Guys out there .. what is wife material ??
- Ripple / Engoekg25moreMost men want just a few things: a woman who is nice to them and isn't fat. If you can offer that, you're already ahead of 80% of American women.
- Most men provide their own home. They want help maintaining it, but you're refusing to offer that. Most men don't give a rat's ass about their wife's education or career, or how smart she is (or how "smart" she thinks she is). You think men are evaluating you by the same criteria by which you evaluate them (see: solipsism), and that's not how it works. Each sex is looking for different things from the other.
Given that, I'm not even sure you know what "good sex" is to a man. Hint: it's not the same as what women want. Besides, every man eventually gets tired of eating the same meal every day, even if it was once his favorite food...
Remember, none of the qualities you listed are found in my first comment, which is the most liked answer to your question. Do you really think you know what men want?Mar 133
- Sad that most men don’t give any importance to his wife education, knowing that she will be the person caring for his children
Sad that men will get tired of his wife - even when one day she was his favorite food
My point is - we do not need to give anything a guy doesn’t give. If he cooks for me, I’ll clean. If he does the laundry, I’ll do the groceries. We are not meant to be your slaves - or your once source for all - we also have our own needs and I would like to know my husband understands that
- @ibm men are not slaves either but we don’t outright be entitled and boast about it.
I will cook for my partner
I clean for my partner
I will even help organize it
And do the dishes too.
Never complain or even boast about the fact that ohh look I do so much and all that.
Grow up, it’s partnership and not entitlementMar 132
- @OP- “education” probably matters in India or China where it’s the difference between knowing how to read and write and being dysfunctional in society. In the US, education is a scam, mainly because it teaches useless skills related to every day life beyond literacy and basic math skills. Nothing I learned in college helps me in my job or to be a better spouse.Mar 134
- Sad? It's nature. What's sad is that feminism has left you utterly unprepared for the natural world. Your ignorance is what happens when we tell kids that men and women are exactly the same, have the exact same wants and needs, and will feel fulfilled by the exact same qualities in each other. Look up the paradox of female happiness.
Not caring about your wife's higher education is what has enabled men throughout history to "marry down" for love. The modern woman, with more education and income than ever before, wants her husband to have *even more* education and *even more* income, and demands that he certainly not have less. "I'm not going to give anything he doesn't give", even though men do not expect the same from you.
Even though a man *will* stop feeling physical desire for you as you age, it doesn't mean he will stop loving you, if you can offer more than your body. Men age like wine, women age like milk. Older men can be still attractive to women in ways that older women cannot be to men.
You should feel relieved that men do not expect you to match them in these regards, that you can get by with offering "less". It is not less, though. Wife material is about offering something different, something a man cannot provide for himself: a beautiful partner who cares about him in a world that sees him as disposable. In exchange, he will move mountains for you.Mar 140
- Snapchat skein fusiIf one day you’re disabled, is this someone that will stay around and continue to build and support a family with you.
- Expedia / EngaKcN62Someone who you look forward to telling how your day was and listening how theirs was.
- Microsoft BarFooOMG yes. I don’t talk about work except in real extreme circumstances, but my wife comes home and immediately starts complaining about people at work. And she wants me to validate that her complaints are justified when I don’t even know the people she’s complaining about or what they did.
Then she turns around and claims that she loves her job.
- Wife material is different from girlfriend material for sure. Girlfriend is someone carefree and fun - hot, curvy, smart, who you can enjoy your youth with. Wife is someone you settle down with, and so she should be compliant and manageable. She should be ready to sacrifice, be humble, take care of my parents and know her place in the world. I am basically looking for a cute cuddly cow who is grateful to me for marrying her, because the girlfriend types put me under a lot of performance pressure, I don't want a competitive wife. Small things like flowers should be sufficient for her happiness. I want a homely and docile one, who never threatens my masculinity. Ah yes, she should be game for breeding, or atleast understand it's her duty even if she doesn't want kids. Also it goes without saying that her cultures will be similar to mine, but if different, without questions, it's my cultures that prevail, because that's how it's supposed to be.
- Oracle / Eng---------OFOM41, agree, but how do men used to dating smart and fun women, settle down to such wives? Don't they get bored? Girlfriends were their taste, and wives are what their cultures dictate. There is a stark difference between the two kinds. How do they make peace with the life companion, who does not reflect their first choice?Mar 111
- He says he wants a woman who is “ready to sacrifice, be humble, take care of my parents and know her place in the world” and that’s totally different.
There are a few kinds of relationships that are what that poster described: the mutually beneficial ones (trade money for sex); the neurotic ones (my neuroses balance out yours); and finally, the oppressive or abusive ones (damn obvious).Mar 110
- Sees the world in a similar light. Likes to fuck 2x/week and/or still gives blowjobs after marriage. Not psychotic. Shares in household/ family responsibilities. Is there to encourage you to push yourself.
- Can handle her own shit and be nice to me and to people in general. Can take care of me when I'm disabled, will let me do whatever I want to do in life, and won't bring drama to the relationship.
Not a b***h, not super judgemental, not a materialistic shopaholic.
In exchange, I'll give the exact same but as a man. You game?
- I will offer something really controversial. You can either find wife material or roll your own so to speak. It’s like training a worker versus finding the purple squirrel.
I married young and the two of us shaped one another over time into more compatible versions of ourselves. It took about 6-7 years of “meh” after the honeymoon period plus hard work to get to a really good, sustainable place for both of us.
Here’s the harsh reality: if you opt for “find” versus “build” it may take longer. You also need to judge her on long term potential, not just where she is now. It’s also slightly higher risk, but in this day and age, no relationship is without those.
- Equal TC, shares bill, good common sense, does at least her part of chores. Not fat, neutral face, taller than 5'4. That's why I'm single 😂
- First, quora is no ultimate source of truth. Second, it still doesn't go to the actual root cause. Mannequins could've been short, then models could be short too. As the author hints, tall models get good visibility on ramp. So, the basic thing there is, tall girls are attractive. Sorry short girls ☺️ second part, I want to set my kids for success. Don't want to produce a 5'6 guy 😂
- Amazon babymakes5What is wife material.. I’ll give two perspectives: when I was dating and now that I’ve been married a while (16 years).
Dating perspective: hot, curvy, smart, kind, who had common values with me, and someone who would be a good mother to kids (mine sucked).
Married perspective: a best friend, someone who’s smart yet good with people and not arrogant, a great mom, loves unconditionally, balances me out as a person, has common values with me, is trusting and gives a lot of flexibility (my job is demanding), cute, and who doesn’t want to be “my everything” but instead my “almost everything” (e.g. don’t get all your needs from a single person or you’ll be disappointed).
My wife has aged very well over the past 18 years (and I less well) and I got almost all of what I was looking for at the time and got all of what I listed in the “married perspective” section.
- Wish MadaaaamnThis thread... Omg. No wonder I keep getting burned. I hope all of you have daughters one day.
- Microsoft thepinkIf you are so insecure that you need to ask Blind, perhaps you are not ready for such commitments yet.
But if you are asking just cuz, then I'd say it is also futile :) Each person wants something different, honest and full reciprocity will make the best couple. You give what they want and you receive what you ask, whether that's support, love, companionship, economical balance, life lessons, sex... It's up to you.