Should I live in Mountain View or SF as a single girl in 20s?

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Hi all, looking for advice here. I’ll be moving to the Bay Area soon to join a company in Mountain View.

I’m weighing between living in downtown Mountain View near the office, or living in SF near the Caltrain (considering SoMa).

I am looking at 2.5 hrs commute VS 15 mins commute here. I don’t drive so not considering other places.

I’m 26 and single. Pretty social. I don’t really have friends there. I’ll be moving from NYC. Some people said I should live in MTV since it will be a change of scene from NYC, while some said I will not get used to the suburb life. Given my situation what would you guys choose? And what is/was your experience?

Thanks everyone!

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  • Microsoft
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    Prepare to be hit on by 10s of dudes each day or stabbed by 10s of needles depending on what you pick.
    Aug 13 1
    • New / Eng vscode2044
      As an individual born and raised in Tennessee, this went over my big dumb head. Could someone disambiguate?
      Aug 13
  • Uber uZ9mM
    I recommend you live in MTV for the first 6 months, while you settle into your new job. Visit SF regularly during this time to see if you like it enough to take on a 2.5h commute.
    Aug 13 1
    • WeWork / Data
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      Thank you! I think I’m gonna do this
      Aug 15
  • Twitter drugdealer
    NYC is always better for dating
    Aug 13 6
    • Twitter drugdealer
      Did you have an opposite experience otherwise? Genuinely curious
      Aug 13
    • Axtria Atin'laid2
      It's good for guys, especially those who want to keep it transient
      Aug 13
    • Uber / Eng zhdbwb
      Bad for women, good for guys as gender balance is skewed towards women 55/45
      Aug 13
    • WeWork / Data
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      OP
      Yeah gender ratio is like 6:4. And literally EVERY girl is attractive here. It’s easy to date around, but I’m pretty much done with that stage and don’t want to waste my time on guys who would never settle.
      Aug 13
    • Axtria Atin'laid2
      Yes I second that
      Aug 13
  • Microsoft techladki
    Who would anyone waste 2.5 hours on commute if you can just do it in 15!
    If you value productive time,this probably doesn't need a poll.
    Aug 13 4
    • Apple / Eng /el/
      You clearly don’t understand. It’s about so much more than just the commute.
      Aug 13
    • Microsoft techladki
      Whatever it is, if you are losing 2.5 hours of productive time, you don't value time much
      Aug 13
    • Apple / Eng /el/
      If you had to drive that’s one thing. But sitting in a cushy bus with wifi means it’s easy to be productive. I use that time to read/respond to emails, and take care of personal chores like ordering groceries and such.
      Aug 13
    • Microsoft techladki
      Makes sense, anything without those WIFI buses it wouldn't be as productive.

      May be a bit better with those buses
      Aug 13
  • ConocoPhillips fisshy
    600 hours a year you will lose to commuting.

    25 days.
    Aug 13 1
    • Microsoft techladki
      Apparently some people don't value time.
      Somewhat understandable if you have buses with WIFI
      Aug 13
  • eBay nbsnsj
    Why no TC or GTFO? Girls get a pas here I guess 😂😂
    Aug 13 2
    • Microsoft techladki
      I thought women were discriminated against in tech? At least it's the other way around on this thread
      Aug 13
    • eBay nbsnsj
      Key points “single female”, “26 pretty social”, “from NYC”, “how do I make friends in South Bay”... 🤣🤣🤣
      Aug 13
  • Facebook
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    I would live in Mountain View. I’ve been doing an hour and a half each way commute every day and it is not fun! You can always drive into the city to do things. Trust me the commute gets old!
    Aug 13 1
  • Apple / Eng /el/
    And don’t mind the SF haters. Yes the city has its issues, but they’re blown out of proportion by those who don’t live there. Yes there are sometimes needles, but I’ve never been “stabbed” by one, and TBH in 2 years I’ve only seen a few. Yes, the homeless can be challenging, but they won’t hurt you and if you kindly tell them you don’t have spare change they’ll leave you alone. But mostly, the city is beautiful and full of amazing people. (The photo was taken in the Presidio just a few days ago)
    Aug 13 2
    • Oracle Lunchmeat
      Yes and you photoshopped out all the dog shit ppl leave behind.
      Aug 13
    • WeWork / Data
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      I mean coming from NYC I had my fair share of encounters w the homeless, so not really an issue for me. Where in SF do you live, and do you commute to Cupertino daily?
      Aug 13
  • Google vkg38472
    Both will be a letdown coming from nyc. Just take the shorter commute
    Aug 13 3
    • Adobe LightYrs
      I totally agree. I grew up in upstate NY and no matter which “major” city I go to in the US, nothing tops NYC.

      San Francisco is lovely, don’t get me wrong, but I would take the first year and really focus on work and life in MTV. The OP can always commute into the city for fun on the weekends.

      IMHO, it’s much easier to check out MTV first and then, after a year, move to SF then to start in SF and move to SF. Why? Because I’ve done the cross-country move where you know no one and it’s hard. If you’re near work, you can at least have your base of work friends to start with.
      Aug 13
    • WeWork / Data
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      Thank you! This advice is really solid. Think imma do that.
      Aug 15
    • Adobe LightYrs
      Best of luck! Let us know how it turns out.
      Aug 15
  • Apple / Eng /el/
    SF all the way. It’s suburbs vs the city, so unless you have a family and a dog the city will suit you better (I think).
    Aug 13 2
    • Cisco ThBeatles
      SF is the most dog friendly city in the US. So, having a dog doesn't stop anyone from living in the city
      Aug 13
    • Apple / Eng /el/
      Totally, more so I just mean the suburbs are built around families. And TBH I think it’s more fair to the dog to live in the suburbs. Plus, I’m fairly certain that the urine smell so many complain about is entirely from dogs, not humans.
      Aug 13
  • Oracle Lunchmeat
    Stay out of SF. Only place I have been where seeing a chained bloody dildo laying on the street was considered 'commonplace'
    Aug 13 0
  • Adobe LightYrs
    As someone who commutes in Seattle, it sucks spending 2.5-3 hours in a day by car. The question is how much time, out of your day, do you want to spend commuting?
    Aug 13 2
    • WeWork / Data
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      I really don’t know. I heard Caltrain is not that bad at all since you can always get a seat and just work on the train.
      Aug 13
    • Google vkg38472
      Caltrain and bart are much better than mta but are not as far reaching and convenient
      Aug 13
  • Facebook tantan85
    Sign a 6 month lease in MTV as you adjust to the new job, new life here. Hit up the city on weekends. Re-assess after 6 months after you’ve become familiar with both and decide then which would be preferable for your lifestyle.
    Aug 13 1
    • WeWork / Data
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      Thank you! I think I’m gonna go with this option ☺️
      Aug 15
  • Bloomberg 1048482919
    Mountain View for the short commute. If the commute times were more similar, I'd definitely pick SF
    Aug 13 0
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    Live near work go to the city on weekends
    Aug 13 0
  • WeWork RPvk36
    MTV. Soma is a dump and feels like a suburb anyway. Weekdays you won’t have time to do anything in the city and on weekends it’s crowded with lines everywhere. SF will be a let down if you are coming from NY. Also the streets are more dirty, lots of petty crime, getting robbed is a real risk and the homeless situation is insane.
    Aug 13 3
    • Bloomberg 1048482919
      Get out of SOMA. Aside from the Tenderloin, downtown, Bayview and parts of the Mission, the rest of SF is clean, beautiful and homeless-free. It amazes me how many people on this app seemingly never venture out of those neighborhoods.
      Aug 14
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      Thanks wework fella! 🙏
      Aug 15
    • Bloomberg 1048482919
      If you believe SOMA is all SF has to offer, then I guess you deserve to live in MTV. I'd live in SF over NYC any day
      Aug 15
  • Oscar 🐨koala
    Used to live in MTV near downtown for a company as intern several years ago. It was safest place I have ever been to. Used to leave work at 12am or walk back to work at 3am. But I am a guy so... but down town can be really boring... only clubs and resturants. Things might have changed.
    Aug 13 2
    • Microsoft techladki
      What more is there in the city, especially on weekdays?
      Aug 13
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      I mean, SF is a bigger place. Say you live in Sunset, you will be traveling all the way to the west. A lot more to see than MTV Downtown.
      Aug 13
  • SOMA is, has been and always will be a cesspool full of crackheads.
    Sep 11 0
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    You can do a lot of things during the long commuting. Reading books, listening to podcasts, emailing or working. Having 2.5 hours of book reading time everyday will change your life.
    Aug 15 0
  • Expedia Group khureshiA
    Don't any of you guys feel sick while working on laptops and phones in buses. I feel too heavy headed whenever there is acceleration or steering.
    Aug 14 0