I don't think I have an approach regarding how to date. I'm mostly going with the flow and have spoken to a few great guys too. But I don't think I'm doing this right. The thing I'm having a problem with is that, once I start talking to someone because I liked a few things in them, I start going with the flow and stop thinking about whether this is the right relationship for the both of us. I think I value friendship more in a relationship? So if I match with someone and if we build a good friendship, I stop processing if this is the right decision. How do I do this the right way when I'm looking for a long term relationship?
I'm not sure I understand the problem. Why do you need to deeply analyze the relationship? What you're doing sounds perfect. Go with the flow, have fun. You'll naturally stick with guys that you are a good match with. If it gets more serious, you will start to find whether you match on the big things or not.
So the problem is that it may not the priority for them. And me going with the flow thinking good friendship is a positive sign is probably me not seeing things for the way they are?
So are you worried that you're friendzoning yourself with them? I feel like friendship is the core building block of a good relationship.
I don't think it's wrong. A good friendship is a basic element of a relationship, at least that's how I view it. Going with the flow sounds great, anyday better than the people who pretend to be perfectionist and try their best to impress women around them by portraying a self they are not.
Another Indian guy posing as a girl asking for dating advice. 🙄
Haha why specifically Indian?
I'm not. But regardless, doesn't make the question any less important.
It only mean you haven’t find the one. I’m single and currently actively dating too. I do realize some guys I can hang out with and have fun with, but that feeling to a romantic relationship is just not there, so I end up friend zoning them.
Your approach is good. However, you might be giving the wrong signal to guys that you are merely interested in "fun" & not a LT relationship. What I recommend is also talk about long term and just get his thoughts and feelings and his view on it. Don't push it hard and don't do it too early in the relationship but you still need to discuss it. There are some men who are not meant to be in a LT relationship and are just like a 🐇 go from one person to another. Good luck! 😊
Why though? Wouldn't they want a stable relationship too if they found the opposite person important enough? Is it because of the way social dating is? Having people in the pipeline, the fear of missing out on someone better?
Fear of commitment. Many people want to have fun and don't want to invest the energy a LTR requires.
Don’t use dating apps, they all suck
I sadly don't have many single guy friends around me😝 mostly girls and guys already in a LT relationship.
Dating apps are superficial and temporal. Both terrible for long term relationships. Better to start hanging out in places your type goes to.
Indian?
Don’t have sex until you are married. Will keep your mind clear.
How do you know if you're sexually compatible then?
If one partner has a penis and the other a v*gina, you are sexually compatible. Sex evolves so much over the course of a marriage that predicting what it will be like 10 years from now after kids vs when you are dating is impossible.
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So for you: Friendzone > Endzone
But in this case it begins with two people matching with each other. So technically they're also attracted to each other in some way.