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  • Lyft aWBv38
    Making friends is hard. PC / snowflake work environment makes everyone act fake at work. Add to that cultural differences where cliques stay together. Work used to be a great place to socialize and even date!
    Jan 4 1
    • Microsoft rfrw82
      Yeah. Nothing makes friends faster than slapping a few biatches in the ass and name calling some minorities in work place. /s
      Jan 4
  • Glassdoor 2019k
    First thing, go on a vacation, reward yourself.

    Start eating clean, lift weights 3 times a week, run, meditate, start getting in touch with your old friends and adapt at least one healthy habit e.g. tennis, basketball
    Jan 4 0
  • Shaadi karo bhai
    Jan 4 7
    • Microsoft naaam
      Not everyone feels happy being alone. I too am alone but don't feel unhappy like you. But you are the kind who wants company. So go by the commenters response. Shaadi karlo.
      Jan 4
    • Walmart.com / Eng YPkx24
      “Ive been considering the samething, that being happy alone first is important, but apparently we’re social beings so that explains the need for company” - this is just BS . Get married already or go to Vegas
      Jan 4
    • Amazon lbgukkx
      R u in Seattle
      Jan 4
    • Walmart.com / Eng YPkx24
      Get divorced and go to Vegas
      Jan 4
    • Microsoft solusan
      @mkcOwhatever Break-up happens. You're not the only one and 1.5 years seems to be a long time.
      Stop that "if I can't be happy myself..." BS. Go on dates, meet new people, make new friends of both gender, pick up a new hobby, travel, go to pubs with your new friends, start working out.
      It's easy to stay alone in your free time but this will only worsen your situation. Do something with your life or you'll regret it later that you wasted your youth crying over someone who doesn't give a shit about you.
      Jan 6
  • Paychex 1Az
    I’m in that phase right now, I’m hoping switching job and location will help me. At least for a bit.
    Jan 4 2
    • Paychex 1Az
      Putting a goal for myself to switch job to a better one made that feeling to be less painful since I have hope and I’m working on myself (leetcode) to get a job so I get less time to feel lonely. Maybe if you put a goal for yourself for the next few months, maybe get in shape since you noticed you are gaining weight. That will help you mentally and also could open your eyes to other things.
      Jan 4
    • New b37
      How do you switch jobs when you're lonely and have no self worth? (asking because I'm somewhat lonely and definitely have no self worth)
      Jan 4
  • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
    1 word: workout.

    It worked for me very well. I dont see a reason it wouldnt work for you. Chase specific body image goals, get your calories under chexk, read up on macros and shit. Chase that greek bod. Give it 2 years. 1 year in youll be out of depression .

    Source: me
    Jan 4 4
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    • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
      @apple. Wow ! What a thoughtful response. We need more people of your kind.
      Jan 4
    • Amazon TankBab
      I have to echo this..get into fitness. You have nothing to lose but weight and gain energy. It will open other things for you.
      Jan 5
    • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
      @amazon. Not only that, as soon as you start seeing improvements to your body, your confidence gets a big boost as well.
      Jan 5
  • Salesforce Nohana4
    Go backpack
    Jan 4 3
    • Microsoft mkCo42
      OP
      Alone?
      Jan 4
    • HP / Eng Modulus
      Yes alone. I would go on dirtbike rides alone up in the mountains all the time. Sometimes in the dark. Scares the loneliness right out of you.
      Jan 4
    • Magic Leap 😁..
      OP, do you like mountains, forests? Where do you live?

      This advice won't work for everyone. Some people hate being outside, being away from the conveniences and the crowds. But spending a day or two in the wilderness sure works for me.
      Jan 4
  • Oracle redvsblue
    Go to a therapist and start taking vitamin D and get one of those LED lamps. Sleep better. Get a dog. Get a higher TC. Travel, go home and see your family more often. Exercise more.

    It sounds like you’re depressed and still grieving the relationship. These two things can coexist and exacerbate each other. At least work on the depression which can be a chemical imbalance. Seattle can do that to people.
    Jan 4 1
    • Oracle redvsblue
      1) I’m suggesting it could be chemical imbalance caused by lack of sun light hence the light therapy lamp and vitamin d. I went to east coast recently and felt much happier and right when I flew back and saw clouds in Seattle and it got dark at 4 pm I felt blue. The lamp simulates more sun.

      2) Mental health professional, can be any kind of therapist like a psychologist or social worker. You can start with a cognitive behavioral therapist or you can go to one that specializes in break ups or self esteem. What I’m saying is seek professional help and talk to someone about your issues.
      Jan 4
  • Salesforce
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    lozeremore
    Dark chocolate helps. Cannabis oil.

    This stuff is hard. N heart breaks later I still deal with it as badly as after the first one, maybe worse as I grow older, because lesser friends and raging biological clock. What helps me is to allow myself to feel sad. Don't set up high standards for yourself. If you come home and do nothing but watch TV it's ok - not a big deal. For me, I paint and play the violin. It helps me emote. Find what helps you - for some it's running, boxing, etc.

    Also: Don't expect to be fully over your break up for you to move on. It may not happen. I've taken upwards of three years to get over relationships. If you find someone good, give the person a chance to be in your life. Another thing I learnt to follow - don't hold your future as ransom to your past.

    Also, I'm off social media. I figured I don't need to know who gets married, makes babies, graduates or who's kid has a birthday party. It doesn't help me. Also people only put the best parts of their lives up there. I feel so much better after almost 3 years of barely any social media.
    Jan 10 0
  • Google zboB57
    Cheer up. Breaking up is 100 times better than divorce.
    Jan 4 0
  • 1. I found reading very rewarding, unlike venting to a friend or therapist, it gives you new perspectives to live on.

    2. Still talk to a therapist, it’s good support.

    3. Make a change on your diet and start exercising, no matter how down you are at least you are not hating your body. Plus, changing your body does affect your mental, it’s real.

    - Says someone who’re on the same boat.
    Jan 4 3
    • Facebook pppppopl
      This and same. Any book recs?
      Jan 4
    • Am reading “designing your life”
      Jan 4
    • Cisco / Eng 0.1
      Someone recommended he book ‘The Alchemist’ on another thread.
      Jan 4
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    • Oracle redvsblue
      You can use it some days but I personally get a high and then a crash the next day.
      Jan 4
    • Amazon TankBab
      I don't recommend it as a solution. Otherwise it will become a problem in itself later.
      Jan 5
  • Amazon skcbw
    Had very similar situation 5 years back. Long distance, breakup, graduation, friends moving on. Started going to meetups (www.meetup.com). You won’t necessarily make friends. But will get your mind off things by meeting new people and doing diff things. Try it.
    Jan 5 0
  • New lsDz32
    Feel you brother. Do a lot of rest and do one step at a time. One day just do 2 pushups, next day 3, or treadmill. One weekend go and get your favorite food from place bit far so you will drive listening favorite songs, come home binge watch shows. If want to talk to someone message me.

    As all said minimize Facebook this is root of envy in society.
    Jan 4 0
  • Google / Other
    snidely

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    snidelymore
    Agreed about Facebook. I found it depressing so I quit it and was better without it.
    Jan 4 0
  • SPS Commerce Cheerz
    I'm male and i can fill your void :P . JK Buddy!
    Put some goals, work toward them, meet new people and fill your time.

    Also, feel free to talk with me ;)
    Jan 4 2
    • New MsWorld
      Are you gay or do you know OP is female?
      Jan 4
    • SPS Commerce Cheerz
      Haha! I do not how is this related, I do not even know you and i just tried to be nice.

      Relax man! And like i said, create some goals, improve yourself , fill your time and you will feel better.

      Enjoy your weekend
      Jan 4
  • Find a therapist and talk to them. When you talk about your feelings to someone and write what you feel in a journal it will slowly and holistically heal you. Meet your doctor to assess how depressed you are. There is no heart ache which you cannot overcome if you want to. Just be brave !
    And like others said stay away from social media and other sources that depress you.
    Jan 7 1
    • New blindds
      Thanks you would make a good therapist.
      Jan 7
  • Microsoft Qwpo
    Exercise, gym, martial arts etc. regularly. Eat clean, very super clean. Make this year about bettering yourself in every way and enjoying your time. Sleep enough. Go out when asked to join. Reach out to friends. Stop browsing Facebook in the morning. Exercise or work on something for yourself. Adopt a pet. Volunteer at a shelter.
    Jan 8 0
  • Amazon TankBab
    Delete Facebook Account. Deleted mind and never looking back.
    Jan 5 0
  • Microsoft INuW66
    Been there..

    Time will heal eventually, take a vacation , visit family ( they always care) pick up a hobby , go on tinder dates. You will have something to look forward to.
    Jan 5 0
  • AMD GDKa06
    In general I have seen that in life you tend to get caught in upward or downward spirals. When things are going well, more good comes around. It is easier to more when you are uplifted. When things are down, it tends to get worse. YOU have to work to break the downward spiral. Make a decision right now to do something different that you don't necessarily feel like doing but theoretically know is supposed to help. Like exercise. Like going for a meetup. Like reading a book or investing time in a friendship. You have to snap out of the downward spiral on your own by doing something different. Because your regular routine is clearly not working. Best.
    Jan 4 0