Ex is getting engaged to the chick he left me for now. But why was he even with me for 3 years before that ? Why do men leave a relationship? Did he even ever like me?
Sorry to hear that. Don't take it personally. It's the male version of "Monkey Branching"
What does that mean
Monkeys never let go of a branch when swinging until they are holding the next ones. Women more than men (but both are guilty) often do this. They are in a relationship they aren't happy with and start putting the next one together so when they pull the ripcord on the first one, the second one is waiting, No downtime.
Why don't you ask him? Could be many reasons: - The sex was bad or infrequent - He wasn't that attracted to you - You had a personality trait he didn't like ... Or perhaps he just clicked better / had better chemistry with the other person. It happens 🤷🏻♂️
He said crap like our timing was off
Why do you think it's crap? People change with time and things we experience. We can be very different in our thought process, needs, and wants from year to year.
Same could be asked about why women leave a relationship? Did she even ever like me? And the answer is, you are fishing for some kind of consolation and we get it you are hurt. I'm sorry.
Well, shit happens
Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who wasn’t happy? I wouldn’t.
Oh! So you think only men do that and women are so trustworthy and never leave?
Lol sounds like I am at the losing end of things. He’s got lucky and set for life while I sit here crying about how great he was
Sorry you feel that way. It's tough, but, life moves on. Give it a few days..
I think it is great that he found a person that he is happy with. Think about it. What if he stayed with you, married you, maybe even had kids, but all this time was really in love with someone else? If you really love him, wouldn’t you want him to be happy? Can you imagine if you were in his shoes and committed to someone knowing you secretly love someone else? Would you really want him to stay with you even though deep down he knew that he was no longer in love with you? It is incredibly heartbreaking and painful. I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. It hurts right now because you really about him. Just like you he is only human and does not have the ability to predict the future. Do you possess magical powers to predict whom you might fall in or out of love with in 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years? Who says there won’t be a day in 10 years time when he’ll realize that he made a mistake and should have stayed with you? That’s life. Whatever his reasons, he chose to be with you, didn’t he? And you chose to be with him. You must have cared about him, as he must have cared about you. Can you think of him right now and see that Him you loved so much when you were together? Can you think of wonderful memories and times you shared together? Can you love the fact that the same loving person, same Him, found his happiness with someone else? He is still the same person you used to love.... he is just a little different. Different in a way you may not enjoy now, but then you loved him exactly because he is who he is, and as he continues being.
Sorry to hear about it
This is why keeping tabs on your ex is a bad idea. Nothing good will come out of it. Even if there is a chance of rekindling the relationship, it will be the equivalent of reheating cold pizza that’s been on the counter for 2 days. Just get a new pizza.
Can't upvote this enough. I think it's okay to be friends with an ex, just be sure to take a long enough no-contact break after your breakup. Preferred length is same as the length of your relationship. So in this case, 3 years.
I'm gonna go ahead suggest that you try a different online forum. I'm sure plenty exist if you search for one.