I got an offer from F/G in Bay Area, and I consider it a career level-up. My wife doesn’t want to move (for kids’ school and her own career) and encourage me to travel every week, taking Monday morning flight and Friday evening flight. She can support that for 1-2 years. Taking off tax, rent, and air tickets, I am looking at 100k more take-home money (25% increase to home income), more importantly, I will have F/G stamped on my resume. The downside is obvious: leaving home, less time with kids, traveling is not fun. Upside: I’ve spent my entire career at Microsoft and in my mid 30s and don’t see any chance of partner promotion. F/G gives me opportunity to manage a team and work on a product that touches 1 billion users.
Do you live in the Seattle Area (asking because you work at Microsoft)? Why not join G/F there?
No good team matched, much less manager opens. I am thinking coming back in 1-2 years
Travel gets boring really fast. And it affects your personal life and mood. Health/sleep issues from frequent time zone changes, the drudgery of going through airports, sleeping in a bed that's not yours etc. gets really old really quick. Plus you have a family so that is another aspect against traveling like this.
Can you really not work out an offer in the Seattle area?
Your wife sounds like an asshole. Does she earn 300k as well?
The fuck?
Not wanting to move with husband for his dream job because she doesn't feel like it and sending him on a plane commute. I guess she has higher TC.
Have you calculated additional expenses such as food, traveling in Bay Area (car, taxis), additional utilities cost, possible increase in insurance costs if you get another car/change of address, air fare surge during "peak" times. These in total can add up to 1-2k/month easily. And, that's now 12-24% reduction in your total savings.
Can you work out a deal to work in MPK Tu-Th and from the Seattle office M+F?
Guessing offer was for E6. Unless the role is incredibly specialized you should be able to easily find a team in Seattle.
Fuckkkk no, flying is known to the state of California to cause cancer.
Not seeing your kids during the week for a year...sounds abit harsh are you sure that you want to do it? How bad can a position / manager be that you will not prefer it ..?
I don't have an answer for you, but I'm in my early forties and pondering a similar question. I've got a son entering middle school and and we don't want to move him. The question of what would it take to do a LD commuter schedule has come up. For us, we decided that we would only consider it for a significant (probably > $150-200k), and for a high level role, and if we could figure out the communications. Even then, I'm not sure what we'd choose since it think it would be a much harder lifestyle to maintain than it sounds.
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Dude, trust me. Travel for work gets too old too soon. I was on a work related flight back from the east coast with really bad turbulence and I literally felt like this was it. And then I was like, I don't want to go away where my last act was a work trip. Outside of the number all that travel does to your physical and mental health the money you make will be spent away on health related issues later.
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