Once I started 100% passing as a woman and switched teams a few times my eyes opened to how different it is to be a woman in tech. No one assumes I'm a capable engineer despite that I've built everything from massive distributed data systems to embedded C++ to desktop GUIs. I get creeped on in the internal messaging systems. Most people assume I'm in a non-tech role. Dudes randomly bump into me in the elevators. It has been really interesting so far and has changed my views about diversity hiring practices. Discuss?
Enjoy being hot while it lasts. Did you keep the best part of being a man?
So far.
This person is trolling bc no trans woman 100% passes for a woman. It is always completely obvious. Not being sexist just stating how it is. Google search for best looking trans women, you can always tell.
Mario are you telling me you expect women in tech to be hot? Plenty of frumpy gals (I am one myself when being lazy), dudes can totally blend. I worked for a trans pm I didn't realize was trans until I was told.
Tell them you're trans and it'll stop, I promise.
being outed as a trans woman can be dangerous in some instances, and encourage even more negative attention
Ha. Actually, depending on where I'm at and how rude they were I use my deepest dude voice and say no.
i can spot a trans 95% of the time
confirmation bias
You don't know how low your false negatives are.
A trans woman has 2x the sexual dating value than a male model. Enjoy your free drinks and white knights willing to bend over backwards to take care of you
Op is a troll. I used to work in banking where I was the only woman on a lot of projects. I never felt like I was treated different except that people kept insisting on opening doors for me
If op had said one or two men treated her like that I’d believe it but it’s certainly not something where you’d experience it everywhere
Confirmation bias. You probably got bumped into all the time but you just don’t think about it. I get bumped into all the time and I don’t think of it as some major problem with society because I’m a man. Now you get bumped and are like “Oh no, it’s that patriarchy everyone has been telling me about! Reeeeeeee!” Feminism has brainwashed you and many women into thinking that every slightly annoying thing that happens to you is because you’re a woman. It’s a crazy conspiracy theory kind of thinking. You’re a flat-earther. You’re a 9/11 truther.
Very few people have had the experience that you're describing. What else can you tell us
The majority (90%ish) of trans people pass perfectly after 3-5 years on the skittles. Voice training/surgery is usually the last obstacle. Trans people that don't pass after a couple years had bad genes or doctors that didn't push E/T to higher levels. For example, TSA always runs me twice. First as a women, then as a man when they see my genitals. You wouldn't know. Most people are really uncomfortable with trans. I don't tell hardly anyone. Many people think it's a mental illness, but it isn't. I have a wife now but dating was terrifying. The workplaces was very accepting during my transition, but women are less respected as engineers. Women are given smaller scope and easier tasks which doesn't help their growth as much as men. I honestly wasn't expecting that much sexism. I also wasn't expecting so much romantic attention. Idk, I don't think I'm a bombshell but tech dudes come off as desperate.
I think almost all dudes come off as desperate, nothing specific to tech.