Spending the holidays with significant other vs. with family?
My significant other won’t be able to travel this year so I have the option of staying behind for the holidays to celebrate with her together or to travel and celebrate with my family and my parents, who are getting older.
Home isn’t so close so I will need to at least spend a week there to make up for the travel time. It’ll be a chance to meet extended family I don’t see frequently either. Would you stay behind with your significant other or spend the holidays with your family?
What do other couples who have been in the situation do?
- Apple NnjggfcbkWhat are you lot smoking? Leaving your wife home alone for Christmas so you can please some estranged cousins and Aunts? You’d be lucky if she was there when you got back.
- If you have a “significant other” then they are your family now. You should spend your holiday with your significant other and plan other holidays where you both travel to see each other’s families.
If you’re talking about US culture, it would be considered pretty offensive to leave your significant other alone for the holidays because they “can’t travel”.
- I took care of both of my parents through their terminal illnesses so I have a different perspective. If they are in fact older and sick then you shouldn’t just be visiting them over the holidays... You should be living near them or them with you, or paying for caregivers for them. That’s a completely different situation.
- Amazon / EngpopozaomoreDepends on your family culture, and how much your parents may not forgive you if you go missing a few years.
In my family culture we were raised and will raise our kids with the understanding that they should be independent and start their own family someday. No guilt trips for not coming home N times a T time period.
I may regret not spending more time with my parents when they eventually pass, but I don’t think they regret raising independent children who don’t ask for money. If they get sick or run out of retirement money, it’s obvious to me and my siblings that we will support them.