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Should you get a prenup for marriage

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Nov 29

Some say yes, some say no. Let’s see what blind says

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  • Compass / Eng
    FUPayMe

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    Yes. 100%. Every. Single. Time.
    Nov 290
  • Oracle Run..Run
    If you have to get into Prenup that means you don’t trust your partner.. Marriage is human and emotional matter, don’t connect it to stupid TC, net worth etc.. @op, If you have prenup thoughts, don’t get married!
    Nov 296
    • Amazon lolwhat
      If marriage is human and emotional matter, disconnected from net worth and TC, then divorces shouldn't have anything to do with money at all.
      Love and relationship is a human, emotional matter. Marriage on the other hand, is legal matter.
      Nov 29
    • TripAdvisor owlwise
      Oracle, what a stupid comment
      Nov 29
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Boohoo. And robbing your husband blind when you’re getting a divorce is also human and emotional matter so it’s totally fair, right? (B*otch!)
      Nov 29
    • Oracle Run..Run
      Yeah it may sounds stupid to few intelligent people but The problem is, if you get into marriage with an agreement that is not a marriage but a contract.

      Why would you bother in that case? Just go to strip clubs, hookers and Restaurants as I believe you don’t see any emotional sentiments anyway, do you?
      Nov 29
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Why are you trying to pull the wool over our eyes? Marriage is already a contract even if you don’t personally sign a prenup. The government has already signed a default version of that contract for you, specifying things like alimony, property division, child support, responsibilities, etc. in the event of a divorce. You can pretend it doesn’t exist because nobody brings it to your attention during the wedding, but ignoring it doesn’t make it disappear.

      If you believe in pure love without contracts, then better don’t get married. Otherwise, “just go to strip clubs, hookers and Restaurants (???)”.
      Nov 29
    • TripAdvisor owlwise
      Marriage isn't a contract? You literally have to sign and register when you get married. How the hell did you even get married?

      You're talking like a 15 year old or a preteen, its obvious from your immaturity you should never get married
      Nov 30
  • Procore / EngLovemyson
    Clinical psychotherapist, Mia Adler Ozair, lists "Thou Shalt Not Mention the ‘D’ Word" as one of his ten marriage commandments. "If you are serious about wanting to build a long-lasting, loving relationship, then [divorce] can simply not enter the vocabulary in a relationship," Ozair says. "Trust is built by knowing that regular marital issues that arise during the course of all relationships will be met with a true desire to communicate." The threat of leaving, or that one or both of you might opt out of the marriage, creates a hostile environment for trust and love to flourish.
    Nov 295
    • Salesforce VjJn37
      It’s an even more hostile environment when one partner cheats on the other and then runs off with 50% of the assets even though they didn’t contribute to that nestegg.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon lolwhat
      Of course Mia Ozair says that. A woman must avoid a pre-nup at all costs, and men must do it no matter what. Because the laws are heavily biased against men.
      Nov 29
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

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      FUPayMemore
      So your advice boils down to burying your head in the sand. Got it.
      Nov 29
    • Procore / EngLovemyson
      If you go into a marriage with that mindset guy are doomed. Just because someone cheats doesn’t mean you get divorced. You try to work through it. When you get married there is no more mine it becomes we. I know it may seem cheesy and old fashioned but having that mindset will ensure your marriage is on a solid foundation. Every single marriage/relationship has major struggles that could warrant divorce. The difference between those couples that stay together and those that don’t is a willingness to work things out. Of course I am not talking a abuse. Most couples doesn’t divorce for those reasons.
      Nov 29
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

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      FUPayMemore
      Divorce rates are roughly 50%. That’s a coin flip. If you were looking at an investment that had a 50% chance of failure you wouldn’t want some contingencies in place?
      Nov 29
  • NAVEX Global HollaBackG
    Both men and women can make high salaries these days. It makes sense to protect both the husband and wife.
    Nov 293
    • Amazon lolwhat
      Doesn't matter who makes what money. The laws are heavily biased against men.
      Nov 29
    • NAVEX Global HollaBackG
      Well that’s because, traditionally, women relied on their husbands for their livelihood. So the laws reflect that a man can’t just walk away and leave his wife penniless.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon lolwhat
      Sure. I understand the reason, makes perfect sense. And the laws will be unbiased again in a generation or so when there's true gender equality.
      But until then, during this transition period, a lot of men are gonna get screwed.
      Nov 29
  • BlackBerry / Other
    WillMorris

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    Doesn’t make much sense unless you are high net worth
    Nov 292
    • Nielsen / Eng
      userperson

      NielsenEng

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      It always makes sense. People change. Preparation mitigates unexpected change.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon lolwhat
      What he meant was, doesn't make sense if you're the wife.
      Nov 29
  • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
    It depends. If you both have your own assets at the time, it’s a good idea. If you have an imbalance of assets, I’ve seen it backfire (since it’s meant to protect that person’s assets. If you have very few assets, there’s no point unless you want to stipulate other conditions in the event of separation. All traditional Jewish weddings have this in their marriage contract, which was designed to protect women, their rights and standing in the community, and give them an income to live off in the event that they separated.
    Nov 298
    • Amazon lolwhat
      The assets keep changing. For instance, most people buy a house after getting married. And for most people that's the largest asset they'll ever possess.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      In most states anything after marriage is communal property. Prenups I believe only make guarantees about past property, or how assets are divided in the event of a separation.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Not true. A good prenup can nullify communal property law.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      Why would the other spouse even think of signing it then?
      Nov 29
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Because the first spouse may not want to marry them if they don’t sign? If somebody came and told me “You either give me half of your assets or I won’t marry you”, then I’d personally walk away.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      That’s why I think prenup is good for assets before marriage. Anything after should be joint. That’s about as far as I would go on either side of the argument.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Not really. Why should it be joint? Separate finances and joint expenses based on mutual agreement is the way to go.

      Think of it this way: “Why would one spouse be entitled to the appreciation of the assets of the other?” A stock or real estate may go 50% up before divorce and then 50% down after a divorce without any of the spouses contributing to these changes of value. Why should any redistribution happen? Communal property and alimony are the biggest scams ever. Does your employer pay you alimony when you decide to leave and end the business relationship?
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      I see it differently. My spouse does things so I can do different ones. By putting my time into the investment, I got that gain—with her help. If you buy a house and she does all of the maintenance and such, keeping it in good shape, who gets the money then? You for choosing it or her for maintaining it in a state where it can be sold? Your argument doesn’t hold any water.

      While I wouldn’t do one myself, I completely understand having assets from before the marriage remain individual assets.

      But Jeff, in his case, I think you’re wrong.
      Nov 29
  • Intel UrMomma
    A no would be a sign of significant ignorance.
    Nov 290
  • Cisco / ITvzIq77
    How about getting married in your home country and not registering it in the US? This obviously won’t work for common law marriage states though.
    Nov 295
    • Google ReadMyName
      We chose the other way around. Any paperwork / litigation related to marriage is worse in my beloved home country.
      Nov 29
    • Cisco / ITvzIq77
      The whole point is so that the divorce wouldn’t take place in the US court system.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon lolwhat
      The court systems are even worse in third world countries.
      Nov 29
    • Cisco Hdhevecud
      How does this work? You marry in your home country but live in the US. Which implies you are living in the US on a visa. How is your SO living with you? On a dependent visa as your SO? Maybe your SO is a US citizen, then not “registering it”?
      Also still sounds like fraud when you fill in legal paperwork (like USCIS/tax stuff) saying you are unmarried.
      Nov 29
    • Cisco / ITvzIq77
      Ah, maybe I should have stated that my idea assumes both are US citizens. I can see how things would be vastly different if that was not the case.
      Nov 29
  • Microsoft MrRobotron
    I ain’t saying she a gold digger,but she ain’t messin’ with no broke...
    Nov 290
  • Capital One / Mgmt
    mokka!!!

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    mokka!!!more
    If you are in India never marry Indian girls as they usually file fake cases on men and usually marry to get GC in US else for other girls obviously... we are living in the era of feminism and you will be punished for no reason if women think so...

    Just check https://www.saveindianfamily.org/
    Nov 292
    • Amazon lolwhat
      WTF
      Nov 29
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

      Capital OneMgmt

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      Yes it’s reality... Indian women stinks ... and they usually marry NRIs or Foreign guys to get citizenship then later dump him for better match
      Nov 29
  • LinkedIn MSDI43
    It depends. In California any marriage lasting more than 10 years invalidates any prenup arrangements anyways. If you're getting married and you don't think you can make it to 10 years then that's your first problem right there.
    Nov 292
    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Then you do a post-nup before the 10 year mark or get a divorce if your wife refuses.
      Nov 29
    • Snapchat SfBaeArea
      That’s what my understanding was also. Seems that pre-nups are kinda pointless.
      Nov 29
  • RealSelf / Design
    JIGJOGJAG

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    Depends on what state you live in. In CA whatever assets you bring into marriage remains yours after and everything else is split 50/50.
    Nov 291
    • BlackBerry / Other
      WillMorris

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      Putin is my bitch
      WillMorrismore
      Even though it is a community property state? What happens to a house that you own before marriage and bring into the marriage?
      Nov 29
  • Facebook 한국
    OP
    Damn thank you guys. I was always of the opinion you should but my friends say I’m crazy lol
    Nov 291
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

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      mokka!!!more
      No you are not crazy.. you can’t trust women now a Days
      Nov 29
  • Google / EngBluths
    Depends. Are you the kind of person willing to bet half your net worth on a coin toss? If so, you don’t need a pre-nup
    Nov 290
  • New / EngHlUE84
    If she’s worth more then no
    Nov 290
  • Snapchat SfBaeArea
    Doesn’t it depend a lot on the state you live in? Thought in California you don’t have to split assets (at least for first 10 years anyways)
    Nov 290
  • Microsoft / Eng
    LiftMore

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    Christian. Love Microsoft. High aspirations, low expectations.
    LiftMoremore
    In my opinion, you shouldn't get married if you don't think you'll be in it for life. Why get married otherwise? Just live together. Still eligible for health etc. No advantages to marriage unless it's a super long hall commitment.
    Nov 290

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