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Spending the holidays with significant other vs. with family?

New ggb
Dec 3

My significant other won’t be able to travel this year so I have the option of staying behind for the holidays to celebrate with her together or to travel and celebrate with my family and my parents, who are getting older.

Home isn’t so close so I will need to at least spend a week there to make up for the travel time. It’ll be a chance to meet extended family I don’t see frequently either. Would you stay behind with your significant other or spend the holidays with your family?

What do other couples who have been in the situation do?

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  • Apple Nnjggfcbk
    What are you lot smoking? Leaving your wife home alone for Christmas so you can please some estranged cousins and Aunts? You’d be lucky if she was there when you got back.
    Dec 32
    • AMD / EngKidology
      There was not enough information to ensure that the SO is his/her wife, otherwise OP would called wife. What are you smoking to assume it is? ;)
      Dec 3
    • Apple Nnjggfcbk
      Ha, well my significant other is my wife so I was just extrapolating. I mean nobody calls their GF their SO. SO is life partner level. Marriage certificate or none.
      Dec 3
  • Microsoft / MgmtHshd
    With family, no doubt.
    Explain why, she will be upset, but she’ll secretly understand you.
    Dec 30
  • Spend holidays with family.

    I presume you and your SO are in the same country, you can always see him/her over a long weekend, or take a day or two off. But visiting family in another country takes longer vacation time.
    Dec 30
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    If you have a “significant other” then they are your family now. You should spend your holiday with your significant other and plan other holidays where you both travel to see each other’s families.

    If you’re talking about US culture, it would be considered pretty offensive to leave your significant other alone for the holidays because they “can’t travel”.
    Dec 32
    • Microsoft / MgmtHshd
      I used to think the same until my husband’s parents started getting older and sick. Nothing is more painful than being far from your parents when they most need you..
      Dec 3
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      I took care of both of my parents through their terminal illnesses so I have a different perspective. If they are in fact older and sick then you shouldn’t just be visiting them over the holidays... You should be living near them or them with you, or paying for caregivers for them. That’s a completely different situation.
      Dec 3
  • Apple Ciakdkgrk
    What if SO==wife?
    Dec 30
  • AMD / EngKidology
    Family, no questions. SO is not forever, family is.
    Dec 32
    • Apple / Opscrumbersum
      Umm, family isn’t forever, either.
      Dec 3
    • AMD / EngKidology
      Family will always be in your heart. Some significant others you just want to erase from your life and memories, like my ex.
      Dec 3
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    Depends on your family culture, and how much your parents may not forgive you if you go missing a few years.

    In my family culture we were raised and will raise our kids with the understanding that they should be independent and start their own family someday. No guilt trips for not coming home N times a T time period.

    I may regret not spending more time with my parents when they eventually pass, but I don’t think they regret raising independent children who don’t ask for money. If they get sick or run out of retirement money, it’s obvious to me and my siblings that we will support them.
    Dec 41
    • eBay / Engoiuhhhh
      How does spending time with parents equate asking money from them?
      Dec 5
  • InVision Rkn56
    definitely family but it depends on what the Holidays mean to you. Personally I think as long as no children are involved, it is more important to have family by your side during holidays va partner
    Dec 30
  • Townsquare Media OfficeSlut
    Spend holidays with married men 👄🍆
    Dec 30

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