Relationships

So many people complaining about difficult dating scene

Microsoft Vhfeg
5d

Is there something fundamentally wrong in our society ? Men complain about not being able to find good women and women complain the other way round.
Is it about setting expectations incorrectly ?
Is this a drawback of diversity of thoughts?

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  • eBay Lol eBa
    With apps we have too many options. Everyone is scared to settle when something better could just be a swipe away.
    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      This is so true
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    • Google That's it
      Maybe for women. Some men don't even get 1 match.
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    • Box xjsk
      Rip
      5d
    • Microsoft Akd71.36
      I’ve seen this A LOT from men nowadays too.
      5d
    • Cisco / EngzGcY85
      “Ladies if you’re not willing to suck yo man’s dick, there’s a raggedy b***h who will and we’ve got her number.” - Katt Williams

      Some truth in that sentiment though. Lot of people demanding stuff from their partner (not just sex) without wanting to give anything in return. People don’t want to WORK at a relationship anymore there’s just this feeling of “oh it should just BE right I shouldn’t have to work at it.”
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    • Microsoft Gjits23
      What about the dudes who think a woman’s orgasm doesn’t matter or always happens with them?! It goes both ways son.
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    • Cisco / EngzGcY85
      Which is why I referenced the sentiment and used the more broad term of “people” rather than woman. No shit it goes both ways. Check your outrage.
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    • Microsoft Gjits23
      And yet he quotes “Ladies if you’re not willing...” 🤔
      Son, at least own up to your backwards views.
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    • Cisco / EngzGcY85
      Lighten up Francis. 🙄 crack a joke about men not going down and people applaud. Crack a joke about women not doing it and out come the pitchforks. You want to talk about backwards ways, women don’t need white knights to defend them anymore.

      And if you’re a woman and the joke hit a little too close to home, go listen to the whole sketch - he goes off plenty on men failing to make an effort too.
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    • Microsoft Qi)2-7gakp
      Then why not quote that part
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  • Amazon Chad_
    I think people complain because they are not alphas
    • Amazon Chad_
      Beta spotted
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    • Google Sadgirl833
      Zolando you have the mindset of a woman
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    • Amazon Chad_
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    • Zalando n00bistan
      google are you trying to say only people with woman mindset can ask this question? btw thanks for being so helpful
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    • Zalando n00bistan
      amazon i guess you don’t have better things to do than spotting betas on anonymous platforms. exiting life you lead
      4d
    • Amazon Chad_
      It is spelled exciting cuck boi
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    • Zalando n00bistan
      hmmm spotting betas and correcting spellings...i am so jealous
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    • Amazon Chad_
      I’m jealous you were touched by your father
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    • Zalando n00bistan
      ohh please don’t. i have touched your mother at more places than you can ever imagine. she is too good btw
      4d
    • Amazon Chad_
      Gross. I touched her too and was not impressed. You definitely are a beta to still be touching that
      4d
  • Microsoft Vhfeg
    OP
    I feel like it was easy in the olden days. Gender based roles - girls had to look good and produce children and guys had to earn bread. Unfair but simple.
    Now it’s like everyone wants everything.
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    • Microsoft
      Nothx

      Microsoft

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      Google
      Nothxmore
      You know what, you deserve to be single forever✌
      5d
    • Oracle
      GroovyBro

      Oracle

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      Akamai Technologies, JPMorgan Chase
      GroovyBromore
      I like my wife earning money. Wtf is she gonna do home all day when the kids are older? Kids eventually go on auto pilot for most of the day.
      5d
  • Amazon kmcY20
    Biased sample. Find people who don't spend 90% of their day on a screen.
    5d1
    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      Haha true
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  • Google / Engalbhed
    Many people are isolated. It’s often literally hard to meet people outside of your bubbles. Apps only go so far.
    5d0
  • LinkedIn / Eng
    Gill Bates

    LinkedInEng

    BIO
    [Insert epic sax here]
    Gill Batesmore
    The gender ratio is fucked in the Bay area.

    According to this Reddit post (https://www.reddit.com/r/bayarea/comments/a2xcst/malefemale_ratios_for_bay_area_counties_2017_data/ ) based on 2017 census data

    Sex Ratio for Single, Never Married Adults, Ages 25-34

    Alameda, Ratio: 1.192, M: 90,821, F: 76,206

    Marin, Ratio: 1.632, M: 8,598, F: 5,267

    San Francisco, Ratio: 1.191, M: 79,842, F: 67,029

    San Mateo, Ratio: 1.349, M: 39,000, F: 28,914

    Santa Clara, California, Ratio: 1.555, M: 104,928, F: 67,481
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    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      Well .. I’m sure it’s the historical best so far ..
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    • eBay Lol eBa
      All the girls moved to la/sd or the east coast I guess?
      5d
    • LinkedIn / Eng
      Gill Bates

      LinkedInEng

      BIO
      [Insert epic sax here]
      Gill Batesmore
      It's more of a sausage invasion, I'd say.
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    • eBay Lol eBa
      I’m going to Eastern Europe. Bbl
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    • Oracle
      GroovyBro

      Oracle

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      Akamai Technologies, JPMorgan Chase
      GroovyBromore
      Time to go long sex robot dolls. N
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  • Snapchat MatM61
    Take a look at the ok Cupid blog posts. Women's standards of attractiveness are becoming increasingly strict.
    5d2
    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      Boy if women have attractiveness standards and men like to be lousy cool dudes then we are in a big problem.
      5d
    • Amazon kmcY20
      I disagree. Look at Paige Butcher and Eddie Murphy. I think you mean to say women's standards of attractiveness or net worth are becoming increasingly strict.
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  • Amazon kmcY20
    You? We're all slaves on the same ship. We think they're paying us for our talent but they're actually taking our lives.
    5d1
    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      This is painfully true
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  • Uber J Leave
    Some of these folks are immature and unrealistic, and are making excuses for not being ready to settle down.

    Others are complaining because it’s something that everyone complains about, and they think it’s good for bonding.
    5d3
    • Microsoft Vhfeg
      OP
      It would be interesting to do a case by case analysis of all the relationships that did not work out. Would probably help to surface and realize the immature/unrealistic behavior so it can be changed.
      What’s the point of keeping on trying without any retrospective ?
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    • Uber J Leave
      Just focus on living a robust happy life as a single person, and someone nice will show up when the time is right. 🤗
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    • Oracle / Otheryuio
      Maybe some one should build an company to get feedback on why the relationship didn't work

      Most times folks involved don't even know why it didn't work or usually have false reasons
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  • Deloitte / Consultant
    weirdflex

    DeloitteConsultant

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    Deloitte
    weirdflexmore
    I’ll give you a hint: the problem isn’t society. The problem is you if you think society is at fault.
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  • Microsoft Gandalfee
    Number of single people actively seeking for date is very low in tech dominated cities. For one, tech people are not that into it.

    Further, the ratio of men to women in tech is atrociously skewed towards men. These tech folks still complain that women should not come in via diversity which makes the current ratio unchanged.

    Also, most of demographics in tech is that many are already married or are from a country where dating is not as frequent as US. Add that many of these people are not willing to date or marry outside of their circle (country or race). In some cultures, parents can play more role in deciding the spouse and they may not like if spouses are from a different background (this is true for even some American parents as well). That reduces a pool dramatically. Tech world favors people who can find their partner from their home countries where future spouses are willing to go and live in a different country.
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    • Microsoft Gjits23
      All I read is “tech nerds suck for dating”. Which is true. Best to date outside the industry.
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    • eBay Lol eBa
      I dont know about you but I have a high bar and still turn dates down on tinder, because I want some free time to myself.
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  • New 0hedge
    Tech doesn't quite have the allure of banking in NYC....most attractive women arent looking for high IQ in unstable industry.

    And for money as a allure, other professions have higher TC and prestige than tech. Tech bros better get professionally organized like NFL and Doctors to market and protect.
    4d1
    • Microsoft Gandalfee
      Tech should create a limited number of licenses to protect the job and increase the salary. If H1B pool is reduced, it may be bad for the new entries but will boost the salary and secure the job better for the existing engineers including the ones with h1b.
      4d
  • Facebook XpaG50
    You're all screwed...and not in the good way.
    5d1
    • Oracle / Otheryuio
      :'(
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  • New 0hedge
    Feminism made the rich men richer who now demand more from top young females. Gold diggers now need a good resume.
    5d0
  • Booking.com b.urn
    By "many people" you mean "many millennials", right?
    5d0
  • Amazon JazzyJassy
    Fundamentally wrong? Yes, people complain too much
    5d0

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