Tired of cranking a warm and sticky one with the boys 😫

Apr 13 80 Comments

I am a single man working in Bay Area. Every day, after spending 7+ hours to add 2 lines of code to my project, which is absolutely critical to my company (according to my manager, even though no one knows about it), I take some well-earned rest to congratulate myself and then proceed to undertake my 1 hour commute (sans traffic) to the fringes of society.

Here I share a 3 bed 1 bath with 2 brilliant software engineers (also male and single) , one of whom is working for a unicorn waiting to IPO anytime soon (‘It is happening next month!’ he told me excitedly one day in 2017). The other one works at Google, or maybe it was Facebook or Amazon, I am not sure since I never see him around. He is always at work, leading the Tech revolution with his 100,000+ comrades, making the world a better place (his words not mine).

Anyways, once I am home and have microwaved some pre-cooked frozen pasta (ps: the frozen chicken really tastes like chicken these days 😫👌🏽), I go quietly to my room and bring out the box of Kleenex facial tissues infused with aloe and lotion (the aloe and lotion helps soothe bad colds and is good for sensitive skins - Kleenex’s words not mine). I will not describe to the gentle folks of Blind what ensues next but let’s just say I have not had a cold or flu for a long time.

Once I am done with my routine and collapse on the bed, my exercise quota having been fulfilled (I am however a little concerned that my gut is still growing like an unchecked O(n^2) algorithm despite this daily routine), I take some time to reflect how I am changing the world one line of code at a time and go into a blissful sleep despite the traffic on the busy road outside.

I love my life but for one aspect. I don’t want to be the only participant in the daily Bedroom Olympics which takes place in my room every 9 pm. It would be nice to bond with someone over this sport where coming first is not the benchmark of performance. So my question is, how can I meet a person from the opposite sex and extend an invitation to the sporting event of a lifetime?

I am not a very picky person. My only requirements are for the person to be from the opposite sex and be able to solve Leetcode medium in 25 minutes or less. If this person doesnt meet that requirement, I am also ok that the person looks like a Kardashian (with makeup and post cosmetic surgeries and not Khloe) and takes up to 40 minutes on an LC easy (but optimal solution).

Please let me know where and how I can find this person. Like the title says, I am tired of cranking a warm and sticky one with the boys! Any help is appreciated 🙂

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TOP 80 Comments
  • Oscar 🐨koala
    👍 reading this post has killed 13 brain cells.
    Apr 13 2
    • OP
      Writing this post killed 25 and I only had 28 to begin with
      Apr 13
    • I am now 1 synapse away from autism
      Apr 13
  • Google tvFG45
    I know this post is a joke, but holy fuck I'm so glad I don't live in the Bay Area.
    Apr 13 3
    • Northrop Grumman / Eng HowCouldYu
      What google at you at
      Apr 13
    • OP
      Nah man, it’s all good in da hood here *plucks another aloe lotion infused kleenex*
      Apr 13
    • Northrop Grumman / Eng HowCouldYu
      ***plucking INTENSIFIES***
      Apr 13
  • Amazon JSnowflake
    1) Get a job that will afford you a 1 bedroom apartment 20-30 mins from work. Less commute is life changing. If you are under 28, roommates are fine, otherwise live solo to avoid scaring off grown women. 2) Exercise in the gym before work instead of spending all your energy playing pocket pool in your bedroom. 3) Don't eat frozen food more than 1 or 2 times a week. Cook at least 2-3 nights a week and go out other nights. 4) Get on dating apps and start meeting women. Keep expectations low, just have fun and eventually somebody will be attracted to your funloving attitude and willing to overlook your O(n^2) gut (which will hopefully be replaced with n*log n after some exercise time-gut space tradeoffs).
    Apr 13 3
    • OP
      Ah man. You are the only one who give some real advice
      Apr 13
    • New MMDDYY
      Didn't you really know all those things? Implementing them is the hard part
      Apr 13
    • Microsoft / Eng Rydia
      Read "How not to die" for nutritional tips to make you healthy. The battle for fitness is in the kitchen, not in the gym.

      I'd say having one roommate is ok though. Get a 2 bed/2 bath so you have your own bathroom.
      Apr 13
  • New / Eng shshzha
    Bro, start writing a book. You have a gift. 😌
    Apr 13 0
  • Oracle iOFR21
    Bro, you got me teary eyed. you are pretty good at telling stories.
    Apr 13 0
  • LinkedIn / Eng ganache
    It was funny, I'll give you that much.
    Apr 13 0
  • Facebook Probe
    If you're feeling lonely doing it yourself, you could ask your roommates to circlejerk with you.
    Apr 13 3
    • OP
      What in the title suggests we are not already executing this idea?
      Apr 13
    • Amazon / Eng
      Hulio317

      Amazon Eng

      PRE
      Amazon, Microsoft, Google, HBO, Bridgewater Associates, Grab, Dropbox, Airbnb, Alibaba, Baidu
      Hulio317more
      But one of them is always at work.
      Apr 14
    • Facebook Probe
      VC counts
      Apr 14
  • Rubrik PartyStick
    TC?
    Apr 13 1
  • Hulu DaddyBig
    Move to LA, easier to meet women
    Apr 13 9
    • Cisco -0.01
      Hahaha ok.
      Apr 13
    • Cisco -0.01
      Will do that in time.
      Apr 13
    • Salesforce isThisIt?
      Hulu, you promise it's easier?
      Apr 13
    • New / IT gdogg121
      Why is it easier? Just more people?
      Apr 19
    • Salesforce Yoga inc.
      More woman, I suppose. Hulu?
      Apr 19
  • Commvault jKvb54t
    If I were a girl...I would PM you. Nice way of narrating your troubles...you indeed are a story teller my friend!
    Apr 13 0
  • New / IT
    strcoder

    New IT

    PRE
    500 Startups
    strcodermore
    according to your requirements, leetcode's leaderboard seems like a good place to start
    Apr 13 1
    • OP
      Above my league 😞
      Apr 13
  • Snapchat Ffbqr6w8
    A modern day Shakespeare
    Apr 13 2
    • LinkedIn / Eng ganache
      It seems he is tired of having to shake his own spear.
      Apr 13
    • Dropbox systest
      ^ This brought a tear to my eye.
      Apr 13
  • Microsoft / Eng Rydia
    Out of all this, the only fucked up thing I read was that you live in a 3 bed, 1 bathroom house.

    Why would you get a 3 bedroom with 3 total people and only 1 bathroom?
    Apr 13 2
    • OP
      We like to celebrate the spirit of the good ol’ wild wild west at home
      Apr 13
    • Dropbox systest
      Because of Bay Area rent
      Apr 13
  • +1 to Whatever the Amazon dude told above. And you can't sit in the room and wait for girls to come knock the door. Workout, go to group classes like kick boxing where you have chance to meet someone, or go run in a group and join cooking classes or Pottery classes, basically increase your probability of meeting more people.

    This is like job search, plenty of effort, lots of disappointments, but remember you only need one offer. Good luck
    Apr 13 1
    • OP
      Love the last line ❤️
      Apr 13
  • Microsoft / Eng bdkbs
    Sounds like the plot of the upcoming movie "Joker"
    Apr 13 3
    • OP
      “Their morals, their [leet] code; it’s a bad joke. Dropped at the first sign of trouble [‘Syntax error on token “;”, { expected’]
      Apr 13
    • Microsoft / Eng bdkbs
      Apr 13
    • Google / Other tTLs
      Jerker could be a better name
      Apr 13
  • Salesforce HarcEndoff
    Go on Quora and start writing. You should get some fangirls there, you’re pretty good and there are a number of Bay Area chicks there, also introverted and misunderstood, but a few seem like LC easy 👍
    Apr 13 0
  • Dropbox systest
    Your life sounds relaxing and enjoyable. You get plenty of sleep and lots of time to yourself. Why will you ever change that?
    Apr 13 0
  • Amazon eturtutyu
    Move. The odds are not in your favor in San Francisco. Look up demographics and move somewhere like DC or New York or So Cal where there are far more single women than men.
    Don’t commute more than 15 minutes unless it’s on public transit where you can meet people.
    Apr 13 1
    • IBM / Eng TMqY11
      Ahh, NY, the land of milk and honeys
      Apr 13
  • Uber / Eng The 𝖣
    Lmfao well written
    Apr 13 0
  • New hqWe60
    how is it with the boys if you are alone? 🤔
    Apr 13 2
    • OP
      ‘You can be with people and still be alone. Just because you circlejerk with a bunch of dudes does not mean you invite them to your bed’ - Ghostface Killah or MLK, can’t remember which one said that
      Apr 13
    • New hqWe60
      whats better than circlejerky?
      Apr 16