Two days ago, ended up on a phone call with a Tinder match. One of the best conversations I've had with someone in a long time. Made plans to grab drinks yesterday. Yesterday could not get in contact with them, they unmatched me on Tinder and seem to have blocked my phone number. I'm kinda dumbfounded nothing between a one hour phone call that went really well and suddenly being distanced with no communication whatsoever. Kinda rattling to go from really excited about a date to completely blocked with no explanation.
It’s tinder. Normal behavior for most people there.
You got ghosted. Move on to the next.
Admittedly haven't dated much, it was bizarre that a) she wanted to call b)setup the time to meetup and then c) didn't just stop responding but blocked me (with imessage when you block people messages stop getting delivered)
Good to know about the iMessage thing, I’ll keep that factoid around in my mind for a while
Don’t take it personally but know that it was absolutely personal. Move on. People take off their decency mask on dating apps
Ghosting is a common thing these days unfortunately. Happened to me last week despite everything suggesting things were going good. It sucks, but it is what it is.
Yeah the ghosting is normal this was above and beyond my previous experiences though.
she found someone better on the app
Age and location?
Name and shame
Adults not being adults. Why does anyone ghost after initiating conversation?
I kinda agree, generally if you initiate making plans and then want to back out you should just say something. Anything from 'between last night and this morning I found someone better' 'im married sorry' 'i just am not ready to actually date' would be better... But dating apps and human decency. I adjusted my day for our date and was excited for it, least anyone in that situation deserves is a heads up.
Sorry OP. Don't lose heart. You dodged a bullet. She didn't have basic human decency to say she didn't want to take this further. You don't want to be dating someone like that!
The reality is that she found someone better on the app. I have a long experience of online dating and some good successes. People are vile when dating and they are always looking for an upgraded match opportunity, and will completely forget about that conversation if someone hotter comes along. No other explanation basically. I’ve probably been ghosted hundreds of times, at some point you don’t care anymore and you start seeing each dating candidate as a commodity, and that’s when you start getting some great successes because you start hitting everyone rather than focusing on one person thinking how well it went. I’ve had close to 50 different dates, many of those led to escalation. When you find someone you like after several consecutive dates, you can then start focusing more on them. That’s how I found my current girlfriend.
Obviously they felt different about the call
I mean it was her idea on the call to meet up? I agree with everyone about moving on though