Strategy for hitting on hot girls?

Apple jKeb
Jul 4 158 Comments

I have no problem building attraction and rapport with average/above average girls but when it comes to 8/10+ girls for some reason I always strike out

Maybe I’m just batting above my weight class but maybe I should change the way I flirt with hot girls? Any tips?

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  • Forget about hot or not hot. This is a problem for you.
    Find the "right"person, then you will be happy.
    Jul 4 56
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Nah man I said I’m gonna wait 10-15 years before I consider trying to find a long term thing
      Jul 4
    • 😂
      Jul 4
    • Then no need a girl. Enjoy yourself for 10-15 years. When you will be ready, we'll talk again!
      Jul 4
    • BlackRock / Eng saywat
      @oomnj - curious .... how old are you and where are you from ? (we know you currently live in NYC cause you only said it like 20000 times )
      Jul 4
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      26, upstate ny
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft yesterda
    Where are the 8/10+ girls in bay area ??
    Jul 4 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      I met one recently at a bbq. Very cute blonde girl (9/10).

      Was carrying the conversation for 5mins. Paused and gave her space to ask a question or engage (keeping eye contact for 2-3 seconds). Instead she just turned around and walked away. Didn’t even say “I’m going to grab a drink” just straight up walked away, lmao.
      Jul 4
    • Flagged by the community.

    • HERE progli
      Are you still at the bbq? Put her on the phone. I wanna talk to her.
      Jul 4
    • Facebook / Eng
      madhuridix

      Facebook Eng

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      madhuridixmore
      8/10 = 0.8
      Jul 7
  • Facebook dzntz
    Tattoo your TC on your 🍆 and just whip it out. Think of updating it when you get a raise as an extra perk.
    Jul 4 4
    • Zillow Group xBFF26
      There’s not enough room for my 7 digits salary
      Jul 4
    • New / Eng
      marry-me

      New Eng

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      marry-memore
      Only 7 digits, you peasant!
      Jul 4
    • Facebook dzntz
      Lol small peepee
      Jul 4
    • For the last time xBFF26, the 2 decimal places do not count as digits in your salary!
      Jul 4
  • Google / Eng philosophy
    Stop thinking of women as numbers and you'd be amazed how many more hot women want to fuck you.
    Jul 4 11
    • AT&T / Eng DisUser
      I've followed step 1 and don't think of women as numbers, what do I do now to find attractive women?
      Jul 5
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      “Just be yourself”
      Jul 5
    • AT&T / Eng DisUser
      Ah yes. The classic.
      Jul 5
    • Google / Eng philosophy
      Is the problem finding attractive women, or getting them to talk to you/go out with you (which seems to be the OP's initial problem).

      Here's the thing: in order to truly not think of women as numbers, you need to have a more holistic view of what makes a woman attractive. Not just physical appearance. Once you truly have that, women can tell. Remember, insanely attractive women are the most insecure creatures on the planet. AND they usually have spent so much time on their appearance that they feel incredibly insecure about their intelligence, career, abilities, etc. So when they meet a man who isn't going to be totally bowled over by their appearance (because they are a grown up who isn't just looking for doll), it drives them insane.
      Jul 5
    • AT&T / Eng DisUser
      Thanks for the great advice. I'll work on it.
      Jul 5
  • TrueCar / Eng Twhh78
    Tell them you work at FAANG.
    Jul 4 2
    • TrueCar / Eng Twhh78
      The women have evolved from accepting brute force solutions and now want dynamic programming optimizations IRL?
      Jul 4
    • Facebook / Eng
      madhuridix

      Facebook Eng

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      madhuridixmore
      Doesn't work. They leave after sex
      Jul 7
  • New / Eng rresoisnco
    You gotta be 8+ to get 8+. Maybe you're just not good enough.
    Jul 4 6
    • New / Eng rresoisnco
      What makes them 8+?
      Jul 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      From a physical standpoint both had great bodies and an attractive face. Type of girls that everyone checks out when you’re out in public
      Jul 4
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      She gotta be at least 5’10 barefoot to be an 8. To be a 9, needs to be at least 6’ barefoot
      Jul 4
    • New / Eng rresoisnco
      Mmmmm Gwendoline Christie
      Jul 4
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Thinking more like Karlie Kloss
      Jul 4
  • New / Other anustasia
    You got money? I like money
    Jul 4 15
    • AT&T / Eng DisUser
      TC only 200k, didn't even get response
      Jul 5
    • Oracle alliswell3
      200k is pretty good. Dont worry. You will do well. Focus on other aspects.
      Jul 5
    • AT&T / Eng DisUser
      Thanks friend :) I'm focusing on getting in better shape and upping my wardrobe right now
      Jul 5
    • Oracle alliswell3
      Perfect!! Good luck!
      Jul 5
    • New / Other anustasia
      Upping your wardrobe and appearance is big. If you want help on that DM me.
      Jul 5
  • Facebook betweenlit
    IF you see a 10/10 girl go talk to her and be yourself. If you are mutually interested in each other magic will work

    Else
    Walk away. And do it all over again lol
    Jul 4 2
    • Amazon / Eng
      UTukMyJerb

      Amazon Eng

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      Electronic Arts (EA)
      UTukMyJerbmore
      Wont the girl be like, "You again!!"
      Jul 4
    • Facebook betweenlit
      Oh damn my bad. I meant do it all over again with DIFFERENT girl
      Jul 4
  • Samsung statarb
    Get your shit together and it will rain women. Ruthlessly reject 8s and below and thou shall get 9s and 10s. Divide your TC by 3 and tell them that’s how much you make. Park your Porsche at home and drive a beaten down car. If you are showing off, you are compensating. Over time, you will build the skills to attract women without having the need to show your wallet.Then magic happens.
    Jul 4 4
    • Nvidia bdei51
      İs that what you did or are you making it up?
      Jul 4
    • New / Other anustasia
      He’s not wrong
      Jul 5
    • Google / Eng philosophy
      "ruthlessly discarding" human beings is not a hot look.
      Jul 5
    • Nvidia bdei51
      How do you ruthlessly discard? Please elaborate
      Jul 5
  • Facebook public2
    Say "hello"
    Jul 4 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      Jul 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      Also I have no problem saying “hello”. I can build rapport and carry a conversation.

      But when I try to escalate or get them to invest in the conversation it always ends poorly
      Jul 4
    • New / Eng
      marry-me

      New Eng

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      Robotics Software Engineer
      marry-memore
      Don't forget to talk about Bitcoins, always worked for me!
      Jul 4
    • Microsoft idknbd
      It's because you use terms like "escalate." The PUA scene is tired, man.
      Jul 4
  • Nvidia bdei51
    Why would you tag apple Google Facebook? Engineers arent the best in hitting hot girls. Go tag McKinsey or something
    Jul 4 2
    • Google / Eng philosophy
      I'm sure there are a bunch of McKinsey playboys on Blind on 4th of July.
      Jul 4
    • Nvidia bdei51
      Well then that explains it doesn't it :D
      Jul 4
  • Twitter
    Oomnj

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    It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
    Oomnjmore
    Haha I feel ya, I cant keep up with all the matches that are 7 and below. 8/9 requires more effort. From my experience in nyc - 75% of 8/9s would go for someone older usually, like 35+ even if they are early 20s. 10s obviously are an ideal and don’t exist.

    Hard stuff but worth putting in the effort.
    Jul 4 6
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Strategies that work on 6s don’t work on 9s :(
      Jul 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      Right thats what I’m trying to tease out. I probably interact with a hot girl once a month if that (living in Bay Area blows) so I don’t have too much experience
      Jul 4
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Yeah it’s easier to find them in nyc and then you get used to interacting with them. Honestly they can be a lot of work and I’m fairly busy these days so it’s kinda hard. The best thing has been to be different from other guys. Frankly speaking being conservative in nyc does that for me and helps out a bit in this area
      Jul 4
    • Apple jKeb
      OP
      Yeah the maintenance aspect and Pampered Princess syndrome is the one downside
      Jul 4
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Yeah I get it. Best advice is to stand out I guess. Be different from people around you
      Jul 4
  • Amazon click bait
    I have been very successful when I haven't tried and 100% fail when I did. I think they can sense you're trying and it's a turn off.

    One time I was in a bar and I got really pissed off with my friend. I started complaining about him to someone who overheard something he said that set me off, and just started talking about the situation, then about other things, similar thing that happened to that person, how to handle it, etc. I was just venting mostly and relieved to be talking about it with someone to get it off my chest.

    It was about an hour into the conversation that I realized the random person I was talking to was actually smoking hot. We ended up dating for about a year.

    I'm convinced if I had hit on her I'd have had zero chances, but I engaged in a conversation without even really intending to and was totally just myself.

    Not sure how that's advice other than if possible forget all the pickup artist BS and try and be yourself.
    Jul 4 1
    • New / Eng
      marry-me

      New Eng

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      Robotics Software Engineer
      marry-memore
      If you broke up can you DM her number? Going through a pretty dry spell!
      Jul 4
  • Microsoft / Media GqTJ43
    Tinder, first 3 photos show a friendly guy, last two show money. Because if you’re vain enough to still rank girls on numbers, you’ll find someone who only cares about numbers. Trick them.

    You could also get really into CrossFit.
    Jul 4 2
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      No one scrolls past the first photo
      Jul 4
    • Microsoft / Media GqTJ43
      Not for you.
      Jul 4
  • Paychex vv_.
    Tattoo your TC on your forehead
    Jul 4 0
  • Facebook betweenlit
    Get a 10/10 on a different country... like south america/spain/uk/asia that wants to go here. Lots of smart people out there too thats a 10
    Jul 4 1
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      10 is an ideal it doesn’t exist
      Jul 4
  • Amazon mkskd
    Donot hit. Violence is bad. Be like gandi.
    Jul 4 0
  • Intel Benzy
    If you're just trying to get laid and have a bunch of cash laying around, just hire a high priced escort. Save you the trouble of a evening out that's gonna cost you the same amount and you know you you're going to get lucky. Opt for the extra $ cocktail hour before and you can share you life stories before you hit the room....
    Jul 5 3
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Err not worth the $1000/hr
      Jul 5
    • Booking.com / Consultant
      Punani

      Booking.com Consultant

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      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      Punanimore
      $1000 / night
      Jul 5
    • Google / Eng philosophy
      This is actually the best advice on here. If you can afford a quarterly date with a high price escort, after a few sessions you will feel more confident and more able to attract hot women in the real world. Don't look at it like you are paying for sex, look at it like you're paying for training.
      Jul 6
  • Amazon / Eng
    UTukMyJerb

    Amazon Eng

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    Electronic Arts (EA)
    UTukMyJerbmore
    Tell her you'll let her see your one infinity loop if she let's you see hers.
    Jul 4 2
    • Twitter
      Oomnj

      Twitter

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      It’s all shitposts and jokes - get a sense of humor!
      Oomnjmore
      Lmao infinity loop is the top 3 cliche tattoo most girls have
      Jul 4
    • Infinite loop is bad. Everybody going there with such faces. No networking at all there!
      Jul 4
  • New / Other anustasia
    It is if you consider the amount of time and money you’re spending on a maybe. You’re. Or paying for the sex you’re paying for her to go away after 🤣
    Jul 6 1
    • Apple / Eng tWBu16
      If you’re spending more money on the hot girl than the hot girl is spending on you.... you’re playing but you aren’t playing at the top level, lol!
      Jul 6

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