Relationships

What’s wife material?

IBM / Eng
avsJ73

IBMEng

PRE
Facebook
avsJ73more
Mar 8

Guys out there .. what is wife material ??

comments

Add a comment
  • Ripple / Eng
    oekg25

    RippleEng

    PRE
    Two Sigma
    oekg25more
    Most men want just a few things: a woman who is nice to them and isn't fat. If you can offer that, you're already ahead of 80% of American women.
    Mar 818
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Good sex, a home and a smart wife
      Mar 9
    • Pandora .
      He’s going to offer the same:
      Good sex, a home, and a smart husband. Don’t be an entitled wife. It’s never about one person in a marriage. It’s about the two of you.
      Mar 10
    • Ripple / Eng
      oekg25

      RippleEng

      PRE
      Two Sigma
      oekg25more
      Most men provide their own home. They want help maintaining it, but you're refusing to offer that. Most men don't give a rat's ass about their wife's education or career, or how smart she is (or how "smart" she thinks she is). You think men are evaluating you by the same criteria by which you evaluate them (see: solipsism), and that's not how it works. Each sex is looking for different things from the other.

      Given that, I'm not even sure you know what "good sex" is to a man. Hint: it's not the same as what women want. Besides, every man eventually gets tired of eating the same meal every day, even if it was once his favorite food...

      Remember, none of the qualities you listed are found in my first comment, which is the most liked answer to your question. Do you really think you know what men want?
      Mar 13
    • Pandora .
      Well said @Ripple
      I think @ibm symbolizes the epitome of feminism and always questions: why should I do xyz for men ? They should do it. I’m a woman, I got a pu&$y 😆
      Mar 13
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Sad that most men don’t give any importance to his wife education, knowing that she will be the person caring for his children

      Sad that men will get tired of his wife - even when one day she was his favorite food

      My point is - we do not need to give anything a guy doesn’t give. If he cooks for me, I’ll clean. If he does the laundry, I’ll do the groceries. We are not meant to be your slaves - or your once source for all - we also have our own needs and I would like to know my husband understands that
      Mar 13
    • Pandora .
      @ibm men are not slaves either but we don’t outright be entitled and boast about it.
      I will cook for my partner
      I clean for my partner
      I will even help organize it
      And do the dishes too.
      Never complain or even boast about the fact that ohh look I do so much and all that.

      Grow up, it’s partnership and not entitlement
      Mar 13
    • Foursquare / EngFlyingRat
      ^ +1
      Mar 13
    • Intel 018’!
      @OP- “education” probably matters in India or China where it’s the difference between knowing how to read and write and being dysfunctional in society. In the US, education is a scam, mainly because it teaches useless skills related to every day life beyond literacy and basic math skills. Nothing I learned in college helps me in my job or to be a better spouse.
      Mar 13
    • Ripple / Eng
      oekg25

      RippleEng

      PRE
      Two Sigma
      oekg25more
      Sad? It's nature. What's sad is that feminism has left you utterly unprepared for the natural world. Your ignorance is what happens when we tell kids that men and women are exactly the same, have the exact same wants and needs, and will feel fulfilled by the exact same qualities in each other. Look up the paradox of female happiness.

      Not caring about your wife's higher education is what has enabled men throughout history to "marry down" for love. The modern woman, with more education and income than ever before, wants her husband to have *even more* education and *even more* income, and demands that he certainly not have less. "I'm not going to give anything he doesn't give", even though men do not expect the same from you.

      Even though a man *will* stop feeling physical desire for you as you age, it doesn't mean he will stop loving you, if you can offer more than your body. Men age like wine, women age like milk. Older men can be still attractive to women in ways that older women cannot be to men.

      You should feel relieved that men do not expect you to match them in these regards, that you can get by with offering "less". It is not less, though. Wife material is about offering something different, something a man cannot provide for himself: a beautiful partner who cares about him in a world that sees him as disposable. In exchange, he will move mountains for you.
      Mar 14
    • Oracle / Eng78544
      Blah blah, why doesn't blind have dislike?
      Mar 14
  • Snapchat skein fusi
    If one day you’re disabled, is this someone that will stay around and continue to build and support a family with you.
    Mar 86
    • New / Engggg1
      From experience: 🦄
      Mar 8
    • Microsoft Darth G
      Good luck finding that with American girls my most recent girlfriend left me because I tripled my total compensation by getting a job in Seattle… Oh boo-hoo
      Mar 8
    • Shutterstock kudabobb
      ^ where did you live before
      Mar 9
    • VMware BobbleHat
      Ms she left you because of your dumbass attitude
      Mar 9
    • Microsoft Darth G
      It’s possible
      Mar 9
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      You aren't handicapped. You tripled your compensation. She might have had ties to your old place. Why is your job more important than her life?
      Mar 13
  • Expedia / EngaKcN62
    Someone who you look forward to telling how your day was and listening how theirs was.
    Mar 83
    • Foursquare / EngFlyingRat
      Same, I'd add being mature enough to understand basic social manner such as communicating vs ghosting
      Mar 8
    • Intel 018’!
      A guy wants to talk about their day and listen in return? Nope - I hate talking about work and women complain 10x as much as men so it’s an inequity we tolerate, not appreciate.
      Mar 9
    • Microsoft BarFoo
      OMG yes. I don’t talk about work except in real extreme circumstances, but my wife comes home and immediately starts complaining about people at work. And she wants me to validate that her complaints are justified when I don’t even know the people she’s complaining about or what they did.

      Then she turns around and claims that she loves her job.
      Mar 9
  • Oracle / EngOdink
    Wife material is different from girlfriend material for sure. Girlfriend is someone carefree and fun - hot, curvy, smart, who you can enjoy your youth with. Wife is someone you settle down with, and so she should be compliant and manageable. She should be ready to sacrifice, be humble, take care of my parents and know her place in the world. I am basically looking for a cute cuddly cow who is grateful to me for marrying her, because the girlfriend types put me under a lot of performance pressure, I don't want a competitive wife. Small things like flowers should be sufficient for her happiness. I want a homely and docile one, who never threatens my masculinity. Ah yes, she should be game for breeding, or atleast understand it's her duty even if she doesn't want kids. Also it goes without saying that her cultures will be similar to mine, but if different, without questions, it's my cultures that prevail, because that's how it's supposed to be.
    Mar 913
    • Oracle / EngOdink
      Not a troll, I believe and stand by it. And I know many who would agree with me.
      Mar 9
    • Aurora bystander!
      Sure. Idiots always move in herds.

      Though each one to their own. I hope you find your slave.
      Mar 9
    • VMware BobbleHat
      Oracle, do you beat your wife if she gets out of line?
      Mar 9
    • Oracle / EngOdink
      Not yet married, hoping to tie the knot very soon.
      Mar 9
    • Amazon LnzB25
      Lol... Compliant, manageable, know her place in the world, cute cuddly cow, grateful to me for marrying her, homely and docile one, game for breeding, my culture prevails.
      Wow!!! Good luck with that, asshole. And good help the woman you do marry
      Mar 9
    • SAP Berni
      Odink = Patriarchy + misogyny personified
      Mar 10
    • Apple OFOM41
      But seriously though while it sounds really bad, from the men’s perspective the kind of wife he describes is probably the best for maintaining a stable home and happy family life.
      Mar 11
    • Oracle / Eng---------
      OFOM41, agree, but how do men used to dating smart and fun women, settle down to such wives? Don't they get bored? Girlfriends were their taste, and wives are what their cultures dictate. There is a stark difference between the two kinds. How do they make peace with the life companion, who does not reflect their first choice?
      Mar 11
    • Amazon burnt_0ut
      He says he wants a woman who is “ready to sacrifice, be humble, take care of my parents and know her place in the world” and that’s totally different.

      There are a few kinds of relationships that are what that poster described: the mutually beneficial ones (trade money for sex); the neurotic ones (my neuroses balance out yours); and finally, the oppressive or abusive ones (damn obvious).
      Mar 11
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      Cuddly cow? Wtf !

      On a separate note, are you into some BDSM fetish or something? Your description of what you want in a woman sounds like you have some domination need.
      Mar 13
  • New / Eng
    ohhimark

    NewEng

    PRE
    Amazon
    ohhimarkmore
    Someone who doesn’t use Blind
    Mar 81
    • Microsoft / Engsudо
      Because she'll know your TC?
      Mar 8
  • Intel 018’!
    Sees the world in a similar light. Likes to fuck 2x/week and/or still gives blowjobs after marriage. Not psychotic. Shares in household/ family responsibilities. Is there to encourage you to push yourself.
    Mar 95
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      I have been married 22 years. What is this thing called blowjob that you speak of?
      Mar 9
    • Intel 018’!
      Never forget my bachelor party when one guy said, “And say goodbye to blowjobs!” Only through strategic thought have I been able to keep the option open occasionally.
      Mar 10
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      Why is a bride smiling at her wedding? Because she never has to give another blowjob.
      I thought that joke was funny 25 years ago. Now I have a tear rolling down my cheek while I’m typing this out.
      Mar 10
    • Intel 018’!
      Have to speak in their language - tell her your “Love Language” is blowjobs.
      Mar 11
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      Well I love my wife and wouldn’t leave her (hope she doesn’t leave me!)
      But a blowjob would be nice, even if it was only on Federal holidays.
      Mar 11
  • Datadog teemothy1
    Can handle her own shit and be nice to me and to people in general. Can take care of me when I'm disabled, will let me do whatever I want to do in life, and won't bring drama to the relationship.

    Not a b***h, not super judgemental, not a materialistic shopaholic.

    In exchange, I'll give the exact same but as a man. You game?
    Mar 84
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Why so many of you want to be disable at some point on your life ?
      Mar 8
    • Datadog teemothy1
      Nobody wants to be disabled. We just want to know if you can understand any of those marriage vows you're so excited to utter
      Mar 8
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Would you stay if you wife gains 200lbs?
      After kids, of course
      Mar 8
    • Datadog teemothy1
      If she's going through a phase, sure. If it's a disease, sure. If it's just laziness, bye bye.
      Mar 8
  • Microsoft howser
    Who do you want the mother of your kids to be?
    Mar 83
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      What if she doesn’t want kids ?
      Mar 8
    • Google
      tsukino

      Google

      BIO
      w
      tsukinomore
      like Uma Thurman's bride character in Kill Bill
      Mar 8
    • Microsoft howser
      That should be both of your decision, not just her or yours
      Mar 8
  • Amazon burnt_0ut
    I will offer something really controversial. You can either find wife material or roll your own so to speak. It’s like training a worker versus finding the purple squirrel.

    I married young and the two of us shaped one another over time into more compatible versions of ourselves. It took about 6-7 years of “meh” after the honeymoon period plus hard work to get to a really good, sustainable place for both of us.

    Here’s the harsh reality: if you opt for “find” versus “build” it may take longer. You also need to judge her on long term potential, not just where she is now. It’s also slightly higher risk, but in this day and age, no relationship is without those.
    Mar 92
    • Aurora bystander!
      In short — you found (as they say) a “wife material”!
      Mar 9
    • Apple OFOM41
      I like this, marry young and help the other person grow into someone you are compatible with
      Mar 11
  • Microsoft naaam
    Equal TC, shares bill, good common sense, does at least her part of chores. Not fat, neutral face, taller than 5'4. That's why I'm single 😂
    Mar 816
    • Microsoft naaam
      First, quora is no ultimate source of truth. Second, it still doesn't go to the actual root cause. Mannequins could've been short, then models could be short too. As the author hints, tall models get good visibility on ramp. So, the basic thing there is, tall girls are attractive. Sorry short girls ☺️ second part, I want to set my kids for success. Don't want to produce a 5'6 guy 😂
      Mar 9
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Would you rather have a 6’ tall girl then ?
      Mar 9
    • New / Engggg1
      It's actually pretty well documented in research that men and women prefer a height difference of roughly 4-6" in their partner (men preferring shorter, women preferring taller).
      Mar 9
    • Microsoft naaam
      ^ this. Being 6ft, I find 5'6-5'8 ideal
      Mar 9
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      I probably make equal or similar TC to you, lots of common and uncommon sense, and cook kick-ass food - you can ping me. 😂
      Mar 13
    • Microsoft naaam
      Main question is, are you female? 🤔😂
      Mar 13
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      Yes. But I don't know much about your neutral face thingy. You need to put an equation up there to calculate neutrality score. 😆
      Mar 13
    • Microsoft naaam
      Your PM is pinging now 😆😆
      Mar 13
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      Lol this is hilarious
      Mar 13
    • Microsoft naaam
      For those who are wondering what happened in this thread, intense conversation is underway between naam and tensorchic. (By intense I mean, naam has sent a bunch of messages while tensorchic has replied to none)
      Mar 13
  • Microsoft BcrX06
    Virgin
    Mar 83
    • Microsoft whyphucka
      So stupid. No one wants to break a wet set of potatoes in
      Mar 8
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      This guy never had sex before - that’s why he is asking for a virgin
      Mar 8
    • Microsoft whyphucka
      2 virgins fumbling around trying to figure out what to do. Fun times.
      Mar 8
  • Amazon babymakes5
    What is wife material.. I’ll give two perspectives: when I was dating and now that I’ve been married a while (16 years).

    Dating perspective: hot, curvy, smart, kind, who had common values with me, and someone who would be a good mother to kids (mine sucked).

    Married perspective: a best friend, someone who’s smart yet good with people and not arrogant, a great mom, loves unconditionally, balances me out as a person, has common values with me, is trusting and gives a lot of flexibility (my job is demanding), cute, and who doesn’t want to be “my everything” but instead my “almost everything” (e.g. don’t get all your needs from a single person or you’ll be disappointed).

    My wife has aged very well over the past 18 years (and I less well) and I got almost all of what I was looking for at the time and got all of what I listed in the “married perspective” section.
    Mar 90
  • Aurora bystander!
    Jackass, picked Women’s day to ask such! Hmmmm... 🤔
    Mar 85
    • PayPal dryh36f
      What if she is woman?
      Mar 8
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      I’m
      Mar 8
    • Aurora bystander!
      I rest my case.
      Mar 8
    • Microsoft
      wyba qnbab

      Microsoft

      PRE
      Google, Amazon
      wyba qnbabmore
      I’m assuming IBM is single?
      Mar 8
    • IBM / Eng
      avsJ73

      IBMEng

      PRE
      Facebook
      avsJ73more
      OP
      Yes, but not looking - just a discussion that came up
      Mar 8
  • Uber smartride
    Someone who doesn’t want to have sex
    Mar 84
    • Microsoft / Engsudо
      Are you a husband material at all?
      Mar 8
    • Uber smartride
      Yes you wanna try? 😉
      Mar 8
    • Microsoft / Engsudо
      Sorry, your query returned empty result set
      Mar 8
    • Uber smartride
      Thank god, I am very happy! 😂
      Mar 9
  • Facebook bushdid119
    A trans woman
    Mar 81
    • Microsoft Darth G
      Fortunately you’re at Facebook you have a broad selection
      Mar 8
  • Wish Madaaaamn
    This thread... Omg. No wonder I keep getting burned. I hope all of you have daughters one day.
    Mar 121
    • Oracle / Otherkrodhit
      Heh, I know of many such guys, and they became dad to majorly girls. I hope it's a learning opportunity for them.
      5d
  • ServiceNow lilcheeto2
    Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets?
    6d0
  • Oracle / IT
    l00tb0x

    OracleIT

    PRE
    Ericsson, National Instruments
    l00tb0xmore
    Doesn't throw a tantrum when I spend time with my hobby instead of her. The term itself means: looks great and good in bed.
    Mar 80
  • Amazon McKnziBzos
    Please ask Jeff that.

    Love, McKenzie.
    Mar 130
  • Microsoft whyphucka
    Any port in a storm
    Mar 80
  • Microsoft whyphucka
    Up the booty = no babies
    Mar 80
  • Microsoft thepink
    If you are so insecure that you need to ask Blind, perhaps you are not ready for such commitments yet.

    But if you are asking just cuz, then I'd say it is also futile :) Each person wants something different, honest and full reciprocity will make the best couple. You give what they want and you receive what you ask, whether that's support, love, companionship, economical balance, life lessons, sex... It's up to you.
    Mar 80
  • ForeSee ratata$
    Polyethylene diphenhydramine sulphate! It's complex!
    Mar 80
  • Chase / Eng
    FloridaMan

    ChaseEng

    BIO
    15+ yoe, Java, etc
    FloridaManmore
    Find someone young enough to have kids, decent looking, good work ethic, smart, would make a good role model for kids. TC you can work on later.
    Mar 130
  • Oracle lakshf
    Are you married, do you have kids?
    Mar 90
  • Uber spa day
    Someone who contributes equally to the family!
    Mar 80
  • Amazon lateni
    Honestly this depends from person to person.
    Mar 80

Download the app for more exclusive content.