Wifey problem

Amazon Brrrr
Nov 8, 2018 95 Comments

My wife expects to be treated equally sharing equal responsibilities in everything. I do part of cooking , cleaning etc. But when I ask her to contribute to the rent , she gets mad at me and says it’s husbands duty to pay rent . 🤮

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  • Is it too late to divorce? High maintenance ho spotted
    Nov 8, 2018 4
    • Amazon 123raj
      But but feminism said everything should be equal right?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New / Eng uhYr23
      These women are not femenists. They're narcissists.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      Thanks uhYr23 for mansplaining. /s
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New / Eng uhYr23
      I was actually womansplaining!
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Microsoft Ranveer
    Hows the sex? If awesome, just pay the rent
    Nov 8, 2018 5
    • Google
      dyfuuu

      Google

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      dyfuuumore
      Lol.

      Microsoft folks shouldn't be using their analytical skills.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Mentor Graphics / Sales
      #SheToo

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      Cadence, Synopsys
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      A Siemens business..
      #SheToomore
      Wait a second, isn’t sex a mutual thing?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      Yea, so if she is like a 🐓 whisperer, just pony up the rent. Why is my analysis wrong?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon / Mgmt 𓂺a2
      WTF with the bird, use 𓂺 like a real man
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      Emojis don’t decide manliness, rent paying abilities apparently do ;)
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Uber / Eng
    sight

    Uber Eng

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    sightmore
    One bank account, you both put money in. You both agree with what comes out.

    The problem here is that it sounds like there is your money and her money. When you get married there should no longer be “mine”, but only “ours”. Everything in partnership and for the betterment of one another.
    Nov 8, 2018 9
    • Microsoft / Eng deadpan
      One account = constant fighting.

      You should also each have accounts that you don't need permission to use.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      sight

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      sightmore
      Have had one account with my wife for 15+ years and there has been no fighting whatsoever. This is because we seek the good of one another ahead of ourselves, and we have some baseline agreements/caps on spending.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Bloomberg MSGSlayer
      Having one account just doesn’t make sense
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      sight

      Uber Eng

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      sightmore
      The transparency also helps sustain trust.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New gtik58
      Agree with this Uber guy. Work as a team, OP.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Google Fellion
      I also have had one account with my spouse for over 15 years, with no fighting whatsoever. I guess we’re fortunate that way, but if you go into a marriage without a commitment to a complete financial partnership, that seems a little weird to me.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Bloomberg $ROPE
      This thot wants to live rent free and not contribute but you want to give you access to all your dough?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      sight

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      sightmore
      I’m suggesting that they need to align and partner on everything. Problem with OP’s message is that they aren’t viewing their marriage as a team with mutual success.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New rsAw04
      I personally like having one account for all the basic household costs that we pool into. If you wanna have a side account I guess that's fine as long as you aren't actively hiding money issues from your spouse.
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Does she charge for sex?
    Nov 8, 2018 4
    • Not for sex. But for BJs, HJs. Don't ask me how I know it.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      HJ?!! You sound so old iBM
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Boeing / Ops Airbus
      But she requires condom for BJs. Don’t ask me how I know it
      Nov 8, 2018
    • 123raj. It's capital 'I' buddy. People might get a wrong idea that we are an Apple product and pour money into us.
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Pinterest adspmm
    Step 1: Stop calling her wifey
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon Brrrr
    OP
    Now caught by wifey . She is on blind as well . Asked her to see what ppl think about this 😷
    Nov 8, 2018 3
    • Amazon capsLock02
      You admitted it’s your post? You have balls!
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
      LOL.

      Wifey please post as well!
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Google / Eng OnePunch
      Haha I'm curious what mental gymnastics she goes through to justify her stance after reading this thread.

      My money is on her manipulating you gently without your consent on how it makes her kitty purr when you're a manly man (aka when you pay the bills). Don't fall for it bro. You heard it here first.
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Amazon Brrrr
    OP
    She makes a lil over 100k
    Nov 8, 2018 13
    • Google bobt2
      Sorry to hear. And you dated for how long before that? Did you ever make her pay rent when you were living together before marriage?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon Brrrr
      OP
      Dated her for like 3 months
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon Brrrr
      OP
      We dint live together before marriage
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New / Eng uhYr23
      Arranged marriage?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • 3 month's? Wow that 🍑 must have been something
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New / Eng uhYr23
      Is she Asian?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Google bobt2
      Dated for 3 months? Are you 18, and is she pregnant? Or was this a visa thing
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Salesforce
      eye()

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      eye()more
      Well if she's that traditional she's probably going to take care of most childcare. Ask her if that will be the case. Find a middle ground
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng buffdude
      Looks like arranged 😀
      Nov 8, 2018
    • AMD
      5nm

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      5nmmore
      I don’t get it... you are married, it doesn’t matter who pays for what!
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
    You pay equally given your incomes. If you make 250k and she make 60k you dont split the rent 50-50.

    If she doesnt pay rent then ask her what she's contributing
    Nov 8, 2018 2
    • Yahoo Bwxk04
      I don’t understand when you are married the finances are shared the accounts should be mixed and you pay from one account.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
      Not necessarily. I know some people who do separate. Both with equal and unequal incomes
      Nov 8, 2018
  • New / Eng Oemgee
    One time I dated a woman and during one of the first few dates she said, half jokingly: “my money is my money and your money is my money”. I ghosted her after that date. She was hot and successful so it was hard, but I don’t need to take chances on gold diggers and most importantly I don’t want to reinforce her behavior by allowing her to get away with it, she gotta learn like has to be fair. All men should grow iron balls like mine.
    Nov 8, 2018 3
    • OP take notes
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      Uber Eng

      BIO
      Im a cat! 🐈 Meowww... Fancy feast is my favorite kind of kibbles 🐱
      meowimacatmore
      Do you think there was a chance she was just joking?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • New / Eng Oemgee
      It’s possible. But as I said it was too scary to run the chance. This was a couple years ago, and since then I’ve been dating a much better woman who doesn’t joke about money lol (my current gf), so it worked out well overall
      Nov 9, 2018
  • Amazon Brrrr
    OP
    We had a chat about this just last night . It’s king of obvious 😬
    Nov 8, 2018 3
    • Dude you need to go to man camp and take training.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon Brrrr
      OP
      @mywife : babe you should be really lucky to have a truthful husband like me
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Pandora Pan$1*#%
      You can tell her million times but she will never feel lucky to having “truthful husband”. Good luck
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng
    popozao

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    I’m from Fresno
    popozaomore
    You’re supposed to know this stuff before getting married
    Nov 8, 2018 0
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    • Wifey spotted
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

      Compass Eng

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      FUPayMemore
      Finances should always stay separate.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

      Compass Eng

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      FUPayMemore
      So you’re saying the whole point of marriage is to co-mingle funds? I think you might have a very warped sense of marriage.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

      Compass Eng

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      FUPayMemore
      It’s only much easier if both parties are equally responsible with their finances. One of the major causes for divorce are finances. I have found it to be best when there are 3 accounts. Yours, mine, ours. We each kick into the ours fund and that covered mutual expenses. Beyond that you have yours I have mine.
      Nov 8, 2018
    • @yahoo no offense you sound like my wife. U sure ur a dude?
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

      Compass Eng

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      FUPayMemore
      The purpose is to avoid the situation above.
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Amazon fnuLnu
    Asian???
    Nov 8, 2018 1
    • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
      BaDumTsss..!!
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Apple KGHP41
    It’s never too late to end a marriage.
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • New YPqT75
    I think you missed having certain conversations before you got married.
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • My story

    My wife expects to be treated equally sharing equal responsibilities in everything. I do part of cooking , cleaning , grocery shopping, laundry, paying full for takeouts, paying utilities ,insurance ,clothes etc But when I ask her to contribute to the rent , she gets mad at me and says it’s husbands duty to pay rent and asks me sleep on the couch.
    Nov 8, 2018 3
    • Amazon Brrrr
      OP
      We are on the same boat 🚣‍♀️
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng
      sarcasticg

      Amazon Eng

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      sarcasticgmore
      Not every woman can handle equality
      Nov 8, 2018
    • Yahoo Bwxk04
      Don’t understand if you’re married how you’re finances aren’t merged and you just pay for things from a joint account. Problem solved
      Nov 8, 2018
  • eBay YAgV34
    Pay the rent and remind her that man’s duty by nature is to bang multiple girls to maximize likelihood of survival of the specie so that’s what you’re going to do. I’m sure she’ll understand what the duties are and you’ll make your bucks worth
    Nov 8, 2018 1
    • Noooo. Don't say that. She might turn into a whore giving the same evolution theory as a reason. More for OP then .
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Google bobt2
    So she wants you to make the money at work, pay for everything, then come home, and split the chores? Dump her
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon Tough life
    Lol cute story
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Microsoft hotsteppa
    Stop cooking and cleaning. After a few months go through R&Rs with her again
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Microsoft lGnQ70
    Lol you've been suckered. Most likely you were lured with sex. And now she yas your manhood in her purse. Equal is equal. Don't suffer that bullshit. Tell her to pay up or get the fuck out of your house.
    Nov 8, 2018 1
    • Amazon Tough life
      It’s not equal. Women have babies. They have to go through a lot. If you start calculating , then our efforts don’t really match . I have seen the amount of change and effort my wife has put in to have and raise our kids. And she didn’t bottle feed formula or let babies cry it out . All natural , like nature meant to be. You have to remember to pay it forward sometimes and then it will reap rewards later. This isn’t a job or something to be constantly comparing on who is doing what and who can pee the highest . It’s collaborative which means that some days you have to eat dirt. Only then, will your marriage be successful. Otherwise life will pass you by and you will sit and wonder in your 40’s and 50’s on the decisions you made.
      Nov 8, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng Bourgeois
    Stand up for yourself
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Intel UrMomma
    Problem you created. Enjoy
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Microsoft FYuS66
    Is she Indian or American? Depending on the origin, it might actually be normal.
    Nov 8, 2018 1
    • Intel IknowItsU
      Must be indian. Those women are stuck in between liberal and dream world
      Nov 8, 2018
  • OSIsoft exWV57
    OP, your wife seems to suffer from Entitled Princess Disorder.
    Dec 3, 2018 0
  • AMD
    5nm

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    5nmmore
    Do you live in a community property state? If so it doesn’t matter who pays for rent, your money is her money and her money is your money.
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Intel IknowItsU
    Leave her man
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng WRyY10
    You married a selfish moron. Nice job
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng
    sarcasticg

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    sarcasticgmore
    Simple fix. Open a joint account and close all other checking accounts.
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • New / Eng uhYr23
    Time to "Leetcode".
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Microsoft MrsHyde
    Does she have an income? If not, how do you expect her to pay rent. You could start a conversation about her going to work
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Ops Smoothies
    OMG - too late for you
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Is she hot?
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Uber / Eng
    meowimacat

    Uber Eng

    BIO
    Im a cat! 🐈 Meowww... Fancy feast is my favorite kind of kibbles 🐱
    meowimacatmore
    Was it an arranged marriage?
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Apple AAPL-$2T
    what is both of your tc?
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • New / Data
    Nullify

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    Nullifymore
    Is she working a good paying job?
    Nov 8, 2018 0
  • Daimler PowerPoint
    Do you have kids?
    Nov 8, 2018 0

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