Taking a break in India and returning back to US

Apple hosjs
Jul 23 39 Comments

I'm a SWE. I've been thinking for quite sometime now, about moving back to India and trying out organic farming and learning Indian traditional medicine spending a couple of years. If I like pursuing these, I would just want to settle down and continue doing the same. Neither my parents nor my wife are opposing. But my wife is kinda scared if I would be able to get back to US as SWE again(if I change my mind) since we're on visa now. I love being a SWE, but I've developed tonnes of interested in above mentioned areas of late..Just wondering if someone have been in a similar situation, as in, took a break to explore their passion and got back to software industry? Would really appreciate your advice/suggestions and also would love to hear your experience..


Edit: I'll be living(or settling down later if I decide to) in a small town. My daughter is 1 year old and when she starts her schooling I can make arrangements for her to go to a reasonably good school in a nearby tier 2 city which is abt an hour away. Not worried much about finances, esp since I'll be staying in a small town

The only thing that's bugging me is the question/thought of whether it's fair to deprive my daughter of all the great opportunities available here in US.

Edit 2: I'm not looking for a career change or a break because of not liking my current job..I'm genuinely interested in the above mentioned things..

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TOP 39 Comments
  • Amazon / Eng Yolo!
    Ok move back, bye!
    Jul 23 6
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    • New / Eng
      bruselee

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      bruseleemore
      😂
      Jul 23
    • Intel / Other seabay
      Maybe he thinks sending ppl back will get him further in the forever queue🤣
      Jul 23
    • Yahoo / Mgmt ultimate
      Yep. That's right. You sHould always pursue your passion. In fact just to diss this Yolo person, go back to India. Become a manager in a company that has presence here and come back to claim that coveted green card. Before he rots in the queue;)
      Jul 23
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      😁
      Jul 24
  • Facebook Jsjdbjsw
    Why not just do farming and learn traditional Indian medicine here?
    Jul 23 6
    • Facebook bulla1
      No visa restrictions imo as long as there is no conflict of interest with uour sponsor
      Jul 24
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      Just farming alone is going to be very strenuous. It should take at least 15-20 hrs of my time per week. I doubt if I'll be able to do that in addition to my 55-60 hrs/week(8hrs + lunch + commute per day) regular work..and I might need to take a couple weeks of break to focus on farming or just to take some rest if I do that in addition to a day job. That's not possible on visa..and I wouldn't be able to sell the produce on visa..
      Jul 24
    • Facebook bulla1
      We can rent out house, trade stocks, sell our car, but not this?
      Jul 24
    • Facebook Jsjdbjsw
      OP frankly this is the most responsible way of trying out what you want to do before you uproot your family. If you make money you can always hire someone and give yourself zero salary - I'm sure there are easier ways to pursue your passions and stick to the law than to change everything for yourself and everyone around you.
      Jul 24
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      Totally makes sense..something to think about seriously. I haven't done the math. But traditional organic farming, one that was followed in India a couple generations back involves building a whole self sufficient ecosystem of animals..this requires breeding cows, using their pee/dung to make manure, growing chickens and using their droppings, etc. Lol..kinda funny..but that's how it works. Training the labor I find here to do all this, etc..hmm..I think I have some mind block that makes me think I won't be able to achieve all this here..I'll have to think through all the pros and cons thoroughly I guess..
      Jul 24
  • Amazon Gjdyveycc4
    Yes you can come back again, in next 6 years without going for a lottery. But the truth is you don’t want to go and finding excuses to not do it.
    Jul 23 3
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      Yes that's right. But the problem is why would a company in USA go through the hassle of hiring someone that's on visa and is out of touch for a couple years and bring them to US? Is it as easy as it sounds? I wanted to hear from people about such experiences as well..
      Jul 24
    • Amazon Gjdyveycc4
      It depends on your case. Even if they don’t want to worst case you join their INDIA office and transfer to US office.
      Jul 24
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      Hmm ya I've seen Amazon/Google letting people transfer. Quite sometime since I spoke to my friends over there..will check with them as well..
      Jul 25
  • Nutanix GimV31
    Sounds like a mid life crisis. I planned exactly the same after about 15 years in tech. Realized that life in India especially rural India is brutal.
    Jul 24 12
    • Nutanix GimV31
      Rural Punjab is very similar according to some of my friends from the pind.
      Jul 24
    • PayPal maapypl
      I never went to North. So can't comment
      Jul 24
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      Even I haven't come across this drug addiction stuff and all at my place(I've been visiting every year). Alcohol consumption is more common than it used to be 15 years back though..but I don't think that should be an issue..
      Jul 24
    • Nutanix GimV31
      OP the grass is always greener on the other side. If you are really interested in moving back, I’d advise you to visit your hometown and stay there like you would be there permanently, not as a visitor.
      Go out of your comfort zone, hang out with people that are outside your usual friend circle etc.
      Jul 24
    • Nutanix GimV31
      Maybe PayPal is right and this is only a problem with BPL people. However remember if you stay there permanently you will need to deal with them and their problems.
      Jul 24
  • New / Eng
    bruselee

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    bruseleemore
    Great, All the best ^ ^
    Jul 23 0
  • Automattic MOyj23
    So you really like being SWE? What if the pay was low and it was not prestigious. Would you still be an engineer?
    Jul 23 2
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      To genuinely answer your question, 15 years back when I chose this career path, I was really excited. I don't feel the same any more..if I were to continue doing this same thing, I would want to be paid market numbers..else, there is no point in staying here in US compromising a number of things. But, I really don't care about money, at least for the next couple of years, when I'd be doing the above mentioned things..
      Jul 23
    • Facebook BeingCoder
      What are things you're compromising?
      Jul 23
  • Cisco byndinfini
    It's a terrible idea on many fronts. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Know of an extended family member who went through this messy stuff because of burnout in the startup tech world. Oh, also divorced a decade old marriage (have a daughter shared custody). There's literally no stability in their life.
    Jul 23 1
    • Apple hosjs
      OP
      My family seems to be supportive at this point of time..my wife is not career oriented and leads a simpler life than I do, so we're good for now. Our daughter's education is of highest concern for her..
      Jul 24
  • Amazon UUsUsa
    You need reality check.
    Jul 24 0
  • Equinix neokarma
    Pursue your passion! Don’t fear the consequences!
    Jul 23 0

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