What's the deal with people who don't acknowledge you and say hello when you are meeting them outside on the lunch break or say goodbye when you leave the office? It's not that they don't see or hear you, since they look at you but they just ignore or don't care and yes they behave the same towards everyone Edit: and just to be clear, I don't mean everyone should tell everyone good morning in a big room and walk through the office in a big round, that is understandable. I am more referring to 1-1 encounters when you clearly talked to the other person and he saw you but just ignores you.
Sounds like you need a new workplace
Nope, it's only around 10% and the others are nice. But still, if you see someone on the way from the bus and say "have a nice evening, see you tomorrow" and they just stare and ignore you, wtf?
I am like that, donāt greet random colleagues on most days . Unless someone comes back from a long vacation or are close friends . I donāt like small talk
Who knows. Maybe they're sick. Maybe they're tired. Maybe their mother never taught them manners. Maybe they have a non-communicable disease that prevents their brain from registering social cues and acting accordingly and they should be rushed to the ER immediately. Did you ever think of THAT, op?!
Batman doesn't stop for no one. He's got crimes to fight. What r u doing ?
Yes, I did. Everyone has different things in their minds every day but can still have basic manners
You really care about these things? I usually skip the casual good mornings / good nights. Not because I am rude or I don't like my coworkers, simply because these seem to be meaningless formality.
Manners and education distinguish us from rest of animal world. Ppl should be gentle and polite, makes everyday living easier
You will be amazed that for some people this is what they do š¬
Itās awkward greeting a group of people. Are they supposed to say hello back? Usually one person says it back and the others ignore which is also awkward ā though itād be awkward if everyone said it back one by one. And itās even more awkward to go up and greet people individually. Every scenario is awkward, so we just skip it.
"Goodby everyone, maybe I see you at the React meetup later then!" Wow that was hard
Itās not hard, itās awkward. Look it up š
Youāve been hyper socialized in your youth. Not everyone is. Sure, I was raised to say greetings and be polite. But as an adult I feel no compulsion to announce my comings and goings or make idle chit-chat with coworkers. In fact, I prefer people not talk to me unless they have something of substance to say. I grant them the same courtesy.
OK, that's sort of fine but when someone specifically address you, do you just ignore them? That party really annoys me
I typically give them an eyebrow raise which is to indicate I see them and acknowledge their presence but in a non-verbal way that communicates Iām not about to stop and talk because Iāve got other things to do than stand around and fulfill the social custom of talking about things we did on the weekend. I take very little interest in their families weekend activities and am not open to their comments about my personal life. The brevity of an eyebrow raise or slight head tilt is all that is required from me in the US.
WTF?
I happen to have a pretty friendly, diverse team. "What's up?" is an actual question with us. Last job was the same deal. They may be having a rough day and it's probably nothing directed against you. If you like saying good morning and good night, do it because you want to and not because you expect a response.
Goodbye
Why do you feel entitled that people should acknowledge you ? Why would you wonder for hours if you offended someone? That sounds unnecessary. Why not get a handle on your anxiety? You should work on that or ever think about actually asking the person if you offended them instead of ruminating? Itās easy enough to ask the person(s)
Omg I don't feel "entitled", stop acting like a stereotypical coder who calculate rewards and benefits from everything. It's just about being nice to your colleagues And like many wrote here already, they think some social interactions are awkward, meaning for sure they will not tell you if something is wrong and might just behave weird towards you. I have seen this a lot of times already
I personally think most of the people are driven by emotions. If everything is happy in their respective lives, then they do or else they just come in. I am not counting the days when they are sick/ zoned out and other random reasons. So yes I expect the same but I wonāt give a damn if they wonāt because of the aforementioned reasons.