Just curious to see kind of shit parents say when they get mad. I’ll go first, when my brother and I were young and my mom got really mad (we suspect now that she has bipolar disorder or something) she would sometime say things like ‘I wish you had died at birth’ 🤷♂️ Did y’all hear mean shit growing up too or does it sound unthinkable?
My dad and brother used to tell me they found me under a rock and my real mom was a slug...I was also fat so this hurt even though they were just saying it in jest.
I feel loved ones sometimes do not realize that their jests hurt us. I was fat too and when my mom was not wishing I had died, my friends used to make fun of me being fat. I eventually learnt to embrace self-deprecating humor, to show them that I find their words funny and it did not hurt me even if it did. But looking back now, I realize they just did not know better and it was not to hurt. The little scars still remain and even though I would say, many would call me handsome now (really embraced the gym life in university lol) I am still insecure about it
I was a problem child and my parents still never said anything bad to me. I guess the worse they said was “I’m disappointed in you”. Luckily I got my act together and they’re proud of me now 😊
Wish we all had parents like that. Their support matters. I am sure they contributed to your success in life including getting in Amazon :)
"I don't see how spending this much time in front of a computer will ever help you get a job." My dad, Back in the mid 90s.
"you'll never amount to anything"... Hehe.. my parents were masters of reverse psychology.
Just want to say that no kid and no human deserves to be spoken to in such a demeaning way. We are flawed people, raised by flawed parents. Sorry you had to go thru that but I'm glad you all overcame and became badasses. "Hurt people hurt people 💔"
I know. When I was young, this sort of behavior was norm to me, my dad and my brother and we dismissed it as one of her episodes. Being away from my parents for so long made it feel different recently when my mother had one of her phases again and said she hoped my plane would crash on my way back. It was a bit shocking hearing something so cruel after a long time and it made me realize I am a bit damaged if I take a deeper look. When I am low, I tell myself maybe I should have died. And you are right, hurt people hurt people. My grandfather hurt my mom and she became like that and I think I will be like that too so I am really considering if I should continue this shitty lineage
Are you guys parents yet?
Get married!
Why? So I can take my repressed anger and pain and take it out on my wife and kids? 😂 I’ll pass
No. After marriage, parents will look like gods by comparison
Not sure, but I’m confident I’ve said some terrible shit to my kids.
Have you confronted your dad about these?
Question for everyone: what did they say afterwards? Did they apologize, or no? My theory as a parent is that you will say and do terrible shit out of the common frustration of being a parent, but the important lesson for your kids is how you recover from your error.
You're not as big as a fuck up as I though you'd be . I was 7 years old
Not sure if that’s positive or negative 😂. But you are not a fuck up man if you made it so far and are standing on your own two feet