My husband and I are both engineers for different large tech companies. We met early on in college and were each other’s first real relationship. We got married a couple years after we graduated and it’s something I wish I had not done. There was family pressure from his and mine and it was almost as if my parents liked him more than I did. It’s been six years since being married and I finally had the courage to end it and officially file for divorce. It’s something I’ve tried to get the courage to do for quite a while. Each time I would get close or broach the topic, he would make me feel guilty and make me feel like I was being selfish. And up until recently, I believed it. For him, staying together is about power. We fought a lot before we got married and even more since marriage. Up until about a year ago, I thought it was just normal to be unhappy in marriage and fight constantly with your partner. It’s not. We would and still do fight constantly, and it often stems from him acting like he owns me. No one owns you or your body. No one can tell you you cannot hang out with other guys who are just friends. When you don’t want to have sex with your husband/ wife/ partner, you shouldn’t feel obligated to do so. It’s confusing and frustrating that I only realized this a year ago, as I have always considered myself a staunch feminist. I suppose I saw only what I wanted in him. After all, why would the person who is supposed to love me most, ever do anything that would hurt me? So, it must be my fault, right? Wrong. To all the women (and yes, some men) out there who may be dealing with similar issues: be strong. You are your own person and no one owns you or has a right to do anything with you you don’t want to do. Bodily autonomy is important and you are strong enough to end a relationship you don’t want to be in. Don’t let someone convince you otherwise. #MeToo
Thank you
So he forced you into sex or reprehensible bodily acts against your will? That is marital rape.
Did you ever try couples therapy?
For sexual assault? No. So, you believe this is the solution?
No, I just meant for marriage counseling, not for sexual assault
May be try living separately for sometime? And then see
Whoa. Good for you for getting the strength to finally do it.
That sucks. How did you initially find him attractive?
This is more common than many people think. You are incredibly strong for making the break. With him being so possessive, I assume you will be dealing with more harassment from him now that he is finally losing control. Be strong and stick to your decision. You can do this!
Sadly, you are right.
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Don't want to re-read, but any kids involved?
No kids thankfully
Ok, that makes things easier for sure. Hope it works out well for both of you.