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What's the best advice you've ever received?

T-Mobile Naively2
7d

Life, work, anything.

- When trying to decide to take a job offer that was a huge stretch skill-wise 10 years ago: "If someone else can learn to do it, you can learn to do it." Worked out amazing for my life and career.

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  • New / EngTTNT
    In life and relationships: Filter everything you say through: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?

    I have avoided saying a lot of unkind and unnecessary things by doing this. Specially when being in “the heat of the moment”.

    Taking a pause to remember these filters gives me a brief moment to double think about what I’m about to say.
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    • T-Mobile Naively2
      OP
      I've been trying to be more mindful of late, and this is a great help for that. Thank you
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    • OSIsoft
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      What if we only have kind and truth filter and ignore necessary one?
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    • New / EngTTNT
      The necessary one is to stop your ego and having the need to prove yourself. As well as over sharing information.

      I generally talk a lot so the necessary one is very important for me.

      1) Oversharing example at work: “Now that you have resigned, what are your plans?”

      (I was interviewing with a competitor)

      I would generally over share and then have that information used against me. By filtering “is it necessary to share this?” I can stop myself and just answer: “I’m not sure, I might travel for a while. I guess we’ll see where I end up!”.

      Another good situation this comes in handy is at exit interviews.

      Or if your girlfriend asks for your honest opinion about her tattoo that you don’t like. It’s not exactly unkind to be honest, but is it necessary?

      2) Stopping the ego: I meet this girl a while ago and she started talking about her ex that was a Brazilian businessman that did MMA.

      She really put me in an unnecessary position here. What now? Am I supposed to prove myself to her that I am better than him?

      Then she asked me how my typical exes were. Is it really necessary for me to tell her? What purpose does it serve? It’s not unkind to answer her question.

      A) I could tell her that my last few exes were asian models / IG influencers. She would feel insecure and have the need to prove herself to me now... Very toxic.

      B) I could say that it’s not really relevant and steer the conversation to something more constructive...

      Maybe not the best examples but the filter has been good for me. Sometimes my ego took a dent, but after a few days I have always been happy to have withheld what I was planning on saying.
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    • Shit ... are you me? Haha, the above applies too much to me. I ruined a couple of good relationships by doing that. I gotta learn when to keep my big mouth shut and stop over sharing. Preach! I'd give you my badge if I could for these 2 comments.
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    • Qualcomm / Engdynasty001
      Good advice. I need to learn to filter things out.
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  • Facebook Hegist
    1. No matter how important you think you are at work, no one will remember you a few months after you leave. But only you can perform the role you have at home. In your family, you are irreplaceable.

    2. Every few years, take a role or job that you are afraid of failing at
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  • Northrop Grumman / Eng(Ω,A,μ)
    No matter what company you join you will always find things that you don't like, and the work isn't that much cooler than what you're currently doing even though it sounds like it is.
    7d3
    • Salesforce mnbjytec
      This is why I only consider reputation of the company and TC these days
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    • T-Mobile Naively2
      OP
      Great one. It's the people
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    • Northrop Grumman / Eng(Ω,A,μ)
      Exactly Salesforce person, there are extreme circumstances where the work would be thrilling, like deep mind or some shit but they are excepti9ns5
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  • Microsoft :):):):)!!
    Delete blind
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    • T-Mobile Naively2
      OP
      Flagged as trolling
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    • Facebook Whateverrs
      Pretty harmless as far as trolling goes
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    • Citibank / Finance$$>RSU
      Flagged T Mobile for being a DB

      Here’s some advice. Grow a pair.
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    • T-Mobile Naively2
      OP
      😴
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  • Amazon 123raj
    Dont stick it in crazy.
    7d0
  • Walmart.com / Engkirkgler
    "I firmly believe 10 people can accomplish twice as much as one"
    7d1
    • OSIsoft
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      Is that 10 in binary format?
      Just kidding, got the point.
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  • Facebook Whateverrs
    1. The most successful people I've ever met are universally positive. If something goes wrong, they accept responsibility. If something goes right, they deflect and credit others and talk of their good fortune and luck. Everyone around them is described as great people.

    When needing to fire someone, it's a regretful decision related to a lack of their own execution on the revenue growth it would take to pay for those employees, was their own poor hiring decision, or was a poor fit for that particular role.

    I see those people who are at the top describing everyone and everything in these terms. Their behavior is not just some facade they put on for work behavior either, but permeates how they describe every personal relationship too.

    Get used to focusing on and looking for the good in every person and every situation. Drink the koolaid if you have to. You don't get to the top by complaining about what could have been done slightly better by someone else, you get to the top by doing the best you can and appreciating every small win by anyone around you.

    2. Understand the power of compounding interest + patience and use it to your advantage.
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    • Facebook Hegist
      I have always thought I am naive being (1). But I don't care, that's how I choose to work, whether it's helpful or not. Somethings are about principles and not a tool for success.
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  • Workday babyDuff
    Buy low, sell high
    7d0
  • Google / Engasshole
    Get a mentor
    7d0
  • Indeed tookerjerb
    Do the needful
    7d0
  • Manhattan Associates / R&D
    aHAj15

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    Go back to India and enjoy your freedom...GC is a mirage !!
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  • Walmart.com / Engkirkgler
    Fake it till you make it.
    7d1
    • Apple Wapple
      Fake it till you become it, bruh
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  • Walmart.com / Engkirkgler
    Advice around TC: "you get paid what you are happy to work for and what the company is happy to pay you". Notice that the word "fair" or "deserve" doesn't appear in that sentence.
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  • Mphasis / ProjectWaitbutY?
    “When in doubt in a role or a company - ask yourself, are you here by design (you wanted to) or by default (you just took this offer as there was nothing else).”

    This single advice has been my compass whenever things start going sideways at work and doubt creeps in.
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  • Microsoft eThi53
    Don't wait for someone else to fix issues and crib about it. Pick up responsibility to fix things and be earnest to it.
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    • Cisco / Design
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      Also, you can't do everything by yourself.
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  • New / EngLosYork
    Buy bitcoin - that friend 2014
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  • Microsoft UMbR31
    "Stop chasing shiny objects. Focus on what matters."
    - a very senior executive at Microsoft.

    Believe it or not, this is surprisingly hard to implement in real life.
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    • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
      Chasing shiny objects? What are you? A crow? 🤦‍♂️

      Microsoft wisdom from very senior executives... 😂
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    • Manhattan Associates / R&D
      aHAj15

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      GC = Shiny object
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  • Earn a shit ton of money to realize that money don't matter
    7d0
  • Salesforce isjndjjrix
    Always ask questions to expand your knowledge. Do not fear looking ignorant. Be confident that if you don't know something, that others don't as well.
    7d0
  • Amazon / EngIAmJob
    Once you go black, you need a wheelchair.
    7d0
  • Apple / MgmtJaneBanana
    Have a plan for retirement early.
    7d0
  • Adobe Born2Run
    Be mindful of the users and takers in this world.
    7d0
  • Amazon Jеff Bezоs
    Don’t fuck up!
    7d0

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