Wife earns more than me

BYTON oh Stupid
Jul 3 84 Comments

My wife earns more than me. I am a hardware engineer while my wife is a software engineer with a TC 1.5x times mine.
This is causing rift in our relationship. I like her a lot for who she is. Suggest me a way to keep my marriage alive

Update: she does have her instances of reminding me this fact, when we have a difference of opinion. I don't know if greater TC means your opinions are always right.

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  • HERE progli
    Is she like "shut up I make more money?"
    Jul 3 8
    • New / Eng rresoisnco
      She needs therapy
      Jul 3
    • New / Data
      blakdik4hr

      New Data

      PRE
      Mu Sigma Inc.
      blakdik4hrmore
      Just give her the D OP. She needs it
      Jul 3
    • Amazon workwork*5
      I make 7x more than my husband. He loves his job, doesn't have to put in as many hours as me. And is always available to play on our PS4. If I look at my manager, he hardly has time for his family even though he is making more money than me. I guess her perspective is screwed up.
      Jul 3
    • Oracle marriedM
      Tell her, you need hardware to run software!
      Jul 4
    • Oracle marriedM
      Agree with workwork*5
      Jul 4
  • New / Eng tAcq10
    This is female nature, unfortunately
    Jul 3 11
    • HERE progli
      Yeah, I recommended that we bring her on to Blind! She should have a chance to speak up haha
      Jul 3
    • Zillow Group CIjK26
      Did not mean to offend you Morpheus.
      Jul 3
    • New / Eng tAcq10
      The problem is TC
      Jul 3
    • Amazon brknHrt
      It's not the female nature. It could be the nature of some females. Don't generalize.
      Jul 3
    • Indeed / Mktg GxNB63
      Anyone who pulls the breadwinner card is weak. Itโ€™s a low blow and usually an indicator of insecurity and an antiquated view of โ€œproviding for the family.โ€ Where she has more digits in compensation, you likely have more digits in emotional intelligence. Not to beat up on your lady, but as a woman, I feel that itโ€™s views like hers that hold women back (as evidenced by the earlier misogynistic comment.)
      Jul 3
  • Facebook dzntz
    Is your ๐Ÿ† 1.5x her's?
    Jul 3 0
  • Target bast
    Get over it.
    Jul 3 0
  • New / Eng rresoisnco
    I'll take her
    Jul 3 0
  • Amazon TDKU11
    I would be ecstatic
    Jul 3 0
  • Tableau / Eng IRGV83
    So; my wife used to earn 2X to me. I now earn 1.5X after a few job changes and promotions. That has only been the last 2 years. Previous 8 years she earned more.

    Why would this cause problems? Our relationship hasnโ€™t changed as a result of my higher income.

    Just deal with it.
    Jul 3 2
    • Tesla / Eng random eng
      Does that mean you make 3x what you made before? What's your secret
      Jul 3
    • Facebook / Design
      Danziggy

      Facebook Design

      PRE
      AppDirect, Salesforce, Amazon, Microsoft, SugarSync
      Danziggymore
      Exactly, the money is never the problem.
      Jul 3
  • Splunk krasn
    Tell her that without your hardware her software would be nowhere to run. They complement each other.
    Jul 3 1
    • Amazon brknHrt
      Software can be opensource or free. So, software can be cheaper than hardware.

      Update: dude you edited your comment completely ๐Ÿ˜†
      Jul 3
  • Amazon / Eng Cali Juice
    She is probably screwing some alpha at her office making $400k+ TC, if itโ€™s anything like a similar experience I witnessed. You either need to get a higher TC or just leave
    Jul 3 1
    • Amazon / Eng yg5rg65
      Incel alert
      Jul 3
  • Zillow Group CIjK26
    You are an idiot man. She is your sugar mama.. embrace it. Stay home with kids be a soccer dad, go learn how to be a software engineer. Enjoy what you do. In no way salary should interfere with your relationship you are a human after all, relationship is way more important than career. If you chose your wife strictly on how much she makes. How does it make you look? I don't actually get what is your actual problem.
    Jul 3 3
    • BYTON oh Stupid
      OP
      I didn't select her based on how much she makes. She was a grad student while we married. Yes I will learn to be a software engineer, maybe do an MBA, maybe trade stocks to make extra bucks. But I am sad of random discussions ending on discussing TC.
      Jul 3
    • New / Eng rresoisnco
      You don't need to make unreasonable changes to your career because of a woman. She's not worth it if she has a disgusting personality, and she seems like she does if all your arguments end in TC. Sorry you're having to deal with this.
      Jul 3
    • Zillow Group CIjK26
      I am sorry in that case. The problem sounds like a deeper cause.. if all conversations end like that, then she's just bullying you.. y'all need to work it out with her.. marriage consuling would be a good choice. Sorry can't give you a better advise.
      Jul 3
  • Amazon klulez
    She has caught Blind Virus!
    Jul 3 1
    • HERE progli
      "TC or GTFO" haha
      Jul 3
  • Oracle not_larry
    Why is it causing rift?
    Jul 3 0
  • Amazon Gsic12
    Therapy. Gratefulness.
    Jul 3 0
  • The Home Depot FPQk51
    I have ALWAYS made more than my husband. One thing that is important to me is that meant I got to do less household chores. Sorry, the person with less TC should do more chores to make up for the fact they aren't providers. So if you are still making her do the bulk of the household chores, you bet your ass, she should bring up her TC. Do your share of household work without being told constantly to pick up after yourself.
    Jul 5 4
    • Bloomberg / IT MagikMike
      Divorce!
      Jul 5
    • Amazon brknHrt
      A quintessential mentality that shouldn't be in a relationship.
      Hope your husband doesn't read this. Poor guy.
      Jul 5
    • Amazon workwork*5
      I don't agree. Even if he earns less doesnt mean he is working less. Household chores should be shared equally. And both partners should be willing to do extra chores sometimes if the other partner is in time crunch or sick or something like that. Relationship and marriage are not business transactions
      Jul 5
    • Facebook / Eng MySpace
      Love this. If my wife made more than me, Iโ€™d be happy to do most of the chores. But in reality I make 10x her TC and we hire cleaning services.
      Jul 6
  • Microsoft yesterda
    Show her your hardware and squeeze her software . Get her to like hardware.
    Jul 4 0
  • Microsoft / Other jhf5&z6d#
    I'll trade you for my wife. She makes way less than me and always reminds me she makes way less.
    Jul 3 0
  • Google singl4ever
    lower TC will always win in a divorce
    teach her a lesson!

    (jk don't do that)
    Jul 3 1
    • New / Eng tAcq10
      Unironically do it tho
      Jul 3
  • Control4 Loves2sp
    So when you disagree on something she tells you that sheโ€™s right because she makes more money than you? This sounds like a bad relationship regardless of who is making more money.
    Jul 3 0
  • Juniper Pliny Jr
    When she feels she needs to talk TC, pull your dick out and command her for a BJ.

    This will make you feel better, more manly, and in control! ๐Ÿคค

    Gwyneth Paltrow admitted she gives bj's when she's arguing with her man. It stops arguments right away. ๐Ÿ‘
    Jul 4 1
    • Google Trump 1793
      I wouldn't take relationship advice from the person who sells v*gina crystals.

      (lol Blind doesn't allow the word v*gina)
      Jul 5
  • Nvidia monolith_
    And here I am, trying to push my wife to earn more than me ๐Ÿ™„
    Jul 3 0