I am 26 and a hopeless romantic. I know I’ll meet him one day and he’ll take my breath away. The stars will shine and the birds will sing (I don’t like musicals and I’m as masculine as a man can get, but have a softer side as well :P). I am in the closet and have only been dating for 2 years now. The longest I have dated someone is 5 dates (or about a couple months). I usually fall for the guy who is either not available for me or not interested in me. On the other hand, I seldom like the guy who likes me. Sometimes age is an issue. My range is usually +/-5, I wouldn’t go for it otherwise. Also, sometimes if someone makes themselves too available to me, I lose interest! (should I be consulting a therapist for this?! :P) How did you find someone after graduating from school? It seems so difficult for me to connect with someone with so little a time at our disposal. Straight people would have a different POV, but I want to know all I can about this process. I know I will find the one. I just need to know what I’m doing wrong and I need to work on myself. For now dating apps are the only option for me. Bars and clubs are so loud, I don't think they are for me. I don't wanna go and grind up on a stranger. I'd rather talk to someone and if I like him, I'd want to do the 'I want to mate' dance. TC: $125k I wouldn’t say I’m ugly but I’m no Greek God either! PS: Now I know there’s gonna be ridicule, and please do keep it coming, it makes me laugh. I want some serious answers as well though :)
honestly stay positive and you will meet the one, but when you least expect it. I met my current GF in the most random way possible but i know for sure she is the one. It will happen to you in time, don’t stress :)
What you are looking for is "how to find and be with the one, that also thinks you are the one for him". In today's dating apps era, everyone thinks they have too many options and they can always do better. What they do not realize is they are stuck in a vicious cycle of outpacing each other, where the other person thinking the same. Balance is achieved when two people meet, that know they can do better, but they don't have to and don't want to. Once you find someone that is really into you, think very hard about why you do not want to be with them. If they respect your priorities, and you can tolerate their quirks. Bingo you have found the one. If not move on
This hit me hard. I have, so far, never felt like I can't do better or I don't want anything else. I'll think about this carefully. Thanks!
Are you a male? I wasn't sure. Regardless, this applies to both the genders- it's good to be hopeful, but the whole "he will come, sweep me off my feet" ehhhhh! "We are all searching for someone whose demons play well wit ours"
I think we can have both, and a little bit of drama keeps things alive 😀
You’ll know when you get closer to 30
Hi I think you always lIke somebody not interested in you and lose interested when somebody really into you, means you may like the excitement of the game, but if you want a stable relationship, it’s actually pretty boring because stable is sometimes boring. I also think you may check you probably hit on the guys out of your league, so you don’t like the guys hit on you because they aren’t good enough. I assume check and raise your own attractiveness level then go out to find a date.
This is exactly what I do. But my reasoning to condone myself is that you can't really argue with the way our brains are designed. There's no logic in why you like someone and not the others. I just like blue, I can't try and like pink. Wouldn't that be unnatural?
“I am in the closet” I don’t know if it will lead you to the One but changing this will certainly help your odds
I agree with that. But then there's society and parents. Even though my parents would accept me, the society would make my parents' lives hell. So that's holding me back as well. It's like I'm living this double life.
I'll try to work on it and find some way
I don’t think “the one” exists for anybody. You can be with anyone you are compatible enough with, it’s just a matter of how long you’re willing to search. Once you find someone you’re willing to give up any future “better” chances for, then that’s it. There’s your “one”
Okay I agree. I have experienced this myself. Whenever I am with someone I'm still looking for 'something better' which means he's not the one. The question now is, how do I increase my sample space or rather my odds of meeting someone. I live in San Diego and I have considered changing cities to meet new people. With my own argument that if i can't find someone in San Diego, its highly unlikely changing cities is going to help me.