Stop saying that you and your company are meritocratic. Stop saying your hiring bars are equal.
Bringing my charisma, smelling nice, always going back and forth with the interviewers, going into very lengthy depth about different strategies for solving the challenges they mention, talking about trade-offs, allowing input from them, enthusiasm, getting to solve multiple problems effiiently during the code jams, etc... THEY DON'T WORK. Stop saying that. @Asana did this to me again today.
I assume it's time to throw in the towel on SWE jobs. Only the well-connected can make it at this point. Not even US Citizens can make it if they're not from the specific places these companies and hiring managers are looking for. And please don't mention something like "just try harder". I'm not going to keep throwing myself into a concrete wall. That's suicidal. If I want to do that, I'll find better ways soon.