Why doesn’t anyone like to eat lunch together?

Levi Strauss / Other oroc76
Jun 19 23 Comments

Why do most people like to eat at their desk? Isn’t networking over lunch important for team bonding?

I find it so hard to find people to go grab some lunch with. What works for you guys especially when you’re new to the place and don’t know anyone?

Edit: I get it that people are busy and try to get as much work done. I myself get busy on some days during lunch hour. I find it hard to believe that would be the case on all 5 days of the week

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  • OpenDoor tmcolemkv
    Not to mention slow eaters are the worst things ever. Those who join halfway through the lunch, now no one is rude enough to get up until the f&@er has to finish his meal. Seriously. just shoot me.
    Jun 19 1
    • Microsoft
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      Lol, really? I just say “alright, have to head out” like any normal person would...
      Jun 19
  • OpenDoor tmcolemkv
    Because talking to people is very mentally draining. Gimme a break. I’m tired from work. I just want peace and quiet for at least an hour a day, all so I can get through the rest of another miserable day at work.
    Jun 19 0
  • Amazon / Eng Benny Lava
    Because we don't want to work overtime and then waste time socializing with coworkers at lunch.
    Jun 19 0
  • Uber qYr9ir
    Lunch is a very social time at Uber. It’s a surprisingly pleasant aspect of working here. There’s no awkwardness; folks join and leave the communal table constantly.
    Jun 19 0
  • Microsoft
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    Wow, y’all...not taking time away from the desk is a recipe for burnout and unhappiness. OP, everywhere I’ve worked, lots of people eat with others. I think tech folks can be especially antisocial, however.
    Jun 19 2
    • OpenDoor tmcolemkv
      Uh, not true. If anything, I get burnout from having to socialize with coworkers outside work hours. Small talks around the lunch table are mind numbingly boring. I’ve worked in other industries. Those guys are not brave enough to eat alone at their desks. In tech, no one cares and no one judges. It’s not antisocial. Not having to eat with other people is so liberating.
      Jun 19
    • Microsoft
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      Sorry, I was primarily referring to burnout around not leaving the desk all day, which is what you’re implying.

      And small talk? Sounds like you haven’t found folks you click with yet.
      Jun 19
  • This is the biggest thing I miss from working at my previous job. Lunch was catered there, so everybody ate at roughly the same time and in the same place. I never realized that the real perk of free lunch is not the money savings, but the social aspect.
    Jun 19 1
    • Levi Strauss / Other oroc76
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      I agree, I experienced this at a standup I worked for. I feel like taking 20 mins out to have lunch with someone can have profound effect on your overall mental health at work. It doesn’t even have to be lunch, even a simple afternoon walk makes a huge difference
      Jun 19
  • Microsoft geentea
    What the hell is wrong with y'all, why is everything a waste unless you're burning your corneas looking at a screen? It seems more like people here don't know how to manage their time and have zero social skills, some even seem to genuinely hate their life.

    Anyway, OP, I eat with my team pretty often, or some other co-workers. Just ask around, sometimes it just takes a couple tries. Or try to get to know other people in your building and see if they want to eat lunch. Just be a bit patient, apparently it's way harder than what I thought, judging by the comments
    Jun 19 0
  • Microsoft magic8
    Depends on age. I find the interns love to go to lunch. Anyone with kids, you don’t bother asking.
    Jun 19 2
    • Levi Strauss / Other oroc76
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      I agree, they have more time on their hands and are just eager to mingle. In simple terms, they’re young and not jaded
      Jun 19
    • Snapchat Shelzough
      True that, I used to like going out for lunch with coworkers, but slowly getting to the point that I like to eat alone.
      Jun 19
  • LinkedIn
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    Usually people from the same background like to hang out. Discover people similar to you and ask if you can once join them.
    Jun 19 1
    • Twitter Jump start
      There's no one like me there. Neither personality nor ethnicity.
      Jun 20
  • Cisco gutki
    People's mindset seems to have changed with cut-throat competition, fast-changing tech and redefined social fabric. I always believe in socializing with folks at office - both as a break from work as well as a sense of bonding perspective. Agree there is work to do, but do I need to do it every second of my life ? Agree we need to improve ourselves at work at every opportunity but not at the cost of isolation and single-mindedness. A mentor once told very rightly - it's good to be on your toes, but doing that too much would hurt you more.
    Jun 19 0
  • Amazon / Eng nutboy39
    I’m around my team all day. Helping them with shit, meetings, more meetings. Lunch is a little break where I can go relax by myself, cruise reddit, and enjoy some food without needing to expend energy on conversations.

    TL;DR: introverts
    Jun 20 0
  • Microsoft UseDeFeet
    Because there’s work to do...
    Jun 19 0
  • Oracle strong20
    For some reason lunch doesn't count as part of your work day, so if you take an hour for it, that's am hour less outside of work that you'll have.
    Jun 19 0
  • New jUXL35
    I agree with you, there has to be a balance, we are social creatures, and if you have to sacrifice even your social needs in order to get your job done, there's something you are doing wrong in general.

    What I did: created a chat channel specifically for that, so anyone who would like to eat together that day could join up, didn't happen every single day, but we had a expedite way to even define where to eat, and others more inclined to 'desk eating' could also feel motivated to join.
    Jun 19 0
  • Microsoft / Eng
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    Some people have a lot of work to do, some people just aren’t very social. Don’t take it personally.

    Maybe there’s some people on another team under your M2 who like to go to lunch.
    Jun 19 0
  • Clover Health sses
    For me, it's zone time. The longer I'm away from work, the longer it takes to zone-in again.
    Jun 20 0