She won’t say ILY

New / Product dangrin
Nov 10 76 Comments

Been in a relationship for 2.5 years, living together for most of that time. I’m 32, she’s 24. Its going well, sex is great, energy is high and we have fun together.

The only thing that’s messing with me is that she won’t say “I love you” ever. Even after I’ve said it, she redirects convo or laughs that she didnt say it back.

In other news, she often subtly or directly hints to increase TC or GTFO.

Thoughts?

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TOP 76 Comments
  • New scheme
    She has more to lose considering she is 24. She's keeping her options open.
    Nov 10 9
    • SAP nd56j
      Precisely. Having MORE time is not a loss.

      Your initial statement said "she has more to LOSE". That seems to imply that, overall, SHE would lose more if this relationship broke up, which is NOT true.
      Nov 10
    • New scheme
      Haha. I see that 11 others understood my point just fine but will try one last time.

      If she settles now then she is going to lose the "MORE" time she has before she potentially settles.
      Nov 10
    • Facebook dafud
      Lol.

      3rd party.

      She has less to lose by not committing, but more to lose if she settles.

      You re both saying the same thing.
      Nov 10
    • SAP nd56j
      dafud & scheme, thanks, I'd understood we were getting at the same thing, but the verbiage was quite confusing, esp. considering the thrust of the convo in OP's own words was about 'GTFO' (aka NOT SETTLING), NOT on settling.
      Nov 10
    • Microsoft MMKy42
      Nerds.
      Nov 10
  • Apple vxhshndn
    She’s right!

    TC or GTFO
    Nov 10 1
    • Publicis rXgY16
      What is TC and GTFO?
      Nov 10
  • Cisco 🍔✉️
    Sounds like you’re due a PIP
    Nov 10 0
  • Amazon rockNrol
    She don’t wanna marry u bro leave her
    Nov 10 4
    • New / Product dangrin
      OP
      I know, she does really want to get married though!
      Nov 10
    • Cisco 🍔✉️
      Not to you..
      Nov 10
    • Amazon rockNrol
      Trust me I was in her shoes I never told someone I love u becuz I actually was not in love with them
      Nov 10
    • Cisco 🍔✉️
      Ok buddy
      Nov 10
  • Microsoft alt - f4
    Sounds like you already know it’s time for you to GTFO
    Nov 10 0
  • Hulu TrNf5340
    She doesn't love you so save yourself & GTFO because she's obviously there for the TC and not you
    Nov 10 0
  • Microsoft / Eng Jebxjrl
    I guess she doesn't love you if she isn't willing to say it. If you force it she may say it and not mean it.

    Maybe it's time to leave that relationship if she doesn't love you and that's what you want?
    Nov 10 0
  • New / Product dangrin
    OP
    So we’ve had marriage talks before she seems down
    Nov 10 10
    • New / Product dangrin
      OP
      No, not a lot it’s 95k
      Nov 10
    • Expedia Group myfcr74
      Ya...I’m confused OP. Course if she’s in school any $$ is a lot to her. Just talk to her about it. Maybe she just has some weird awkwardness in saying it
      Nov 10
    • Amazon rice_eater
      Well, why do you guys think she is sorta gold digger???
      Nov 10
    • New Y17
      I don’t think she’s a gold digger. I think she’s just awkward or has some deeper issues when it comes to love.
      Nov 10
    • Amazon rice_eater
      ^— yes, I agree. We don’t know OP’s background and her background so it’s hard to say. For example, asian females don’t often say “i love you” out loud
      Nov 10
  • Amazon rice_eater
    How did you meet her? Dating apps?
    Nov 10 4
    • New / Product dangrin
      OP
      Approached her at a bar
      Nov 10
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      Even worse! 😂 She was probably looking for a ONS 😂
      Nov 10
    • Amazon rice_eater
      What is ons?
      Nov 10
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      One Night Stand
      Nov 10
  • General Motors tchh
    Please break up with her. She is not after you, she is after your money. She wants a loaded guy not someone who is in love with her. Move on.
    Nov 10 0
  • Microsoft PkachuFace
    It’s because shes not climaxing
    Nov 10 0
  • Veritas dogyear
    Ask her to marry you... if she says no then you got your answer
    Nov 10 3
    • Amazon rice_eater
      What if he doesn’t want yet.
      Nov 10
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      Nope. Wrong approach. She can't even say ILY why would she say YES to that?

      OP, don't embarrass & belittle yourself. Just move on. Break it off and start off your life. This is wasting your life
      Nov 10
    • Microsoft °🍎🐛°
      And if it's a yes, he's got a bigger problem to solve anyways
      Nov 11
  • Apple
    TWB-gold

    Apple

    BIO
    Software engineer
    TWB-goldmore
    Sounds like it’s time to find a new GF. But before you do, tell her that you’ll break up with her if she doesn’t start saying I love you
    Nov 10 1
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      Agree with first part but not the second. Leave her and tell her you're leaving her because she's a golddigger. She might then ILY just to keep you around but that's when you drop it and move on. Have self respect for yourself and find yourself a good woman
      Nov 10
  • Amazon zVjh74
    Maybe just ask her about it?
    Nov 10 0
  • Bloomberg GO<GO>
    What's her TC? If it's low and you're paying for most or all of her expenses, then you need to ditch this gold digger asap and find a real relationship
    Nov 10 4
    • New / Product dangrin
      OP
      She’s a student, I am actually not paying her expenses though.
      Nov 10
    • Bloomberg GO<GO>
      That's good. Then ask her about it. Does seem odd
      Nov 10
    • Autodesk ratts
      Just because you’re not paying her expenses doesn’t mean you won’t. Gold diggers are pretty careful about hiding their true nature till you get into a position where she has a leveraged, pregnancy, marriage etc. I’m just saying that she could be a gold digger because she doesn’t seem to be that into you yet is in a relationship with you.
      Nov 10
    • Bloomberg GO<GO>
      I forgot that she is asking him to increase his TC. That means she's definitely a gold digger, especially since she's a student who contributes nothing financially to the relationship.

      I'm sorry OP, but you need to ditch this b*tch asap
      Nov 11
  • New grindr
    Well at least she's honest.
    Nov 11 0
  • New Sonat
    She is not just into you enough to say ILY, she is just having a fling. She is just 24 what else do you expect ? I can understand you are 32 and might be wanting to settle down in due course of time, but it’s unlikely it’s going to be with her
    Nov 10 0
  • New Y17
    She’s honest and she’s telling you exactly what she wants. Appreciate that.
    Nov 10 0
  • New
    .🥶🥶🥶..

    New

    BIO
    C++ or bust
    .🥶🥶🥶..more
    Danny boy, she doesn’t love you. That’s something you can’t control, even if you had a higher TC she won’t love you.

    What you can control is what you do next.
    Nov 10 1
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      Which is your leave her and find yourself a good woman who you can love trust marry and start a family with
      Nov 10
  • Uber GAEX46
    Been in that exact spot..and eventually broke up. I wouldn't recommend pushing for commitment either..that's her job to do. I would try to back off a bit instead of being a doormat and evaluate other options while keeping her on the side. Once you are in a stronger spot and have a few women in the picture..you can give her a chance and see what she has to stay. Stop living together asap!
    Nov 11 0

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