Women on hooking up

Bloomberg EricReis
Feb 3 51 Comments

An open question to all the ladies in Blind: How do you feel after hooking up with someone randomly? Like meeting a guy on a tinder date and ending with a one night stand. I’ve heard a lot of female friends say they feel somewhat guilty, ashamed, etc the next day after a hookup. Just curious to know what other women think

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  • Intuit destiny
    Female here. No shame at all. There are times I only want to hookup.
    Feb 37
    • PayPal / Eng= O(1)
      If you are on tinder or any other similar app, may I ask what you look for in a guy’s profile?
      Feb 3
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      Probably not 5’6” if that’s why you’re asking
      Feb 3
    • Intuit destiny
      Uhhh if all I want is to hook up, he just needs to be attractive. I'm a girl so I can be picky though
      Feb 3
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      That sounds about right
      Feb 3
    • PayPal / Eng= O(1)
      @destiny, that explains it all lol, @Atinlay, I am actually 6’4 but who’s going to believe that lmao
      Feb 3
    • Bloomberg EricReis
      OP
      @destiny assuming he’s attractive, would you still prefer he play out the usual nice guy texting game, or make his intentions clear from the start?
      Feb 3
    • American Express {...✌️}
      @Bloomberg a true gentleman wouldn't even be asking that noob question
      Feb 3
  • Facebook / EngczqC20
    From a biological prospective, it makes sense that hooking up is less beneficial to the woman then for the man. Biologically men need to spread their seed as much as they can while women naturally ensure they have the required resources (including emotional support) to raise children. Of course this is not binding in the society we live in, as women can provide for themselves. But biological tendencies are hard to overcome.

    Another prospective: (might be somewhat culturally related)
    Notice that for many women, it takes no special merit/effort to hook up (since men will happily comply), hence it’s probably not going to fulfill you long term.
    Contrast it to the man, who does need some kind of merit/effort to do this, and thus can help reinforce his place in society.

    The idea that you empower yourself by doing these things is just a fashion that will pass throughout the years.
    Feb 33
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      What?
      Feb 3
    • Applied Material gjfv
      Man you need to focus harder when you type. You can’t do this people, we have a job already, we don’t need more stuff to figure out on our own.
      Feb 3
    • New / Productjaroole
      Biologically true but culturally less true now with birth control since women can reduce their risk of having babies with bad dudes
      Feb 3
  • eBay buyitmeow
    Our culture says women aren’t supposed to do this so it makes them feel bad I’m told.

    I say do whatever makes you happy (as long as you wear protection).
    Feb 32
    • Microsoft ok47
      What culture?
      Feb 3
    • Apple bqdp
      Our culture encourages women to hook up as a sign that they’re independent and empowered and owning their sexuality. So a lot of them will do it and pretend they’re having a lot of fun, but internally hate it since they can’t attract an actual committed partner.

      Pretty sure feminism was actually cooked up (or at least co-opted) by rich dudes as a way to 1. score more side puss, 2. dilute the workforce and drive wages down.
      Feb 3
  • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
    RIP: Your inbox
    Feb 36
    • Microsoft BarFoo
      Why? “Eric Reis” never said they were female.
      Feb 3
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      Never said they weren’t either
      Feb 3
    • Bloomberg EricReis
      OP
      I’m a dude lol
      Feb 3
    • Microsoft BarFoo
      Of course you are. It was obvious from your question. Atinlay is unable to pick up on cues.
      Feb 3
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      Because you can’t assume
      Feb 3
    • Microsoft BarFoo
      You did assume. Hence your “RIP: Your inbox”
      Feb 3
  • Amazon 🌿..
    My record: slept with 8 different men in a week and ended up having chlamydia in my butt. Though I wouldn't call myself a female
    Feb 31
    • Bloomberg EricReis
      OP
      More power to you my friend
      Feb 3
  • American Express {...✌️}
    no worries no regrets
    Feb 31
    • New / Eng
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      Now take a look, there’s no tears in her eyes...like a bird, you know she will fly
      Feb 3
  • PayPal / Eng= O(1)
    How do you guys manage to get matched on tinder? I gave up a long time ago lol
    Feb 311
    • PayPal / Eng= O(1)
      Should I blame San Jose? lol
      Feb 3
    • McAfee JohnMcPee
      I find Tinder pretty easy when it comes to matches. What I am finding hard are the apps targeted towards LTR like Bumble, OkCupid and CMB.
      Feb 3
    • eBay buyitmeow
      Tinder, bumble and okcupid have all been great for me
      Feb 3
    • eBay buyitmeow
      Be tall, athletic, have hobbies, goals, and know how to hold a convo. Then swipe like crazy and chase them.
      Feb 3
    • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
      What if your hobbies and goals are hooking up?
      Feb 3
    • American Express {...✌️}
      finding the time to meet all your matches is a problem. probably 3 dates a week, unless you wanna drink every day of the week..
      Feb 3
    • eBay buyitmeow
      You don’t have to drink at every date
      Feb 3
    • American Express {...✌️}
      it's a must on first dates
      Feb 3
    • eBay buyitmeow
      Why’s that? Are you shy?
      Feb 3
    • American Express {...✌️}
      not at all lol it's more fun for both sides. nobody wants to waste time on an awkward boring date
      Feb 3
  • Netflix / ProductThats_It
    Depends on the guy. If they turn out to be a tool, then you want to wash that shame off.

    If they are a good guy, then it’s all good. It’s just some fun.
    Feb 30
  • Microsoft ok47
    Feel empowered to conquer the man!
    Feb 30
  • Erickson Living / Other✌️
    I, thank God, stooped dating before Tinder came about but I had my fair share of one night stands. My only guilt was the walk of shame.
    Feb 71
    • Workday DickMunstr
      Hold that head up high. You have every right, girl!
      Feb 7
  • Google truhsx
    I did it a couple times and was so disappointed by the bad sex. It was not satisfying at all, and therefore I felt grossed out by taking such risk for so little gain. Risk for women is serious -- more than just STDs, there's the very real risk of getting beaten, killed, or stalked.
    Feb 111
    • eBay laserpntr
      Maybe you just had a couple lame guys who weren’t very good in bed.

      But if they were good, would you have enjoyed the experience looking back now?
      Feb 11
  • Airbnb xssxssx
    This depends heavily on her culture and upbringing. Lots of women will not ever have a one night stand or even download tinder. Some will have ONS all the time and not care at all.
    Feb 31
    • Intel intel
      Sometimes those from uptight backgrounds go the wildest in college though
      Feb 3
  • New XvPW28
    No shame.
    Feb 150
  • Google IHeartKiz
    We have needs...and we love sex too. Just that it is a lot more risky (slut shaming; physical abuse etc) I have slept with far more partners than I admit to my gfs etc and I work in an industry that expects me to be a geek than the sexual being inside me. Being a girl I have a larger selection pool so I am quite picky usually. Not sure what else you wanna know...AMA
    Feb 120
  • Twitter / Engkindbucket
    Those just mostly turn in to stories 🤷🏻‍♀️
    Feb 30
  • New
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    iIIg50more
    The guilt & shame felt are societies pressures on women to be a certain way. I say do what you want, have fun, be safe.
    Feb 30
  • Workday DickMunstr
    I like it. I like it a lot.
    Feb 50

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