Have you ever used having a boyfriend/girlfriend as an excuse to turn down unwanted advances at work (even if you are actually single)? Why or why not?
What is the “real” purpose of this question? Are you looking for validation for your actions? What do you want to get out from the responses?
Yeah what is the purpose of this question OP? Do whatever you need to do to fend off unwanted advance, no one should ask out at work any way given the current climate especially.
I shouldn’t need the excuse of another relationship to ward off unwanted attention. No means no. Anyone who can’t respect me and accept that can gtfo. Persistence past this warrants an HR conversation.
No, but I've told girls I'm single when I'm not.
Why does it matter? Sometimes it's truth, sometimes it's an obvious hint that she's not interested. Best thing to do is save your efforts and move on.
Yes because fuck off I’m at work.
Just say no.
Do not use an excuse. Just tell them you are not interested and if the person keeps pursuing he deserves a meeting with the HR.
What’s up with the hate? Using the gf bf line is a clear way to ward off advances gently. That way you can preserve egos and relationships.
Agreed. Its best to gentle with the feelings of others. Especially when you're rejecting them. However, sometimes the bf reason is given because some men respest the perceived property of another man more than a woman's "no". And that's a problem.
The issue is that no doesn’t always mean no. I know several friends who are now married, where the man was persistent through the woman’s “no”. Apparently no sometimes means “not yet”. Some women also use no to play hard to get.
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Happens all the time if you're a girl. Guys react in Crazy Stupid Ways and take it personally and have to feel like they threatened the lady safety.