Whom to pick?

Apple RachelGrn
Nov 1 94 Comments

Went out on few dates with two guys. Had a good time with them both but can’t decide which one to pick. They have quite different personalities, so can’t compare. Continuing going out with them both is not an option at this point and I am interested in a long term relationship. At present I am physically attracted more to one guy but I am also aware that physical beauty is not gonna last forever.

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  • Brightcove moosepuck
    Go with good looks. Money can always be acquired but ugly is forever.
    Nov 1 7
    • LinkedIn vy6DR9
      Pretty sure moosepuck is ugly
      Nov 1
    • Microsoft / Eng TC_slut
      Well, it's actually the opposite. Looks will fade, money will grow
      Nov 1
    • Google workfrom🏝
      Yeah but good looks will make your children chads. Money won’t do anything.
      Nov 2
    • Google flknhvy
      Yeah. By the time money is acquired, good looks have become ugly. Looks is a heavily depreciating asset.
      Also can't guarantee on kids, since depends on OP as well.
      Nov 2
    • Poynt
      EnJuhNeer

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      EnJuhNeermore
      He can work to improve his TC with the advantage of good looking tho
      Nov 2
  • Amazon taco pen
    You know their TC! gold digger spotted
    Nov 1 7
    • Google flknhvy
      Naah 230 is not that great either.
      Nov 2
    • Google ibXn13
      That's true. OP should keep digging.
      Nov 2
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      I don’t know their exact TC. It’s just an approximation based on where they work.
      Also I don’t understand how it’s okay for men to talk about their potential partner’s TC but if a woman does the same she is a gold digger. Hypocrite much!
      Also if I was a gold digger I wouldn’t have bothered going out with the guy with low TC. His TC is way lower than mine. So amazon stfu
      Nov 2
    • Google ibXn13
      If it's just an approximation then we're just guessing... The truth might surprise you! Let's focus on what we can observe. What car do they drive? What brand clothes do they wear?
      Nov 2
    • Google flknhvy
      Brand of clothes, car? Mark Zuckerberg drives a 30k accura may be cheaper than 60k M3 that your 230k dude drives.
      Nov 2
  • Fastmail now@amzn
    TC = total centimeters
    Nov 1 0
  • Wells Fargo Bigilaee
    Honestly whoever you choose, you will end up leaving him - if you find another better person!!
    Nov 1 0
  • Amazon SDE III
    Does anyone fucking fall in love anymore??
    Nov 3 3
    • Boeing 🐼 panda
      hopeful for me and for OP!
      Nov 3
    • Same....but no one wants to be in love. People are trying not to purposely which is very sad 😔😔😔
      Nov 3
    • Apple yadiyada
      More and more are in love with TC apparently
      Nov 3
  • LinkedIn / Eng phatman
    Go with the one who will make you happy. But beware of their spending habits.
    Nov 1 3
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      It’s too soon to be tell who will make me happy hence the confusion. Otherwise the choice would have been pretty obvious.
      Nov 1
    • LinkedIn / Eng phatman
      Is there a cultural difference? In my experience, I think a large cultural difference will cause issues. People on blind will side with the average looking dude, cause let's be honest most of us are not good looking.
      Nov 2
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      There is no cultural difference
      Nov 2
  • Uber / Product hal al 🐤
    Date the ugly one fuck the pretty one
    Nov 1 0
  • Apple LC->TC
    WTF this thing is still on?
    Nov 7 5
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      Still waiting for OP to tell us who is the winner😂
      Nov 7
    • Tell us tell us!
      Nov 8
    • Disney Streaming Services yabu
      No winners in this game.
      Nov 8
    • T-Mobile jensen1
      OP is writing season 2 of this plot where one of the dude OP dates claims he is an Alien who wants to let the truth out that the earth is flat.
      Nov 8
    • Hulu TrNf5340
      When is the season premier? 😂 & which network? Apple only?
      Nov 8
  • Facebook e999
    Why would you even bring up the TC??

    You just reinforced the deeply held (but completely false) belief in blinders that girls care about their TC, and having a higher one gives them an edge (as opposed to being good human beings)... what have you done.
    Nov 2 3
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      I never said any of them is a bad human. I said they both have different personalities and I had a really good time with them both. Also it’s definitely not true that only women care about TC, men now a days care about it equally. So stop blaming people who try to make a practical choices for themselves. If you don’t care about TC then good for you.
      Nov 2
    • Facebook e999
      Using TC as a tie breaker is just ...
      Nov 2
    • Amazon SDE III
      “Practical choices” OP?? You mean like when you’re buying a vacuum cleaner?

      See, you have a problem no amount of TC is gonna fix: you’re dead inside.
      Nov 3
  • Northrop Grumman / Eng GammaE
    Man.. if I could warn both of those dudes and show them this post. Have to do a little extra legal work with people like you.
    Nov 2 3
    • Google swinglyf
      Oh, internet tough guy
      Nov 2
    • Northrop Grumman / Eng GammaE
      You must be Karen, Rachel’s friend. Then you cry for women’s equality after making posts like these waaa waaa
      Nov 2
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      If I pick the second guy then Mr GammaE I should be the one doing the extra legal work. I hope none of them are like you. Thanks!
      Nov 2
  • Apple aabbcc0081
    Depends on what you value more .... Also 50k vs 100k is very different that 250k vs 500k

    Does the low TC guy has future oppy to increase TC
    Nov 1 3
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      120k vs 230k
      Nov 1
    • Apple aabbcc0081
      120k i Bay Area is pretty below par ... any scope of future TC increase

      imo, having a good TC is very important if u’re looking for a long term relationship, it affects a lot of things, where you live, where you eat, vacation choices etc

      Its a difficult one, choose wisely
      Nov 1
    • Apple RachelGrn
      OP
      That’s exactly what I have been thinking about. TC will affect living standard in long run.
      As for TC increase scope, I think there is a possibility since he is also a software engineer.
      Nov 1
  • Boeing 🐼 panda
    OP, update please. what's happening? are subsequent dates planned with both? if so, when? have you already informed one he's dumped? if so, which one did you choose?
    Nov 2 1
    • Also which one were you with today during the day and in the afternoon/night and who will be tomorrow during the day and tomorrow at night?
      Nov 2
  • Microsoft contraktor
    You really need to see who is better in bed too....sexual chemistry is more important than you think....
    Nov 2 0
  • Apple / Eng MakingIt
    If you know their TC during first few dates they’re both too desperate to show off their pee pee size. Go find someone that isn’t all about peacocking. If you’re the one initiated the TC conversation. Then shame on you because you wanted them to justify they’re worthy of your time. Just my 2c.

    For context. I didn’t tell my wife my TC till she’s my fiancé
    Nov 2 0
  • Amazon SDE III
    Is looks the only way they differ (other than TC)?? Personality, interests, humor, compatibility? You sound as shallow as a puddle.
    Nov 2 0
  • Symantec spidrman
    120k and 230k are both low...don’t loose patience OP , you might find someone better
    Nov 2 0
  • Disney Streaming Services yabu
    The ugly guy may be lying about his TC.
    Nov 2 0
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Expedia Group / Eng getmesfjob
      And this comment... Dude here is not Quora. Stop it
      Nov 2
  • Fannie Mae sDEB48
    This is blind TC TC TC TC TC TC TC
    Nov 1 1
  • Microsoft / Eng brane
    You don't deserve either of your going to continue putting candidate dates against each other
    Nov 2 0

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