I’m 36 yr old, female. Well educated/travelled/dressed. Fit and attractive. Work in tech == financially stable. Own my place.
This is not only me, all my single girlfriends have the same challenge/complaints. People say the Silicon Valley is full of guys, but not so much in my experience. 1/5 are super nerdy and don’t understand human emotions. 1/5 don’t want kids. 1/5 I don’t find attractive, 1/5 make less than 50% of what I make and I’m not very comfortable with that (I gave up the hope for equal-income partner long time ago. Given I have average tech salary, 50% means he needs to hold a decent job). The rest 1/5 feel they are too good for me.
(Well these sections overlap so the math doesn’t really work, but you got the idea)
Any ideas what I can do? I would appreciate guys’ perspective. Thanks!
Some background, I’m an immigrant, which means it took me a lot of time and effort to land in the Silicon Valley. It also took me a couple of years to get familiar with the dating norms here. Still learning everyday =)
Guys your age who are desirable are settling down with early 20 somethings (the minority that have their shit together) rather than wasting their time courting someone who is both infertile and has a high opinion of themselves.
I would never date a woman in her thirties unless I didn't want to settle down and have kids. And I say this as a guy who did a long term relationship with a woman in her thirties before eventually realizing the error of my ways.
Women date and marry up (in terms of status). Guys marry youth and childbearing potential. An attractive woman with lot of money who's leaving childbearing age is going to have a really hard time matching with most guys-either they are too low status or they can do better, with a huge gap in the middle for the guys that are both too low status and can do better.