I can't imagine women want revenue equality without cost equality. That would be selfish, wouldn't it? I mean, how can I support equal pay for equal work without also supporting equal pay for equal dinner?
I haven’t been on a date that hasn’t been paid out of our joint checking account for quite a while, but back when I wasn’t married, the etiquette I followed was something like this: 1. If you do the asking, offer to pay for the first date. It’s polite. 2. On subsequent dates, either alternate picking up the tab or split. Most of the time people I dated would just volunteer to do one of those things on the second date, if there’s an expectation that you always pick up the tab it’s probably worth having a discussion about.
I like this. Yes, I agree the asker should pay. That makes a ton of sense. If there is an expectation that one person pays, it implies that person is breadwinner and should serve that role in all matters.
Pay is about earning a living. Splitting dinners vs not is a social norm and personal choice. Completely different to me. Do you want to split your Netflix bill before chilling too if your dating a woman who gets fair pay? Male here.
Unequal pay wasn't a norm? Netflix becomes a public good with zero marginal cost once subscription is paid.
Do you make the same amount? Maybe you should start by getting her net income and then split bill accordingly.
You must be new here. I think the terminology for that around these parts is "TC or GTFO."
I was going to say the same thing check if her pay is equal and if not then split the bill based on your pay.
Seems like a pretty trivial thing to get wound up about. Your date probably agrees and is going to give you side-eye about it when you make a big deal out of the bill.
Damn OP. I think you found a loophole in feminism. Women might gain equal pay, but at what cost? Is it really worth having to pay for your own drinks? 🤔
I am not against splitting bills and I always do. You can support equal pay but is that a reality today?
Women are supporting equal cost. However supporting and getting is not always the same. When women get equal pay you can get equal cost... I am married now so it’s not that relevant
^this
Sure. But make sure she only pays 80% of what she eats.
You should do this. Make sure you explain your reasoning at length
Yeah if possible include this when you're explaining Summary Detailed explanation of why you think so What are the pro/cons of your thinking What other alternative approaches could be taken Any risks you foresee by teling her to pay half How do you plan to mitigate those risks And lastly if she does decide to breakup how do you plan to get another gf