Too much rate race, I’m miserable!!!

Jun 3 32 Comments

Aaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!!!

I can’t take it anymore, this rat race is miserable as fuck, all day every day I have to take bullshit from everybody, idiotic manager, backstabbing team mates, moronic team mates, team mates smarter than me who make me feel dumb, ...

Even the work itself is not as fun as it used to be, every framework or piece of technology is so massive these days that mastering it is a challenge and the pressure to do it quickly doesn’t leave the time to appreciate the art.

I used to get depressed on Sundays thinking about Monday, now I get frustrated even on Friday and Saturday nights, I wake up in the middle of the night and for a second I think tomorrow is Monday!

I am 32, I live very frugally and through frugal living I saved 1.5M, all invested in Vanguard index funds.

What if I just call it quits and go live somewhere cheap forever? Will that money last me if I keep it all invested and spend as little as possible in a beach town?

I have dual citizenship so I can go in every place in Mediterranean Europe like Italy or Spain.

I don’t have a family and don’t want kids.

Blind cheer me up!

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TOP 32 Comments
  • Facebook uwuTang
    Lol man no family or kids + 1.5M liquid assets? Just take a few months off, no reason to feel pressure at all.
    Jun 3 0
  • Facebook Almostdone
    You have 1.5M savings at 32, damn. I’m much older have much less saved.

    Why do you worry so much at work? Why do you care about idiotic manager and backstabbing team mates? What’s the worst thing that could happen? They could give you bad review? They can fire you? But you are already thinking to quit. So don’t quit, go back to work every day and don’t give a f* what’s going on around you, focus on work and try to do it as best as possible to your satisfaction, and if it comes to worst then take few months off to decide what you want to do next.
    Jun 3 0
  • Amazon / Eng
    UTukMyJerb

    Amazon Eng

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    Electronic Arts(EA)
    UTukMyJerbmore
    You are alive and healthy and not homeless. You control your happiness.
    Jun 3 0
  • Amazon
    Jilaz

    Amazon

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    Google, Facebook, Amazon
    Jilazmore
    You in Seattle!?
    Jun 3 2
    • OP
      Bay
      Jun 3
    • Amazon
      Jilaz

      Amazon

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      Google, Facebook, Amazon
      Jilazmore
      Ah. If you were arnd here, figured I’ll take you for drinks and try to get in your pants. Oh well!
      Jun 3
  • Amazon
    ps.ily

    Amazon

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    Google
    ps.ilymore
    Start a family OP, money doesn’t bring happiness
    Jun 3 1
    • VMware 0×FFFFFFFF
      Good advice but starting a family is not easy especially here in Bay Area, where the sex ratio is skewed. I sometimes regret my decision of moving here from India.
      Jun 3
  • Oracle hyphy
    Spain and rural Italy are cheap. You'd be much more comfortable with a language you already know though
    Jun 3 0
  • Credit Karma wjskc
    I think your problem is that you live frugally. Without activities outside of work, all you have to complain about is work.
    Jun 3 0
  • SAP
    ImposterX

    SAP

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    ImposterXmore
    I hear you, mate. I had a severe allergy against work :-). Took two absent times (temporary retirements) to go 1) surfing in Europe and Northern Africa and 2) travel the US East Coast.

    Best I could do. I grew as a person, tons of adventures and was refreshed when I decided that the accounts were depleted sufficiently or the girl I was hanging with didn’t want to finance me anymore.

    Pro tip, if you can: I also spent time in Havana, Cuba and surroundings. No GPS, no real mobile connection, the freaking bus comes or it doesn’t, breakfast with rum, sex with rum, sex and breakfast with rum, a big cigar on the roof of your Casa Particular at night watching the stars. It’s as if you hit a wall with a Porsche at 120 mpH. Everything seems to stop at once. Did I mention the people are awesome?

    Just do it!
    Jun 3 0
  • Samsung / HR
    realsam

    Samsung HR

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    Samsung Electronics
    realsammore
    You idiot. You are such an idiot. I don't even know where to start. You have the power to say goodbye. But dude...take a long vacation. Retiring now will get old fast.
    Jun 3 0
  • Facebook public2
    60k a year should be plenty to retire in many places!
    Jun 3 0
  • GoDaddy / Eng ksjdh19r64
    🍺
    Jun 3 0
  • Salesforce / Eng
    Full-Send

    Salesforce Eng

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    Modernizing Medicine, TransUnion
    Full-Sendmore
    I feel this post and I am 25. 5 more years as a Software Engineer? 🤮 Then I am 30. I think I need kids because otherwise I'll be in this constant pursuit of higher TC with nothing else.

    I am waiting for a side project to take off then maybe I will feel more fulfilled.
    Jun 3 2
    • Amazon usernamest
      Wtfh?!
      Jun 3
    • Salesforce / Eng
      Full-Send

      Salesforce Eng

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      Modernizing Medicine, TransUnion
      Full-Sendmore
      Huh?
      Jun 3
  • Sprint stgV88
    Weird, but this post makes me feel better 😂
    Jun 3 1
    • OP
      Because you’re feeling better than me or because you feel we share a common pain? Lol
      Jun 3
  • Amazon / Eng Chad🕶
    You sound very insecure. Rather than focusing on anyone else, spend time reading books to help you increase your self worth and self confidence. From your attitude, i feel you'd be unhappy regardless of work factors
    Jun 3 0
  • Slack / Eng
    namelessyo

    Slack Eng

    BIO
    Looking women Chinese speakers for lunch in SF
    namelessyomore
    Great job on the saving!
    Jun 3 0
  • Amazon echo $?
    Move to somewhere cheaper like in the Midwest (Idaho or Ohio). I lived there on 35k per year after taxes easily. You could easily make it work there.
    Jun 4 2
    • Oracle hyphy
      But Mediterranean is nicer!
      Jun 4
    • Amazon echo $?
      Sure, but you need to make sure you won’t run out of money if you truly want out of the “rat race”.
      Jun 5
  • Google anons2
    Get some outside hobbies, spend a little of your savings and have fun. Check out at work, ignore the politics , do the bare minimum, surf Reddit or have fun chatting at work. That may help your burn out. If you get laid off, great take your severence and go on a sabbatical, live in South America or Europe for a couple months
    Jun 4 0
  • Snapchat eeXB43
    Dude just relax, u are in solid position financially. Take a long vacation and gather your thoughts. Changing company might help if it is too political.
    Jun 3 0
  • New csed
    Google FIRE and you'll have your answer quickly
    Jun 3 0
  • Stripe exJX72
    Find a company with leaders you respect and join them.
    Jun 3 0

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