Should I give very early notice before I have a job offer (that I want)?
So tldr is that I am under extreme emotional and physiological assault and I need to improve my mental health ASAP. Right now I got a crappy Tier 3 offer that I accepted, and I'm still hitting FAANG in the hopes of getting one before 2019 (when the Tier 3 job starts) - so will renege if I get Tier 1 offer. I want to give 1 month or more notice to my company because I want them to LEAVE ME ALONE. I am periodically taking vacations to interview in the last few weeks, but they won't leave me alone. I got 3 teams hounding me to lead them on projects and its causing a lot of mental accounting load, and because I have to think about work deadlines, how long I can hide my productivity drop, etc. Should I give very early notice and just quit in Dec? I don't give a fuck if they fire me on that day.. lol honestly I'll be so happy. I got too many things on my head now and I really don't have the bandwidth to deal with work nonsense.
If the current job is draining your health this much, i would quit ASAP unless you have any visa issues or very low savings.
No Visa or savings issues... I know the Golden rule is never quit your job before you have one lined up.. well I sort of have one just not that one I want
Quit if you must, but developing the skill to cope with the situation might have some benefit later on. Seems like the company sees you positively, and you might be burnt out. What are the lessons you can take with you later on?
Well looking at this objectively the biggest issue is that all my projects are new during this search so I have to real work to show some progress. I suppose if I had a pre-existing project, I can accumulate and front load work progress then slowly release it bit by bit as I interview, so maintaining the cover that work is being done.
No need to do that. You need to learn how to say No to people. If you don't learn, you are going to have a really bad fucking time at FANG. Just tell everyone at the company that you're currently busy with other stuff and can't help them. Easy peasy.
I tried to do that but my manager chased me down and strongly convinced me not too. Also my org is project based, if I say no to all projects, then I don't get paid and my manager gets into trouble as HR will ask why this guy is not working on any projects. All my projects are new also, so I don't have accumulated work that I can release bit by bit
You sound like someone that's very generous with their time. People will keep expecting that of you. And they might take advantage of that. Guard your time viciously. Take on a project, but work only on one item at a time. And take it easy! What are they going to do? Fire you in the next 2 months? đ Since you already have a project, you can say I'm busy to new requests Don't answer email/calls after work hours or when on vacation unless you're oncall. You have to set boundaries or people will walk all over you. Specifically your bosses. It's their job to get as much work out of you as possible
Is money an issue? If you are having really bad time, you can quit any moment. That will give you some good time to prepare for tier 1 interview. If money is an issue or you can survive, give your 2 weeks notice in a way that you end a job and start another one.
Give me one good reason not to resign that is more imp than your mental health ?
Tldr
Quit asap