I was tired of my lady, we´d been together too long Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed And in the personals column, there was this letter I read
I have this theory where it's not about being attracted, but about being able to show your partner off. We like to brag.
Maybe she isn't good enough for you to show off anymore. Maybe your TC isn't good enough either.
I felt that way because she was jobless for 4 months and then she wanted to be housewife fulltime like in "old times" because it was easier (no kids). I said lol no way and told her I didn't find a housewife interesting. We talked this through and offered her more education, exploring a different career, or funding a small business idea.
She's now an engineer too and I find her hotter even though she is probably not, just because I can show her off and I feel proud when talking about her.
if you feel this way, you can start creating situations in which your wife will become more attractive to you. I love the topic of rebuilding desire. Esther Perel has great talks on this. Ask her about her dreams, then support them, create a date where you help her take a first step. Take her out to do something new, like dancing. Give her pleasure and buy her something that makes her feel beautiful. Something is bound to work and ignite a spark. It’s worth the investment, it’s a skill that will help you in any romantic relationship. Esther Perel said that we may have different relationships, all with the same person, because relations change. It could be that time for you.