URGENT: Dating advice needed

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Jul 11, 2017 96 Comments

I'm flying up to Seattle this week for a work trip. Have a first date with someone who is pretty local to Seattle, but I don't want to appear totally ill-prepared. She's quite the catch and I probably won't survive the shame if I bomb this date.

She's pretty down to earth. Likes exploring new things. Eats fairly healthy. Intelligent.

Tagging companies with HQ in Seattle. Thank you!

#firstdate #help

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  • Amazon Ash.
    The best dating advice I can give is not to take dating advice from Blind
    Jul 11, 2017 2
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Duly noted. Will take with a grain of salt
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon Q4TerEr
      I think you'll need more than a grain. Maybe a full salt block, to grill a steak or two on. Tastes great that way.
      Jul 16, 2017
  • Microsoft i'mlonely
    If sushi is her thing, I'd do Kashiba in Pike Place market. Pricy, but best sushi in town. Omakase or nothing. first seating is 5pm, then 7pm. Show up at 6pm and wait in line to get first dibs for Omakase in front of Shiro. Tell her to show up at 7pm. She'll appreciate it
    Jul 11, 2017 6
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Wow. Thanks!
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon Ash.
      Shiro's!! Best sushi in town IMO. Michelin rated 2.5
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon ViI
      Shiro's is so... 2015. Shiro left and opened Kashiba with his son. The New spot is Kashiba, hands down.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon Ash.
      Didn't know that thanks for the tip
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Those are the exact words I will utter.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook EmmetBrown
      What is it with chumps throwing everything they got at a first date? She's gotta earn that second date just like you do. 30 minutes in a coffee shop to decide you can at least understand and not kill each other. Save the expensive, wait-y restaurant for date three or four.
      Jul 18, 2017
  • Expedia / Product
    JulyBug

    Expedia Product

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    JulyBugmore
    Why not let her make the recommendations since she’s the host
    Jul 11, 2017 6
    • Microsoft / Eng Hanky Pank
      Nah, definitely make the plans as a guy
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft
      Freya ❤

      Microsoft

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      Norse Goddess Of Love and War
      Freya ❤more
      It's definitely nice when somebody has suggestions so it's not all like "I don't know, where do you want to go?"

      It's nice to be able to just say "sounds great!"
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Expedia / Product
      JulyBug

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      I see traditional gender roles are still at work in the Pacific Northwest
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft
      Freya ❤

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      Freya ❤more
      Traditional gender roles are always at play in regards to sex. You look at the percentages of women who prefer "dominant" men and judge for yourself.

      That said, if the women invites, she should plan. If the guys invites, he should plan.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Gamblit Gaming / Product
      ggcggc

      Gamblit Gaming Product

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      Product Manager, Alternative Real-Money Gaming Math/Game Design Focus
      ggcggcmore
      Tell it like it is Freya. And every girl is different. Some girls do like the traditional gender roles and some don't. Same with guys. And that's not a bad thing people are different and everyone has their own preferences in a partner. No one's preference is any less valid than anyone else's.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Spoken like a Sr. PM.

      @Freya ❤️ is right. Definitely should have some plans. Even if they sound funky, need to deliver on making them awesome.
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Amazon ViI
    Sounds like a lucky lady. Weather is bomb in Seattle. Warm enough to walk around. You said she's fairly local to Seattle?
    Jul 11, 2017 7
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      She's been there a few years. Doesn't work in tech if that help?
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon ViI
      Then safe to assume she's been to all the "popular" spots.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Amazon ViI
      There is a spot in Fremont called Rockcreek. They do Amazing things with fish. Get the cauliflower salad, octopus and cod.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft klan
      Yeah not a lot of people know about RockCreek. Place is romantic, but not over the top great dinner spot.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Google tADA20
      since she's the local, why don't you ask if she would like to pick a place?
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Fitbit bigboiiii
      ^^^ no shame in asking at all.
      Jul 13, 2017
    • Amazon / Eng
      Shaya

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      Shayamore
      If she eats healthy and organic, try Tilth on 45th in Wallingford. Small plates, exquisite food, and romantic ambiance. Reservations required. $$&
      Jul 13, 2017
  • LinkedIn datagirl
    Take it from the lady. Dinner on Cap hill at http://www.sitkaandspruce.com/, then head over to Canon Bar for some intimate cocktails.
    Jul 11, 2017 4
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Thoughts on Starbucks reserve next door?
      Jul 11, 2017
    • LinkedIn datagirl
      too touristy and always packed. Only nice if you wanna get coffee fairly late into the evening. They are open pretty late.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Apple
      macallan

      Apple

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      macallanmore
      Sitka and Spruce was great--wife and I are from SF and this one of our memorable dinners
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      ^ I'm looking at photos now. Might pull the trigger. Sit right in that kitchen.
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Pluralsight / Other
    pluralsigt

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    you're F'd hahaha
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      That's the plan.
      Jul 11, 2017
  • TuneIn PtNO13
    if you can help it, don't put her on pedestal, especially if you think she's the catch. Be nice, but imagine how you'll treat her if you are surrounded by girls of her caliber all the time.
    Jul 11, 2017 6
    • Microsoft i'mlonely
      Tunein, no idea where you are based, but if you are from SF like OP (or Menlo Park) it takes time to adjust. It's Man Francisco.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • TuneIn PtNO13
      Man Francisco, lol, I'm gonna steal this line!
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Flowroute envisean
      I agree, focus on the date with her and not making sure the spots are awesome and perfect.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Also:

      San Jose - Man Jose
      San Mateo - San Manteo

      ;)
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FKDh48
      Bay Area - Boy Area
      Jul 13, 2017
    • Amazon Q4TerEr
      San Fredcisco
      Jul 16, 2017
  • Amazon / Eng Nice!!
    Little Darlings
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      I've been there. It's a sad sad place. Come to sf, stop by Gold's Club
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft MadarChodu
    my place... I do her while you cook for us
    Jul 11, 2017 2
    • Blizzard / Eng noestimate
      Savage.... says fuck first. Locals will get it.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Prediction: @MadarChodu has cuck fantasies by no wife.
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft / Eng Hanky Pank
    Where is your hotel? Set up dinner and drinks nearby, walk her back there after
    Jul 11, 2017 2
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      I'm more then happy to splurge on an Uber. I might even go crazy and call an Uber Select. Then immediately cancel if I get an Toyota Avalon. ;)
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft / Eng Hanky Pank
      Of course you can take Uber. But it's 100x easier to get her back there if you're right there and can just walk. Is it logical? No. But that's how it works.
      Jul 12, 2017
  • New chez
    Take her to the cafeteria at Microsoft
    Jul 11, 2017 3
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      There is a John Howie spot there right? Had a 3 course there once, thought it was super awesome until the bill came.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft RqlM81
      lol until the bill came? $15 dollars for a 3 course meal is too rich for your blood?
      Jul 12, 2017
    • Microsoft / Eng Harmar
      If $15 for three courses is out of your range, the other suggestions on this thread are really going to be a rude surprise...
      Jul 15, 2017
  • Expedia / Product EXPErto
    water taxi to west Seattle, eat at marination, have a couple beers with the best view on the city. uber , or lyft, to the junction find the back bar at maharaja, get lit, when it gets late go to new luck toy for some a+ Chinese food and slushies. end of night. if she's not ready to go, you don't want her
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Wow.
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft
    Freya ❤

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    What are you thinking beyond dinner? Cocktails are good of course but maybe have a plan beyond dinner and drinks. Even if it is walking around a park to enjoy the weather or a view... or seeing a band... or going to an art gallery...or going to the Bowie exhibit at MoPop... mini golf at Interbay... whatever else you can think of. It's nice to have options at the ready to keep the date going and to keep conversation flowing. Figure out some fun things near where you're going to dinner. Just make sure you do something where you can still chat. You may or may not do them but prep is smart.

    Of course, if she's wearing super high heels don't plan for any long walks.
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Heels? I'll be sure to drop off some hints like a proper gent. "Dress comfortable, flats, bring sunblock." Based on what I settle with.

      Bowie exhibit might be fun. Haha
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft / Sales twolips🌷
    Fuck her right in the pussy
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Noble Software Group / Design jesse
    Kenmore Air seaplane tour. you'll definitely get air head.
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Microsoft maverickk
    Take her star gazing. You can rent a 5 inch telescope with an equatorial mount and set it up yourself, it's not that hard. You're sure to get brownie points for doing that.
    Jul 11, 2017 3
    • Microsoft
      Freya ❤

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      Freya ❤more
      Excellent idea! Though a little hard to do in July as it's light until almost 10pm.
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      I plan on hanging out till late. Maximize my time with her. Star gazing really?
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Salesforce cvb
      +1 for star gazing, even better if you have a half decent knowledge of constellations / planets or just have a sky map app handy. If she is the curious type, even setting up the telescope together could be fun.
      Jul 14, 2017
  • Amazon Gwannabe
    treat her like any other girls. Usually the moment i hear someone said they like this girl, she's abc xyz, they defly get friendzoned. If its first date the cheap Thai food, ice cream, depends on your and her location. Capitol Hill is mad fun yoo
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Friday in Capital Hill might be too crazy. Maybe for that Seattle dog. #sogood
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft / Other RangerDngr
    Pink door
    Jul 11, 2017 0
  • Microsoft lazyass007
    How about a small hike at a waterfall since it's fucking hot here?
    Jul 11, 2017 2
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Is it hot up in Seattle?
      Jul 11, 2017
    • Microsoft lazyass007
      Hot enough that you both would be in swimwear 😜
      Jul 12, 2017
  • eBay gotogo
    Don't bullshit... be yourself... don't get too excited.... no past talks... present and future only ...hobbies and passion ..... tv series and movies are great conversation topics .... don't get into politics and religion

    Most importantly respect the lady... be a gentleman... and also listen intently and answer politely and confidently

    Venue: try and choose neutral venues as much as possible. Some crowd should be there but at the same time you have some privacy too. Don't go above 2 drinks.

    If possible take flowers and chocolates.
    Jul 12, 2017 1
    • Microsoft / Eng 🌜Nutela🌛
      Why not go above 2 drinks if she's doing it too?

      "Take flowers and chocolates" --- WTF?
      Jul 12, 2017
  • Pure Storage umIN66
    don't know if you can get in on short notice, but Westward on N. Lake Union is fucking awesome.
    Jul 12, 2017 1
    • Microsoft FrLucifer
      I'd go for the drinks and view, but don't stay for dinner. Head late, find a cozy spot by the fire.
      Jul 16, 2017
  • Amazon P Bateman
    Deja Vu
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      Even worse than little darlings. Again, please visit SF, some stop by Gold's Club
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft MadarChodu
    gambling at Indian resevation
    Jul 11, 2017 1
    • Facebook FVgP80
      OP
      You again? Usually table rules at smaller casinos are pretty crap. Black jack pays out less, dealer hits on soft 17. Ugh
      Jul 11, 2017
  • Microsoft FrLucifer
    I'd honestly ask her what she enjoys in Seattle and make her show you a part of her world instead of pretending to be fancy.
    Jul 16, 2017 0
  • Amazon kqqr40
    Well. What did ya decide?!
    Jul 13, 2017 0
  • Amazon gWmJ17
    Is Blind just saturated with pathetic people who can't do a single goddamn thing for themselves? These posts are so desperate and sad
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Avanade / Ops mgbe
    Smith Bar on Capitol Hill has great food, happy hour, drinks and decor. It's dark and they have booths and communal tables. For more casual with lots of other options within walking distance go to Rocco's on 2nd in Belltown - awesome pizza and cocktails. Afterwards plenty of bars, jazz club, dance clubs, etc and right near the market too
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Expedia Montana
    So OP, did you get laid?
    Nov 5, 2017 0
  • Expedia NitroNatio
    No dinner, just drinks. Dinner is too committed. Alcohol the social lubricant is all you need
    Aug 24, 2017 0
  • Boeing / Product
    jdr123

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    crane mechanic
    jdr123more
    Museum of Flight at Paine Field will get you inside the largest building in the world.
    Jul 31, 2017 0
  • Microsoft JUcc48
    Dude, how'd it go? Come on with an update or recap...spill
    Jul 23, 2017 0
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    GhJB11

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    Canlis
    Jul 18, 2017 0
  • Microsoft Gmaj58
    Your best shot is to be honest. She knows you've not been to Seattle, right? Let her show you around. Let her know you want to know all about her home, what she likes. Let her show you her favorite things to do.
    Maybe use a couple of the ideas shared here to impress her that you also do your research and are truly interested in this place, but don't try to drag her around to a bunch of places people shared on Blind before you see a few of the things she likes.
    Jul 18, 2017 0
  • Apple pimpl
    Dude, you haven't even gone on a date yet. Please get it in your head that her being "quite a catch" is pure imagined bullshit. You don't know that yet. You don't know shit yet. So why not let some of that pressure go and instead try to enjoy some of your shared interest together. Since she's the local why don't you let her impress you. Have fun for crying out loud and realize there's no shame in some girl you only went out with once not working out. Open up to the possibility that maybe she could "bomb this date" too.
    Jul 15, 2017 0
  • Microsoft MaybeItsMe
    be original, be yourself. When you're on date, try not to let yourself to be distracted by other people around you, specially girls
    Jul 14, 2017 0
  • Microsoft TonaldRump
    wherever you decide is fine...add an element of intrigue... tell her to skip one piece of clothing and you will do the same...towards the end of the date you each will reveal that piece which is missing
    Jul 13, 2017 0
  • Amazon / Product
    8===D~

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    8===D~more
    Little Darlings has a great atmosphere
    Jul 13, 2017 0
  • Google / Mgmt
    goog111

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    goog111more
    if you want my shitty opinion:

    she's been to all the good places in town.

    check out restaurants on the islands

    book a float plane there.

    fuck.
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • LinkedIn durbot
    Don't sweat it. Don't rehearse convos. What you do doesn't really matter as much as who you're with. If you have chemistry you could do just about anything.
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Microsoft clippy
    Haha you thought this was urgent
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Google 1stop
    hey OP. introduce her to your world. tap into whatever it is that makes you feel you're da shit {read:Interesting}. you're going there for work, so the natural progression would be to do anything you enjoy doing after a day in the office. if it's interesting and exciting then she'll enjoy it with you. if it's not, at least you'll be enjoying it and will be around others who are enjoying it as well. reframe the setting. it's not a date. it's a chance to share your world with someone who is already attracted to you, while showing her things she "ain't never seen before." Rock on... you got this!!
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Amazon 🤘Hard🐓
    lol go someplace quiet you can eat and talk it's just a date
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Cisco / Product
    truthdr99

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    truthdr99more
    wham bam thanq mam works ! long distance relationships never seem to workout in the long run. our bodies have basic needs (sexxxx)....
    Jul 12, 2017 0
  • Cisco / Product flareon
    You sound like a great catch too. Good luck!
    Jul 12, 2017 0

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