Relationships

Totally fine being alone AMA

Microsoft LatinaLaLa
Dec 1

TC 305k, over 30 years old and finally look past my mid twenties which I am fine with, engineer, just enough nerdiness to hang with my nerd peeps, every day I dress well and do my makeup well (it’s a hobby), I have interesting outdoorsey activities that keep me in shape, 37-25-37, 5’4”, 110lbs, 32D, long hair/great skin/straight teeth etc, financially stable, easygoing af, been proposed to or almost got married 4 times plus lived with some boyfriends seriously, INTP, speak multiple languages, know a ton about music/haute and pop culture/food (I.e. I’m not an insulated Leetcode nerd), well educated, have good friends I can turn to, have more matches on dating apps than I can keep up with....
and I will never settle down for a dude who doesn’t meet my standards. If that means I end up alone then that’s fine because being alone is awesoooome and I would be cool having a kid alone and my family would also be cool with it. Let the woman haters and incels come out. Idgaf. Dudes need to step up their game and my friends say they agree with me. 💁🏻‍♀️

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  • Cisco randynash
    Since you felt the need to qualify yourself so much on an anonymous forum, I can already tell you feel insecure about aging. Possibly lonely.

    Just want to say you're not alone. It's ok for life to not be perfect. If you are ok going single forever, that's fine. But do date around a bit. Sometimes the guys who don't meet your bar are actually what you've been looking for.

    It's ok for life to not be perfect. Choose your imperfections well.
    Dec 117
    • Cisco randynash
      I hear you. But there are only 2 ways:
      1. Lose your ego and standards
      2. Be an active Hunter to find what you want

      There's a third one but I don't think you're up for it
      Dec 1
    • Google / Othersnidely
      What's the third one???
      Dec 2
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      There’s also a fourth: a hefty dose of luck.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      1. Don’t want to. Not going to happen.
      2. Don’t care enough atm to put that much effort in.

      Therefore, will probably be alone.
      Dec 2
    • TriNet AYwy24
      Wanna FWB?
      Dec 2
    • Google Rutkfff
      OP, what are your standards based on ? If you pay close attention you might see that these constraints you put on ur happiness are completely arbitrary
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      AYwy24 No thanks, not desperate for sex.
      Rutkfff These standards are based on my own experiences on what kind of person I want to be around day in and day out in order to be happy.
      Dec 2
    • TriNet AYwy24
      This is an interesting experience , getting to understand the inner workings of a beautiful in demand female . Have you read thinking fast thinking slow pretty female ?
      Dec 3
    • Don't go much deep, she is into 30s already
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      AYwy24 I haven’t. Will google it.
      f*offBoss You bitter bro?
      Dec 3
  • New RzFr15
    Pics
    Dec 14
  • Apple Ni hao
    You are a truly rotten person .. die alone
    Dec 17
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Hahahahhahaaa there they are
      Dec 1
    • Amazon what¿
      Ni hao spreading some hate. What is wrong with what was said in the post? And why so many likes on the rude comment
      Dec 2
    • Apple Ni hao
      People like OP cause imbalance in the society and wastes the time and efforts of many guys over many years— that’s very bad behavior
      And so many likes because I’m Soooo right
      Dec 2
    • Amazon / EngL6SDE
      Ni hao, your worldview is fucked
      Dec 2
    • Apple Ni hao
      Alright, go pamper her you dumbfuck
      Dec 2
    • Amazon what¿
      "wastes time and efforts of many guys over many years" 😂🤣
      It sounds like you are projecting a personal experience on to this.

      She is saying she will not just settle for a guy who is not worth it. Everyone should have standards. Guys should also not settle, same thing.
      Dec 2
    • Apple Ni hao
      You join the other Amazonian in this thread and pamper her
      Dec 2
  • Ness Technologies FkTrump
    The reality hits you when no dude hit on you anymore. Life sucks without a loving and caring partner.
    Dec 18
    • Research Now / Eng
      IamIndian

      Research NowEng

      BIO
      If the rule you followed brought you to this ..... of what use was the rule.
      IamIndianmore
      She is having fun right now. But like all women she'll latch on to someone when the time is right for her.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Male attention is not everything and is often unwanted. Someday no one will hit on me and it will probably be a huge relief. And life does not suck without a loving partner. Life can be additionally great with the right partner, but not having one doesn’t mean your life is less than. People would be a lot happier if they had full lives and realized that distinction.
      Dec 2
    • Ness Technologies FkTrump
      Lol your statements are so contradictory. You said life would be additionally great with a great partner and then contradict that by saying life wouldn’t be less great without a great partner
      Dec 2
    • Research Now / Eng
      IamIndian

      Research NowEng

      BIO
      If the rule you followed brought you to this ..... of what use was the rule.
      IamIndianmore
      TLDR: Women Go Their Own Way WGTOW. There is an idiot who is teaching MGTOW in another thread
      Dec 2
    • Facebook QgLd56
      @Ness She didn’t say less great, she said less than. As in your life isn’t deficient somehow if you are single. It’s just different. There is such a strong social expectation that people end up coupled up that it can also create the perception that single people are somehow lacking.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Well said
      Dec 2
    • Research now dude calling me idiot here. @Latinalala you wanna give it a try? We seem like a good match according to the bros here.
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Guess we should start planning the wedding
      Dec 3
  • Google
    Jgdrbn

    Google

    BIO
    Tlz
    Jgdrbnmore
    To each his/her own. Your post does reek of insecurity that is eating you inside and you are looking for comfort in an anonymous forum; or perhaps you are using this forum to think through what you want/reflect and get clarity. Nothing wrong with that. But it'd probably help you if you drop that self-pat on the back/pretense I sense in your comments. For example, you haven't admitted to missing something or making a mistake; every single comment has been I've been right, i am so good, I am so cool that no other person can match my standards. Having said that I genuinely hope you are the kind of person that would enjoy solitude (there's only so much that married friends and family can fill in) all your life; just be very very sure about that. Don't make the mistake of realizing this so late in your life that the guys half the standard you are rejecting now... End up rejecting you just when you want them the most. Good luck to you!
    Dec 26
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Neither actually. But some people really can’t wrap their minds around a woman being happy ending up alone when they could have someone.
      Dec 2
    • Uber buzzbazz
      Society really has issues with the idea/concept of a woman being happy alone. It's somehow offensive to many that you'd want to even do this. They imagine that it's not possible for a woman to be this self-fulfilled or independent.
      Dec 2
    • Google
      Jgdrbn

      Google

      BIO
      Tlz
      Jgdrbnmore
      Well, it's only logical to find it difficult to wrap one's head around a single *individual * (I disagree this is only applied for women and not men). After all, everyone, including me, is gonna contrast this individual against what they have or what they see in society - - which is almost always a family, not solitude. Once I married, I couldn't wrap my head around singles, now that I am a parent, heck, I can't imagine life without my kid and feel anyone choosing to not have a kid is losing out such an important part of what completes life.
      Dec 2
    • Uber buzzbazz
      Fair enough point Jgdrbn - guess most of us need to develop more empathy so we can see others points of view
      Dec 2
    • Salesforce
      v.T A v= u

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      v.T A v= umore
      How about crediting her for saying this out aloud? I'm sure she is helping out many females in similar situation! Her post made my day for sure😎
      Dec 7
    • Microsoft SmackDab
      👍🏼
      7d
  • Salesforce rcno01
    Good for you but I am not sure to understand what's the goal behind this post then if you're so happy about it.

    I also find hard to believe you never met a decent potential husband yet more than 15 years after high school if you're the catch you describe yourself to be.
    Dec 15
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Oh I’ve met great candidates for sure. Came close to marrying and many women would have just gone for it. And then I was like, “but I’m eventually going to get annoyed about [not being able to discuss deep topics, financially supporting us, not having a partner who gives me space, having bad sex, being with a basic person, etc]” I am not willing to give up on any one area that I want in a person just so I’m not alone. But maybe someone will come along and surprise me someday. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I dunno.
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Goal was to point out that some women are fine being alone and to maybe stir the pot a bit with some of the guys on here. I read a few comments in some other threads that weren’t cool.
      Dec 1
    • Salesforce rcno01
      I am still not sure why you want to make this point if you dagf about other people opinions, etc.

      Also, I am surprised you were close to marry those guys and broke up last minute. I mean how the hell were you first in a deep relationship with them if you were so not convinced by them? Are you afraid of commitment ?
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      It wasn’t always a last minute breakup. Sometimes more of a slow fade for me while they and the relationship we’re moving us towards marriage. It takes A LOT to convince me to be with someone forever I guess. And to reiterate, just want to stir the pot a bit here 😁
      Dec 1
    • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
      I fully support you and your okay-ness with being alone and uncompromising standards in general. Plenty of women and men (especially in their 20s and 30s) have these same feelings, and honestly, this is really a great time to just focus on career. Also honestly, I also think it's better for your potential courts as well. You won't be wasting their time or yours.
      Dec 1
  • Facebook / Eng435
    I don’t get it, what are you trying to prove? Everything you’re saying is ok, why would anyone be triggered by it?
    If it works for you then great, hope you’re happy. But posting here like this tells me there is something that’s not quite right.
    Dec 11
  • Google / EngBluths
    What do you hope to get out of an AMA?

    Sounds more like you’re questioning your decisions and seeking reaffirmation from strangers.
    Dec 11
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I don’t get anything out of it that I can think of. Not really questioning anything. Feeling pretty comfortable atm actually.
      Dec 1
  • Apple / EngpMoI16
    TLDR version please?
    Dec 14
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      TLDR: Desirable woman fine being alone will trigger all the Blind incels.

      I like to call them “Blincels”.
      Dec 1
    • Google / MgmtFYlH08
      Looks like she just got dumped and is venting.. 😆
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I haven’t been in a serious relationship in half a year and it was a relief when that ended. So, no. What is there to vent about? But you do seem triggered.
      Dec 2
    • Google / MgmtFYlH08
      Sour grapes "I never wanted it!". Predictably always the same response. Sigh. Get over it.
      Dec 2
  • Cisco Infensus
    Which races do you date?
    Dec 111
    • Would you consider a light skinned east Asian? Fellow INTP. Over 30, 400k TC
      Dec 1
    • Salesforce rcno01
      Why are you ashamed ?
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I haven’t dated an Asian guy since college. He was gorgeous. If they’re good looking then why not
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Ashamed because it’s so typical and I am exhibiting a clear bias for the status quo per social conditioning
      Dec 1
    • Apple / Eng
      c94087

      AppleEng

      BIO
      Strong and built like an Ox
      c94087more
      As Tupac once rapped:

      “Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice; I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots”😉

      I’m dark skinned black but you shouldn’t be ashamed of who you like. Long term (after playing the field) most people settle down with people that have racial, cultural, political, and religious similarities. 😎
      Dec 1
    • Can you name some Asian male celebrities you find good looking?
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      You’re cool
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Hmm the Asian guy from Harold and kumar (is that what it’s called?)
      Keanu is smoking hot and the guy from crazy rich Asians (but they’re half white so idk if that counts)
      The Korean guy from Lost
      Dec 1
    • K
      Dec 1
    • Vertivco / R&D
      Warp Zone!

      VertivcoR&D

      PRE
      YouTube, American Bureau of Shipping, Facebook
      Warp Zone!more
      Or Ki-Hong Lee from maze runner.
      Dec 1
  • Roku / Eng
    Waggish

    RokuEng

    PRE
    Yahoo
    Waggishmore
    Your point being? Looks like you just wanted to brag about yourself.

    “Dudes need to step up their game”

    Jesus! You go around with a gauging scale? You just bring competition to the relationship, run fellows 🏃🏼‍♂️.
    Dec 110
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Bye!
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft ChillLife
      Witch
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      That’s actually a complIment, thank you.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft ChillLife
      Complement? you stupid as well
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      There I edited the one letter my phone changed for you. So how chill are you really? You seem mad bro
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft ChillLife
      Not your bro. Why brozone me.. you too..
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Of course not. My bros are both cool and chill. I only hang out with people up to standard.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft ChillLife
      You are looks like my next gal fran
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      You are a broken little boy aren’t you?
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft ChillLife
      Yeah I am.. why shaming me in public. I wanted to be franzzz
      Dec 3
  • Cisco Infensus
    How many leetcodes have you solved?
    Dec 19
    • New RzFr15
      pls. This is a woman. Zero.
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      150. I have enough in my life that I don’t want to waste time on Leetcode
      Dec 2
    • Uber buzzbazz
      @RzFr15 is a misogynist
      Dec 2
    • New RzFr15
      So what. That’s not a crime!
      Dec 2
    • Uber buzzbazz
      Certainly not a crime - you should wear that badge publicly... So your employer knows who to exclude from interview panels
      Dec 3
    • New RzFr15
      I do wear it. Thanks for your 2 cents. Also employers do not give a fuck. Some of the highest paid execs are misogynists. Grow up and face reality. lol
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      He’s equating himself to a high paid executive now 😂
      Dec 3
    • New RzFr15
      I am.
      Dec 3
    • Uber buzzbazz
      @RzFr15 I don't like what you said at all, but believe you're speaking the truth.
      Dec 4
  • Amazon / Engsde3
    Weird post from an insecured lady or just a troll.
    Dec 23
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Weird post from a SECURE lady who is trolling a bit
      Dec 2
    • Uber 4x intern
      She’s so secure that she typed it in all caps so that we know.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      YES
      Dec 2
  • Groupon 094dfe
    I was with you until the "cool with having a kid alone". The way you stated that shows you haven't really thought through that, it's just something you say to make yourself feel better. It's freaking hard to be a single parent, grinding, emotionally thankless for years, and a tough choice to make for your children. Its not something you are just "cool" with.

    I would suggest doing some slow travelling or getting out of the bay, if you haven't done so already. I think it will help you refine your standards. Also, try to shake off some of the "lessons" you learned in your past relationships, it's better to approach each person with a bit of idealism.
    Dec 23
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      My sister is a single mom of two and I have no doubts it is thankless and harder than having another parent to help. Not sure why you’d think that someone being okay with becoming a single parent means they don’t know better. Maybe you should reevaluate your judgements.
      Also, I’m at 9 countries (big trips not just passing through) and am actually pretty tired of a lot of travel this year so I’m good. And your advice to shake off some lessons is weird - I’m not hung up on past relationships. But you seem to know so much about some from one Blind post 😂. Are you a man by chance? Thank you for mansplaining my life to me either way.
      Dec 2
    • Groupon 094dfe
      Don't post about your life in a public forum of you can't handle commentary on your post. Good luck to you in your non search for the perfect man!
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      If I couldn’t handle commentary I wouldn’t post. Don’t make judgemental comments if you can’t handle getting called out for it.
      Dec 2
  • Amazon JWdr84
    Freeze your eggs.
    Dec 13
  • Amazon / EngTroll Food
    Cool story lady. If that works for you thats fine. But why are you posting it? Are you subconsciously not happy about this?
    Dec 21
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Mmm I don’t think so. Was bothered by some comments about women on some other threads and also wanted to bug the incels a bit.
      Dec 2
  • Do you cry at night?
    Dec 11
  • HCL / Otherjstwrkhere
    Tinder and instagram attention didn’t make it for you huh! You gotta come get some on blind too. Keep it up girl, you like what you like.

    Don’t tell me this long essay about yourself is not for attention
    Dec 22
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I’m fine with the attention especially when so much of it is annoyed incels 👆🏼
      Dec 2
    • HCL / Otherjstwrkhere
      What’s incels ?
      Dec 2
  • T-Mobile Work$$
    You want someone to impress you or massage your ego of all the qualities you listed above?
    Dec 12
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Wasn’t expecting it but if you’d like to I won’t mind.
      Dec 2
    • T-Mobile Work$$
      Meh
      Dec 2
  • HCL / Otherjstwrkhere
    You’re already deep in your thirties, I don’t think people on blind would care much if a grandma doesn’t wanna settle.
    But it’s good that you know what you want, or should I say what you didn’t have much control over?
    Dec 21
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Didn’t have control over what? I’ve had the options to settle down. And if they don’t care then why conment
      Dec 2
  • eBay Lol eBa
    I’m curious what you look like but I’m sure you’d never post a picture here.
    Dec 18
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Definitely not. I could see a lot of angry men here doxxing because of something like this that triggers them
      Dec 1
    • eBay Lol eBa
      Yeah probably.

      What kind of guys do you prefer?

      Honestly to me it sounds like you’re telling yourself you have many reasons to be happy. But is there anything you want in life that you feel is missing?
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Hmm. I think I want to not have to live in the Bay Area anymore. I’ve been here a while and it bums me out now. Not sure what else I would do. And I wish I had more family in the area.
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I prefer strong men who can challenge me, who have ambitions and successes in their field, deep intelligence, charm and personality i.e. can hold an interesting conversation, and who are conventionally attractive.
      Dec 1
    • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
      I'm totally all for standards and knowing what we want, but that seems like an awful lot of vague and subjective standards for any human. Can you elaborate on examples of these that you have witnessed?
      Dec 1
    • eBay Lol eBa
      But in the Bay Area girls can date above their score, so many thirsty dudes. Take advantage of it haha
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Though the Bay Area makes finding dates easy, the odds are good but the goods are odd.
      Dec 2
    • eBay Lol eBa
      Have you had better luck with guys from SF or hr South Bay?
      Dec 4
  • New ktFx33
    I’ve observed this extreme pickiness (excuse my judgement) in a few people (mostly women) in their 30s. Mostly at the end of 30s they get very lonely and depressed because their biological clock is running out and aging causes them to lose their looks etc. But I always respect people who can do well on their own most people can’t. But keep in mind it’s not going to be “the same” forever when it comes to options and availability
    Dec 23
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      Some women manage to keep their looks well into their 50s and 60s. There’s chronological age and biological age. For most of us they are in lockstep. For the lucky few, they age better. And for the unlucky, well....
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I’m fine with options minimizing since I’m not too worried about finding someone. Since hitting 30 I’ve even noticed on apps that show my age that I get less hits. Oh well. Looks and male attention are not everything.
      Dec 2
    • New ktFx33
      Best of luck I’m sure you’ll find someone awesome.
      Dec 2
  • Cisco Infensus
    Best sexual experience?
    Dec 11
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Being in love with someone who was intuitive and experienced in bed and having a few months of experience with each other. The best sex seems to come from some time and connection for us to let loose but still having it early enough in the relationship to be new and fresh.
      Dec 1
  • Intuit / OtherSasan 😈
    37-25-37 but then 32D? OP is clearly a dude who has no clue what those things mean
    Dec 23
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      yea what is that?
      Dec 2
    • IEEE cfgauss
      This.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Have you tried on bras lately? Know how arithmetic works?
      Dec 2
  • New mdGG61
    That's fine but will you be ok with in in 10 years though? How about 20?

    If you pay attention you'll see the average quality of the partners you can attract going down over time. If you become lonely later you'll have to "compromise" way more than you'd have now.

    Hope you find your happiness!
    Dec 12
    • Uber buzzbazz
      This is bs... The quality of your partners is determined by their availability and your selectivity. With divorce rates hovering around 50% there are plenty of folks available.
      Dec 2
    • New mdGG61
      You don't think their baggage should count as strictly worse? I do.
      Dec 2
  • New / Eng
    SanHolo

    NewEng

    BIO
    Tc = broke. Education: the Derek Zoolander school for kids who can’t read and want to do other stuff good too
    SanHolomore
    And yet , here you are telling a bunch of anonymous strangers that you are ok.
    Dec 21
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      And here they are bothered about it 😁
      Dec 2
  • EMC
    dicpic

    EMC

    BIO
    Free. Just ask ....
    dicpicmore
    Would you consider giving someone pity sex?
    Dec 11
  • Cruise Automation PYEX13
    Interesting. Fellow INTP here also fine with being alone, and my finding is that women need to step up their game if they expect me to go after them.
    Dec 11
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      This is probably why INTPs end up with extroverts. I’ve been thinking about this lately and pushing myself more when I come across other introverts (I’m damn good at socializing, it’s just tiring.)
      Dec 1
  • Flagged by the community.

  • VMware BobbleHat
    Why not give your future baby a daddy... It makes a difference to them.
    Dec 111
    • VMware BobbleHat
      Yes
      Dec 2
    • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
      Really though?
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I don’t think it does. Also, I could also have a kid with someone cool and not be with them.
      Dec 2
    • Uber 4x intern
      My sibling and I have an amazing mom but we definitely would’ve been better off with a good father in our lives
      Dec 2
    • VMware BobbleHat
      +1 it makes a huge difference
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I know plenty of messed up people with two parents. And plenty of solid folks with one parent. But cool story bros.
      Dec 2
    • VMware BobbleHat
      I know plenty of solid folks that tried heroin. And plenty of people that are drug free and are messed up. I guess it doesn’t make a difference. Party tonight!!!
      Dec 2
    • Airbnb Wyqpd
      Wow. People think it doesn’t make a difference to have a father? Never thought that would be questioned. We can all agree that children can turn out good or bad either way, but I wouldn’t have guessed people seriously wouldn’t have a preference for a two parents versus single parenthood. People are crazy.
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      People are stuck in the fifties. Two good mothers, two good fathers, one good mother, one good father - those are good for kids. Where in our genetics does it say we have to be raised by a father and mother, even if they’re terrible?
      Dec 3
    • VMware BobbleHat
      Why limit at human, I encourage sending your babies to the forest to be raised by wolves. You don’t have to sacrifice anything then.
      Dec 3
  • Cisco Infensus
    Body count?
    Dec 19
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Body count? I only have 1.
      Dec 1
    • Cisco Infensus
      Number of sexual partners.
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Hmm I think it’s 40
      Dec 1
    • Cisco Infensus
      Nice
      Dec 1
    • Qualcomm Bacolod-
      I m male and I just have 3 body count experience and now 3 is gonna be the upper bound BigO since I m married now :/
      Dec 1
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      But it’s about quality not quantity right?
      Dec 1
    • Cisco Wakeup
      40 ? 😳 hopefully no STDs
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      You know it only takes once to catch an STD right? Also, don’t worry, you have no chance of me sleeping with you.
      Dec 2
    • Cisco Wakeup
      Thank you!
      Dec 2
  • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
    Honestly, I’m glad that OP had the guts to say what she did. I’m an older married guy (mid 30s) and if my son or daughter wanted to do this I would support them. Having a good partner is one of the single largest factors of happiness in life, aside from our natural predisposition for it. And that means also choosing not to have one can be the right choice for some.
    Dec 20
  • Snapchat +1s
    TC or GTFO
    Dec 10
  • Amazon / EngBenny Lava
    The thing is, relationship isn't always about finding the best deal or the one. You have to put in effort to build it with someone who also want to put in effort.

    Many over achiever men and women fail to realize that and end up alone.
    6d4
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Yes, relationships take effort, but why put up with someone who isn’t on your level? Overachievers are also ending up alone because other overachievers they are attracted to are rare. Obviously overachievers are not afraid of putting in work so I would say your hypothesis has holes.
      6d
    • Amazon / EngBenny Lava
      There are always holes no matter how you look at things.

      Reality is we all look at myself differently than how others look at us. Don't forget personality and ease to deal with is also an important quality like attractiveness, education, or income level.
      6d
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      That made very little sense.
      6d
    • Amazon / EngBenny Lava
      Let me put it this way, if guys at your level are not putting in the effort for you, the equation is not balanced. Maybe you are not at the same level as you expected. I mean, why bother at your level when they can put in the same effort for a higher level?

      So, does that make sense now?
      3d
  • Imagine if the roles were reversed.
    Dec 13
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I’d say props to the guy. And if he’s hot id ask if he wants to go on a date.
      Dec 2
    • Lmao fire doesnt put out fire.

      With that level of ego on both sides, you wouldnt last a month.
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Maybe. I’m sure we would both be fine with that tho. And it’d be a fun month.
      Dec 2
  • Apple / Eng
    c94087

    AppleEng

    BIO
    Strong and built like an Ox
    c94087more
    Impressive LaLa! Congratulations on your success. 👍🏾 FYI,friends aren’t always the best judge of your positive attributes. They may mean well but it is hard to find someone who will “keep it real”. 😉
    Dec 13
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      We do definitely all create our own echo chambers.
      Dec 1
    • Apple / Eng
      c94087

      AppleEng

      BIO
      Strong and built like an Ox
      c94087more
      Of course. Everyone wants to be liked to an extent. I only have a couple of trustworthy friends who do not live in Cali. The rest I deal with are associates and mentors. In the end whatever keeps you grounded and happy is all that matters 😀
      Dec 1
    • Vertivco / R&D
      Warp Zone!

      VertivcoR&D

      PRE
      YouTube, American Bureau of Shipping, Facebook
      Warp Zone!more
      I'm looking for some mentors. Anyone you can recommend? 👋🏾
      Dec 1
  • Cisco Infensus
    What do you think of trump?
    Dec 12
  • IEEE cfgauss
    When was the last time you cried ?
    Dec 21
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Last week. My oldest friend hurt my feelings and I got upset.
      Dec 2
  • Airbnb jim.hodlen
    more power to you! I honestly don’t have any meaningful questions.
    Dec 11
  • Hyland luuU85
    Dec 20
  • LinkedIn munna
    How's your sex life? Once a week or month?
    Dec 26
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Once a month if I’m not dating anyone in particular
      Dec 2
    • How do you have sex when not dating anyone?
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Who says you have to be dating someone to have sex?
      Dec 3
    • Does tinder not count as dating? Do people actually just meet up and fuck without doing anything else?
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft Akd71.36
      Going on a date is not the same as dating someone
      Dec 3
    • Semantics...
      Dec 3
  • Salesforce
    v.T A v= u

    Salesforce

    BIO
    I am blind to something and you are too.
    v.T A v= umore
    I'm kind of like you. 33 , female, 320k tc. Not desperate to find a mate but definitely looking. INFP, Indian, if that matters.
    Question: I feel for us introverts we don't usually latch on to people or have infatuations. But when it happens it's because there is a real connection and it feels pretty overwhelming. We don't admire men often, but when we do it's pretty intense. Have you been in a place where you fell in love with someone, wanted them and couldn't have them? How do you deal with this?
    (I could use some coping mechanisms as well and you seem fun with your answers!)
    Dec 74
    • Salesforce
      v.T A v= u

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      v.T A v= umore
      Also, you seem cool. Would love to get a drink with you
      Dec 7
    • Apple Ni hao
      Get stoned
      Dec 7
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Oh hai! You seem cool too.
      Yes, that’s happened to me with a couple different men in my life and I remember it distinctly because liking them intensely was a feeling I was not used to and I honestly got pretty awkward about it when I normally keep it pretty cool! And then I couldn’t have them and it sucked. Even though we didn’t date or hang out for very long, it took me longer to get over them than people I had dated for a greater period of time. Now I know to take it slow with everyone I come across and keep my expectations loooooow and hope for just more good friends to add to the mix.
      7d
    • Salesforce
      tensorchic

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      tensorchicmore
      Ditto! Learning this the hard way!
      7d
  • Amazon Tough life
    32d is too disproportionate for a 5.4 ,110 pound body. Must be a implant.You are trying hard to make it sound as if you are a nymph.
    Dec 34
    • Amazon / EngTroll Food
      Not necessarily. I know a lot of latina with the 37d 25 37 5'4" 110# body. Not always going to last their whole life but with no child birth lasting into early 30 is possible.
      Dec 3
    • Amazon Tough life
      This one is 32d , do you realize how narrow the chest has to be to be 32 but the cup size is D which is very difficult to fill unless augmented.
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      I know 😁. I’m lucky.
      Dec 3
    • Amazon / Eng臥槽泥馬戈壁
      Pic or it never happened
      Dec 3
  • Facebook acurious
    What is the point really?
    Have you exausted your dating sample space and looking for some one who deserves better than you and wont settle down for less than that ?
    Dec 13
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Huh? English better please
      Dec 2
    • Hyland luuU85
      @acurious is asking if you’re stubbornly trying to land someone out of your league?
      Dec 2
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      No, Im not trying to “land” anyone. That’s the point.
      Dec 3
  • Microsoft ChillLife
    Come work in my kitchen and scream while I fuck you
    Dec 22
  • New numaye
    Of course do not settle for a relationship you won't be satisfied with. On the other hand, try to evaluate your criteria objectively. You may end up with regrets if down the line you realize your previous criteria were unnecessarily stringent and you passed on perfectly acceptable partners.
    Dec 11
    • Microsoft LatinaLaLa
      OP
      Maybe. But right now I feel pretty good about my standards and settling
      Dec 2
  • Cisco Infensus
    Do you have an Instant pot?
    Dec 11
  • Flagged by the community.

  • VMware / Eng
    tyxS31

    VMwareEng

    PRE
    Microsoft, Hulu
    tyxS31more
    I think it is a good thing to realise that about yourself, please don't ever compromise and marry a poor dude and ruin his life.
    Dec 10
  • IEEE cfgauss
    Did you very recently learned the word "incels" and this whole AMA was all about using it again and again
    Dec 21

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