What’s wrong with the men nowadays? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Walmart.com whysostupd
Jul 9 81 Comments

He asked me out then just disappeared.. what’s wrong with men’s commitment?

Are normal men even exist anymore?

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  • Cognizant / Eng
    uxbdr

    Cognizant Eng

    BIO
    Software engineer
    uxbdrmore
    Did you say yes? If not don’t expect him to ask you out twice

    If you said yes, we men also have the right to change our mind about someone
    Jul 9 9
    • Microsoft MereDork
      So op rejected the guy and is wondering where his commitment is.. lol.
      Jul 9
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      I didn’t 🙄 I was busy that day.
      Jul 9
    • Nutanix 爱 me
      @walmart
      Did you follow up with him after that? Did you ask him if you guys could meet on some other day? Or you just said no?
      Jul 9
    • Samsung
      chajimogo

      Samsung

      BIO
      Stressed out but surviving
      chajimogomore
      As a man if you tell me “no I am busy” and don’t at least suggest an alternative the cue is you are not interested. This is why he “disappeared”.
      Jul 9
    • New / Strategy
      Porsche996

      New Strategy

      BIO
      MIT BS MechE, Stanford GSB
      Porsche996more
      This is exactly what happened to my previous date. Preached a whole lot of 'No' and now she wants me. Just tell the man and ask him out. There is nothing to lose and shelve your ego.
      Jul 9
  • New / Other AuntHilda
    It seems he asked you out, you said no and then he didn’t ask you out again. Well, sorry to break this to you but now it is your turn to ask him. If he does not respond, then you can use the word ‘Ghosted’.
    Jul 9 5
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      Why is it my turn?
      Jul 9
    • Apple Hansel2
      Why not?
      Jul 9
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      OP how is it NOT your turn? Chances are he thinks you’re not interested since you said no. But you obviously are.

      Guys love it when a girl asks them out.
      Take it from a girl. Don a LBD and own the evening gurl. You got this👍

      If he ghosts after your date then you can post it on Blind and we can take it from there.
      Jul 9
    • Travelzoo deetcode
      The rules are pretty simple: if woman says "no" without suggesting an alternative date or venue (either immediately or within an acceptable timeframe), it means she's not interested.
      Jul 9
    • Nvidia HKCN11
      The rule is simple: you laugh, you lose.
      Jul 9
  • Flowcast lulll
    You can thank #metoo and 8th wave feminism for the pussification of 99% of men. This is by biological design though. Don’t fight biology
    Jul 9 10
    • Oath Atinlay2
      ^ by not valuing women literally at all.
      Jul 9
    • New SgJq15
      i have a feeling you haven’t been outside of the US much, it’s ok
      Jul 9
    • Oath Atinlay2
      I have, thanks for asking
      Jul 9
    • New SgJq15
      you’re welcome, hawaii doesn’t count though
      Jul 9
    • Oath Atinlay2
      I’m aware.
      Jul 9
  • Toyota NullGfExep
    Did you actually want to go on a date with him or you just enjoy getting asked multiple times?
    Jul 9 7
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      I was busy and couldn’t make it duh
      Jul 9
    • Ur the problem duh
      Jul 9
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      Why am I the problem???
      Jul 9
    • Don't worry it has been explained multiple times in replies but the message is not getting thru. Don't know what ur actually like but your own replies suggest you are inclined to find fault with others and don't try any self reflection.
      Jul 9
    • Cadence mp12
      Good for the guy considering you're clearly stupid and stuckup.
      Jul 9
  • Apple Hansel2
    If you are facing this as a woman in Bay Area, imagine how much worse it is for guys here 😀
    Jul 9 9
    • Facebook public2
      Not op but because there are like 8 awesome women for every 1 normal guy so on a whole there are slim pickings for said awesome women. Not as bad as NYC but still pretty bad.
      Jul 9
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      Not as bad as NYC ? Lol. Have you been to the Bay Area?
      Jul 9
    • Facebook public2
      Yep, lived here many years. The ratio of women to men is far worse in nyc.
      Jul 9
    • Google workfrom🏝
      What is definition of awesome woman and normal man we are using public2?
      Jul 9
    • public2 speaks the truth. Very few “normal” guys in the Bay Area.

      Meaning guys who can carry a decent conversation, who have interests outside of careers, TC, and investments — things like that.

      I think the culture of TC penis-size measuring contests here on Blind is testament to that. And then the same dudes complain there are no women in the Bay Area.
      Jul 11
  • Cadence mp12
    Op rejects the guy without putting effort to even suggest alternate date, and then blames the guy. The guy dodged a bullet.
    Jul 9 3
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      Who said I didn’t ask for the alternative date? Read before commenting 🙄
      Jul 9
    • Cadence 8175209
      @walmart/op You must be dense. There's a difference between suggesting and asking, but that seems beyond your mental capabilities.
      Jul 9
    • Neurocrine LC is life
      OP ignore this guy. They blame women, no matter what they do.

      If a woman is submissive, oh she feels like a dead weight. If she is dominating, oh she is too controlling. If she is career oriented, oh I have a male ego. If she likes to be home, oh she isn't fun. It goes on.

      Get over these shallow men and do what you feel is right. More power to you, OP.
      Jul 10
  • Nutanix 爱 me
    If he has self respect, he will never ask again.
    Jul 9 0
  • Amazon / Eng lifeisbear
    Men are not as stupid as women think. We know nearly immediately when you try to play a game, and lose interest in that woman really fast.
    Jul 9 3
    • Walmart.com whysostupd
      OP
      I think you just are scared of commitment! Also have a low self esteem. You’re not confident that women can actually like you! That’s the men’s problem.
      Jul 9
    • Nvidia HKCN11
      It's more like we have no goddamn idea what women are thinking, so if you tell us you don't want to go out, then it doesn't seem like you're interested. Rather than be persistent and come off as creepy or get charged with sexual harassment, I'd rather just wait for the next fish in the sea.
      Jul 9
    • Amazon / Eng lifeisbear
      @walmart no. It is a selection process. Whoever makes my life difficult is worth nothing. I met tons of such girls, and ignored or declined their signals for playing game, and finally met my wife, committed, couldnt be happier.
      Jul 10
  • Tata Consultancy Services KFCowner
    Sorry honey. One raccoon🦝 stole my phone. Lost your number that’s why couldn’t call. Will DM you now.
    Jul 9 0
  • Intel D’s🥜
    OP - After reading comments, this will give you better insight for dating in the US.

    “No, I’m busy” = Not interested, stop talking

    “I can’t on {Friday}, what about Sunday afternoon?” = I’m interested enough to find a mutually agreeable meeting time
    Jul 9 0
  • This was asked before. We explained what is wrong with us pretty thoroughly.
    Jul 9 0
  • Oath qCmm65
    Yes I do
    Jul 9 0
  • Nvidia btfd
    Maybe he went for your brother?
    Jul 9 2
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      What is that supposed to mean lol
      Jul 9
    • Google singl4ever
      Maybe they went for your brother.
      Jul 9
  • SAP svxgs
    Please don’t generalize
    Jul 9 0
  • Amazon I5swfi
    I know right? Women these days.
    Jul 9 1
  • Zillow Group ^H
    TC?
    Jul 9 0
  • Taylor Farms azerty_
    He got scared due to lack of confidence
    Jul 9 0
  • Microsoft antartica
    Sounds like he didnt think you were not interested. If men and women are "equal" then I dont see why a girl cant ask a guy out. At least have a conversation to show the interest, so the guy could ask again.
    Jul 9 0
  • Oath Atinlay2
    RIP, your inbox
    Jul 9 0
  • Microsoft / Eng ksjurhdifo
    may be because of ur username 🤔
    Jul 9 0