?
    Jun 10 4
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      No idea. We don’t have security within the building so don’t think I would get escorted out but who knows.
      Jun 10
    • Amazon gdxi4nd
      He gets fired.
      Jun 10
    • Grab 102948
      It’s gonna be fine. I’m sure no one expects you to work there forever.
      Jun 10
    • Netflix razorlab
      Op gets talked into staying based on lies and emotions.
      Jun 10
  • New / R&D 🍻ilkebeer
    Rip the bandaid off, nothing bad will happen. Try not to identify the company as the people you interact with, think of it as a giant behemoth that wants to chew you up and spit you out.
    Jun 10 6
    • IBM ut3d4
      I’ve heard other people suggest that I shouldn’t disclose the company I’m moving to. Why is that? Just because they’ll have an opinion about it? Or is there another reason?
      Jun 10
    • New / R&D 🍻ilkebeer
      Hmm, I'm not sure. Eventually they could just check your updated LinkedIn anyways. Sometimes they might bad mouth the new company and try to convince you stay I suppose.
      Jun 10
    • IBM ut3d4
      Just wondering if there are more malicious things they could do, like reach out to the other company and bad mouth me to get the offer revoked.

      If it won’t affect the offer I don’t care at all who knows where I’m going.
      Jun 10
    • New / R&D 🍻ilkebeer
      That would be shitty if they did, but why should they care about any 1 person, were all replaceable.
      Jun 10
    • Qualcomm NqAf57
      It's better to not tell your current employer where you're going so that there is a lot less chance that your new employer will be seen as a direct competitor and you get fired on the spot. The notice period you give (usually 2 weeks) is often a nice relaxing wind down where you get to take it easy and still get paid with benefits.
      Jun 10
    • Tableau heavenish
      If in California non-compete won't affect you. Trying not to tell is usually the best thing.
      Jun 10
  • Uber bаg
    This is what is going to happen.

    First have something in writing to make it official. Then you go talk to your manager and hand her the letter and say that you just wanted to let her know that you are resigning.

    Tell her that you love the job but another opportunity came up that you can’t pass up.

    If you are well liked she will say something like “well let me see what I can do to keep you here.” Don’t take the offer. You’re leaving for a reason. If they somehow dump a lot more TC on you, then you should be pissed that it took you resigning for them to do that.

    If she wishes you good luck, then that’s great. Don’t take it personally or think they don’t value you.

    Tell your coworkers, add them to your LinkedIn and KEEP IN TOUCH. This is the hardest part but keeping in touch is the most useful thing you can do.

    Finish up all your shit, leave on a great note. On your last day go up to your boss and shake her hand, thank her for all of the opportunity and say “I hope I get an chance to work with you in the future.”

    And then enjoy your weekend and go to your new job refreshed and ready to work your ass off.
    Jun 10 5
    • New / R&D 🍻ilkebeer
      Ignore this. This advice is for betas.

      Just throw up the middle finger and tell them to fuck off like an alpha. Then they'll understand that you're desirable in the market and they'll overpay if you ever want to come back.
      Jun 10
    • Apple wonderingy
      I think thats a great advice.
      Jun 10
    • Adobe / Eng lemontea
      Do people still do letters? People around me inform in a 1 on 1 with manager and then send an email
      Jun 10
    • Intel D’s🥜
      Anyone who claims that they/something is “alpha” isn’t an “alpha”
      Jun 11
    • New / R&D 🍻ilkebeer
      Anyone who claims that someone isnt alpha for saying something is alpha isn't alpha
      Jun 11
  • ViaSat qjoxke
    OP
    Got it off my chest. Went smooth. Thanked my manager and the company. Told my manager that it was time for me to move on. Adrenaline rush still coming.
    Jun 10 3
    • Apple wonderingy
      What did she say? Tell the whole story
      Jun 10
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      My manager just said that this is understandable and told me to write an official email to HR and we will go from there. Only a ten minute talk.
      Jun 10
    • Apple wonderingy
      Seems straightforward
      Jun 10
  • Apple wonderingy
    Remember as much as you work for a company, you also need to work for yourself. Recognizing your own talent and worth is a beautiful thing you can do yourself and your family.

    What you are feeling is a guilt of leaving something behind, but thats always temporary. It goes away. At the end of the day, you should know your worth and have goals to achieve.
    Jun 10 0
  • United Wholesale Mortgage / Eng
    zpyM13

    United Wholesale Mortgage Eng

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    General Motors, United Wholesale Mortgage
    zpyM13more
    The worst that can happen is they fire you on the spot 😆
    Jun 10 0
  • New / Eng hustlerboy
    I yearn for times like these. After your first time you will love subsequent times. Given of course that you have another offer in hand.
    Jun 10 4
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      Why would you like these?
      Jun 10
    • New / Eng hustlerboy
      Because I like going to better and better places? 🤔
      Jun 10
    • New / Eng hustlerboy
      Just to clarify, this wasn’t about job hopping. What I meant was when you move to better companies.
      Jun 10
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      Oh! I thought you meant you like resigning to your manager😬😬
      Jun 10
  • Netflix razorlab
    Just stop showing up. They’ll get the hint eventually.
    Jun 10 0
  • Activision Blizzard 86753on
    Send your resignation notice to HR immediately upon getting up to go to your 1:1 with your manager.

    That way if the manager tries to fire you during the 1:1 you can say “lol nope”. And it is close enough to the start of your 1:1 that HR can’t contact the manager and spill the beans.
    Jun 10 6
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      What’s the difference between getting fired and resigning? Both of them eventually are all terminated employment status.
      Jun 10
    • IBM ut3d4
      How should I handle that in a company where the only way to talk to hr is to go through the manager first?
      Jun 10
    • United Wholesale Mortgage / Eng
      zpyM13

      United Wholesale Mortgage Eng

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      General Motors, United Wholesale Mortgage
      zpyM13more
      Getting fired usually includes severance
      Jun 10
    • Activision Blizzard 86753on
      Getting laid off usually has severance.
      Getting fired doesn’t.

      Resigning and getting laid off are positive exits.

      Getting fired is a negative exit. (Which can impact your ability to rejoin in the future, and if you are overly honest could impact your ability to get your immediate next job)
      Jun 10
    • Activision Blizzard 86753on
      IBM, I doubt that HR blocks emails... so find out who your representative is and email them.
      And I’d say a company that prohibits taking to HR until you’ve talked to your manager is shit. How would you raise concerns about the manager? Lmao
      Jun 10
    • IBM ut3d4
      I’ve wondered that since beginning here. Ibm has automated away any real hr contact. It’s all chat bots and bullshit that gets you nowhere.

      The only way I’ve found to talk to a real person is through a manager
      Jun 10
  • Juniper sfgiant0
    I always fail to understand why people quit a nice job with a nice manager.
    7d 2
    • Grab 102948
      Everyone wants to earn more money. What’s so difficult to understand?
      7d
    • Activision Blizzard 86753on
      Some people want to get new skills on new tech too
      7d
  • HP / IT SphF25
    Assuming you already have another offer you accepted?
    Jun 10 1
  • Microsoft / Eng
    hmboy17

    Microsoft Eng

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    Dell, Cognizant
    hmboy17more
    Why are you leaving? Do you have an offer from some one else? If so what’s the nervousness about?
    Jun 10 1
    • ViaSat qjoxke
      OP
      I have an offer. Nervous because this is my first time resigning. Manager was nice to me and even gave me a salary bump two weeks ago.
      Jun 10
  • Disney / Eng
    mav.rick

    Disney Eng

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    The Walt Disney Company
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    Software Engineer
    mav.rickmore
    I just turned in my two weeks notice 2 fridays ago... I was shaking my boots but managed to get through it and have a meaningful conversation–this is my last week.

    I love my manager, he was sad to see me go but happily supported my decision to pursue my career goals.

    If they’re decent people, they’ll understand. Good luck!
    Jun 10 0
  • Magic Leap / Eng _^__^_
    You already had every opportunity you needed to develop a good relationship with your coworkers. I wouldn't worry about what comes after. The people who you care about will still like you.
    Jun 10 0
  • Avaya / Eng
    acm1pt

    Avaya Eng

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    Amazon
    acm1ptmore
    Jueves
    Jun 10 0
  • Cisco / Eng
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    Cisco Eng

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    Take it easy
    Jun 10 0

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