Women should text first is bullshit!

Apple aupx15
May 8 47 Comments

People(usually guys) keep saying it’s 21st century and the women shouldn’t shy away from texting first on dating apps if they like the guy and shouldn’t wait for him to text first. Also read couple of articles where people said men now a days like if a women texts them first. But recently I installed a dating app and it’s such bullshit! From my personal experience so far whenever a woman sends the first text the guy usually takes his sweet time in replying and doesn’t put in that much effort. On the other hand whenever the guy texts me first then he is always trying to talk and come up with new topics to keep the conversation going.
So why are people spreading false information ??

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TOP 47 Comments
  • Amazon ya-yas
    I can't tell if this is supposed to be ironic or funny. If this isn't a joke... You realize that girls taking their sweet time and not putting in much effort is exactly what it's like for guys in the "traditional" system. You're just feeling the burden of having to "come up with new topics to keep the conversation going" yourself. Welcome to the club!
    May 8 2
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      But isn’t that hypocritical? On one side everyone is preaching about changing the traditional ways but when some people take the initiative it just turns out to be disappointing? How is that helping anyone?
      May 8
    • Amazon ya-yas
      IDK. You say "disappointing" as if someone promised you that having the burden of initiating and sustaining conversations with potential romantic partners, the thankless burden typically held by men, would be fun. Who told you that?
      May 8
  • New uedC03
    Well now you have a good a way to spot people who play games.
    May 8 2
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      It would be nice if people can just grew up and stop these stupid games. Like no one got time for this BS
      May 8
    • New uedC03
      As long as you dont play them and dont put up with them youll be fine. People are predictable (good and/or bad) if you're watching for it
      May 8
  • Oracle / Eng iblv
    Men always text if they are interested and find you attractive. They wouldn't wait for woman to initiate talk.

    So if woman msgs most of the times men are not really that interested. That's the truth!

    There are also cases when man initiates conversation and eventually that dies off.
    So welcome to modern dating world.
    May 8 3
    • Facebook pACM57
      This isn’t modern actually. It’s confirming that a woman shouldn’t make the first move. Just wait for the man to make the move, since he will if he’s interested.
      May 8
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      I agree with pACM57 here.
      @iblv you just confirmed that women should just stick to the “traditional” ways!
      May 8
    • Spotify djfjs
      According to okcupid, everyone messages up, so you’re more likely to get someone more attractive if you message first.
      May 9
  • Verizon Media
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    jydwlmore
    OP is misleading, delusional & entitled.

    NOTHING WRONG WITH A WOMAN TEXTING FIRST. Remember when a guy texts first, a woman will take time to reply. Bloody mind games. It's the same feeling both ways and you want the easy way every time.
    May 12 1
    • Intel falalalala
      OP is new to dating. Cut her some slack. Everyone just assumes stereotypes if things don't go as planned first.
      May 12
  • Amazon
    SamuraiBlu

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    SamuraiBlumore
    “then he is always trying to talk and come up with new topics to keep the conversation going”

    Most women...don’t want this. Understandably.
    May 8 5
    • New uedC03
      How do you know what most women want?
      May 8
    • Amazon
      SamuraiBlu

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      A very interesting documentary from a few decades ago starring Mel Gibson was quite informative.
      May 8
    • New uedC03
      Touche
      May 8
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      And you believe that information is still valid?!
      May 8
    • Amazon
      SamuraiBlu

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      Has Mel Gibson ever done anything that, years later, turned out to be problematic?
      May 8
  • Apple rbebcuc
    Whilst this thread is setting off my troll detector, if you genuinely think the right balance in dating is the woman putting in no effort and the man doing all the work to entertain you, then I’m not surprised you are still single.
    May 8 2
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      When did I say that’s the right balance? All I am saying is that despite people saying woman making the first move is a good thing in reality it doesn’t seems to be the case
      May 8
    • Apple rbebcuc
      Go and get what you want. DGAF about what other people say.
      May 8
  • Juniper 404 found
    Anyone can text first..
    May 8 2
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      Yes, they can only the outcome differs
      May 8
    • New worlz
      The most interested person texts first. The least interested person replies without putting too much effort.
      May 9
  • Facebook ImranKhan
    Haha. That's everyday for men. You just proved your own (or your kind's) hypocrisy.
    May 9 0
  • Facebook xoxoqqqqqq
    OP ignore the haters, you’re on point with this
    May 8 3
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      Well I was prepared for some of the hate considering there are more men on blind than women but thanks for the support
      May 8
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Telling the truth is hate now? OP thinks messaging first entitles her to a conversation. It doesn't, every guy on the planet knows this, and now she understands this too
      May 9
    • New / Eng 4everalone
      ^ we all learned this the hard way lol
      May 10
  • Apple Henrie
    What society wants is for more woman to take initiative when they see someone they’re interested in, not wait for said person to make a move. This does not mean the other person is obligated to respond back just because you went out of your comfort zone... we all got standards... many guys get rejected 99 times before meeting someone that likes them back.
    May 8 2
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      Guess I was under the false impression that people only swipe right when they actually want to know the other person if given a chance.
      May 8
    • IBM tvB4gd7
      Men swipe right all day because they’d never get any matches otherwise. It’s not time efficient for us to be picky and look at a profile before getting a match because most of us get very few matches.

      I’d wager that if you used all your swipes to swipe right you’d get dozens of matches
      May 9
  • New VFcO68
    Girls ? You mean women? Why you call women girls?
    May 8 1
    • Apple aupx15
      OP
      Updated the post! I hope you are happy now
      May 8
  • New hqWe60
    op is mad that saying "hey" is not enough
    May 9 0
  • Autodesk DouP01
    No one owes you attention okay, men or women. Just only talk to guys that respond quickly, simple as that.
    May 8 0
  • Facebook pACM57
    Yes 100% relate
    May 8 0
  • Intel falalalala
    It's not about guys or girls. It's about one person being more interested than the other. I noticed that you mentioned you 'recently' installed the dating app. So it's very normal for you to be more interested than the opposite person since it's just the beginning and probably the opposite person has been on this for a while now. When you just start, you usually feel too into it and are super pumped to get to know the opposite person, see compatibility, commit or move on. That's not how things work. I can go on for hours and share more things that I've learnt so far through online dating. But to answer your question, it's just the novelty that's making you put everything aside and prioritize your match. And if your match has been on it for a while, he's seen his share of rejections and has realized that he shouldn't change anything in his life to get to know his match at this point. Don't assume the worst about someone and rather continue getting to know them this way and see how things go eventually.
    May 11 0
  • Snapchat Timstammy
    How can someone have such low levels of self awareness? It's astonishing.
    May 9 0
  • Cisco KdlL31
    If you have to text first he’s not that into you. Common sense.
    May 9 1
    • Oracle / Eng iblv
      I am not so into you, into you...
      May 9
  • Amazon betsman
    They are spreading wrong information to conspire against you. Don't give in. Don't text or date.
    May 10 0
  • Datometry / Eng LangEr
    Maybe he’s just not that into you
    May 9 0
  • Google jdjdjsj
    Yeah stop listening to the sjw bullshit. Just see for yourself. These kind of advices are like "be who you are", "be nice", "what beautiful" is the inside. In reality, men looks at your tits and your ass first and its just that simple.
    May 9 0