I am on an H1b . Earn decent enough- Have a mortgage , home in Bay Area. Have been married around 6 years now, knew my wife for around 9 years. When we were dating she was actively open to working in the US , but after we got married and then a year odd later had a kid , now she doesn’t want to get into the job market. She says she’s happy being a house wife . Mind you visa hassles with H4 , or the fact she will need a US degree possibly for a H1b are all contributing to her reluctance in getting a job. I think it’s not good long term for her or our kid . Change my mind or let me know how I can help change my wife’s mind. Note that I am not in it for the additional income stream - my worries are that she’s increasingly getting socially cut off as all of my friends have spouses who work. TC: 350K
As long as she has passions and hobbies, she will be fine socially. Does she volunteer in the school or community? Too many high earner families don't give back to the local community. Please tell me you aren't one of them.
I would be ecstatic if she would do that, but no . How does one volunteer in school here ? My kid only goes to day care for now .
It’s a slippery slope. Taking care of a kid full time is taxing and you don’t want to make her feel like you don’t appreciate it (unless you really don’t). Is your kid going to daycare full time? Seems she would have plenty of free time then. Can you figure out what she is interested in and even make some useful suggestions to her? Would do more use than venting about it to a bunch of strangers. Sometimes people need a little nudge to get going.
Life is one. You work like slave here. Let her enjoy and live her life. Why you want to make her slave just for few bucks
Like I said it isn’t for money- I am fine if she volunteers also , I am mostly worried about social aspects. Almost everyone in my social circle have spouses who work.
Doesn’t mean your spouse has to work, raising a kid is a lot of work. If she enjoys being a housewife and is doing a great job at it, why change it?
My brother’s GF doesn’t work either and she’s waiting for my brother to feed her. I feel like having a socially discounted gf/wife is a terrible idea. Her life will be all about you, family dramas etc ... good luck!
Maybe leave her. You can afford to get a younger sexier thing
Sorry, love my daughter and wife too much for that.
@op you are a good human. Wholesome comment. Blind community needs more of this.
Are you the asshole that took away the headphone jack
It takes a lot of courage on my part to say yes , I was the one responsible for that 😂
OP is lying. He is missing the income stream.
😒 - I am fine with her volunteering too , don’t care about money at all - and she doesn’t work in tech nor is the driven type , so doubt she would bring in much income anyways. I am just worried about social isolation. She increasingly avoids meeting with friends who have spouses who work because it upsets her.
Really? My wife doesn’t work and have like 100 friends. Every weekend there’s at least two parties.
Lot of women stay home and in fact have more friends than two working couple. More work life balance.
Draw a scenario where something happens to you (God forbid). How is she planning to cope?
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Will you do that to your wife ?