I have been hung over her for eternity. Last weekend, I moved all the way to Eastside, which, no offense to people living here, is like being swallowed by suburbia. I took a long road trip, hoping it will clear my brain. But all the fucking songs in my playlist, reminded me of her, so by the end of the trip, I was playing movie themes. Now minutes ago she asked me if I wanted to go have dinner. I wanted to say GTFO but my fingers typed 'Sure. That sounds awesome' I think I am becoming a masochist sucker. Are there de-addiction centers for infatuation?
Find a new one... plenty of apps for that. Gotta move on guy
I see where you are coming from. This is called a rut. You are stuck in this and round and round it goes until you apply an external force to get out of it. Remember those days when you just binge watch and not move an inch until you do? It feels like you could have done this hours earlier. Same principle, it’s gonna take you to break a threshold x by taking an action y. Where y>x
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Let me give you the answer - contracts. Sign up for an event, book a ticket to some show with friends, sign up for some sports classes etc. once you have these contracts in place, the inertial momentum of executing those contracts will get you out of the rut.
If you place your happiness in the hands of someone else, trust me, you are in for a miserable life. Even if she says she is in madly in love with you and wants to be with you forever. You need a whole reboot in your approach. I know its easier said than done but the investment is worth it when you decide you alone are responsible for your own happiness.
Can you please tell some practical things to do to take that control? I need them badly!
Sorry for the late reply KaggleLove. While this is just an opinion it worked well for me: travel. I traveled a lot, especially to places where the quality of life is much lower than ours. When you see people who are in such bad shape you realize the helplessness you feel is nothing compared to theirs. So you started taking things a little less granted than before. That's what I built on.
It depends on how she broke your heart. Maybe she just broke up with you in a bad way, but if she said I like X better than you then left you for another man! Then later come back and want to have dinner, then it is ducked up and you should get the fuck out now. But I do understand that feel I was dying from my gf leaving me too.
We never dated. She friendzoned me. I am like 90 percent sure there is no other dude. But who knows.
In this case my brother... you are the backup... when She's sad lonely and shit she will find you to comfort her... whereas she will never actually become your gf... This is all too common of a situation
Bring a ring
I would love to. Would be a dream come true, if she let's me put it on her finger
Does dinner involve sex? If so, go and then move on. If it’s only dinner, don’t you have better things to spend time and money on?
Oneitis
Since no one asked. How did she break your heart? Maybe she does like you too.
I doubt it. I have indirectly several times and pretty blatantly (once) told her, how I feel about her. And her response has been - but we are such good friends, and ... So on and so forth'
Ok so you are pretty sure you were friend zoned. Personal experience. I was in this situation, and somehow I doubled down because just like your case my mind told me something while my hormones something else, being the best friend I could be. Yes eventually we hooked up dated, and actually for a long time, because she realized I was happened to be the only one around, and better than all the others she dated. I still think it was the wrong decision.
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