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Women, would you date a divorced dad with 3 kids?

Amazon spinnaker
Dec 6

What are some blockers that come to your mind?

L6 SDM $295k TC

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  • Microsoft 4655434b
    3 kids
    Dec 61
    • Capital One / Dataflap
      Or 2.5 at the very least.
      Dec 6
  • Facebook / Eng
    QTWK42

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    QTWK42more
    I think posting total comp in a post about relationships would be more of a blocker than being divorced.
    Dec 62
    • Amazon spinnaker
      OP
      I guess you can't win on blind, not posting your TC gets you trolled posting it also gets called out. I flipped a coin and went with post it 👍
      Dec 6
    • T-Mobile Naively2
      If it's relevant, post it. If not, don't. Who cares what some asshat trolls you with? I report every tc gtfo post as trolling and most get removed fast.
      Dec 6
  • New / EngTTNT
    You’re the father, just leave the kids once you find a hot young date. She’ll give you new ones, probably better ones!
    Dec 60
  • Microsoft Cogito$
    I would want to be very careful about when I was meeting the children so they don’t get the wrong impression early about the state of the relationship - it’s all about managing expectations appropriately until the relationship is confirmed long term. (I don’t have kids myself so I’m just making assumptions based on little data 😁)
    Dec 61
    • Amazon spinnaker
      OP
      Thanks for the thoughtful comment. I agree that intros to the kids too early is not great. Anything else in particular that you would want a guy in this situation to do to make you feel comfortable? Asking for a friend :)
      Dec 6
  • Intel / Other
    ilamo

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    ilamomore
    No blockers if his TC is right! A good TC is the foundation of a successful relationship, because it can unblock pretty much anything.

    If he is loaded he can hire 5 babysitters for the kids while the two of you are away chilling in the Bahamas.

    If the TC is not sexy, RUN!

    Just saying!
    Dec 60
  • GE iUBF15
    Find woman in similar situation. Don’t expect a woman without kids and an ex to change up her entire life for yours.
    Dec 60
  • New OOOOBER
    Would you date a divorced mom with 3 kids?
    Dec 63
    • Microsoft 4655434b
      I see a Brady Bunch reboot coming...
      Dec 6
    • Amazon spinnaker
      OP
      I would. People with kids have to have their shit together and they also know how to prioritize their time. If we each were able to prioritize time with each other despite having kids and faang jobs, than it means there is real potential and that's not likely to wane easily. I hope
      Dec 6
    • Well then you have your answer right there.
      Dec 6
  • Uber uber.
    Your TC as L6 SDM is less than some new grad offers offers at uber
    Dec 63
    • Amazon amazoning
      ok buddy. We believe you that Uber pays more than 300k for new grads 😂
      Dec 6
    • Uber uber.
      If you include the stock yes
      Dec 6
    • Uber Fsa
      That’s not true, Uber doesn’t pay that much to new grads
      Dec 8
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    • New / EngTTNT
      Hahahahaha 💁🏼‍♀️
      Dec 6
    • Amazon spinnaker
      OP
      Lol
      Dec 6
  • KPMG qtAi02
    Stay away
    Dec 61
  • Uber / OpsCrunchy🍯
    There are many divorcees out there. Your personality is what matters. If you meet women just be upfront and tell them you’re a divorcee with 3 kids ages X - X. She’ll either want to continue talking or move on. There’s someone out there for you and your TC doesn’t hurt.
    Dec 60
  • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
    I think it depends on the age of the kids. A single dad with kids all under age 5 would be a very different proposition than one with 3 teenagers.

    What also matters is if the woman in question wants to have biological children or would be satisfied being a step mom in the long term. I know women who are in both camps.

    Finally, I’ll bring up something my dad said to me when I got married. He said that if you have kids with someone they will always be a part of your life, whether married or not, so choose carefully. When applied in this case, you need to consider his relationship with the ex/kids’ mother. If she’d be a source of strife for the two of you, I’d stay away.
    Dec 60
  • Athenahealth tcismylife
    Def not !
    Dec 60
  • Wells Fargo hsLy13
    Leave him to concentrate on his kids. There are bunch of guys who are yet to get married. Hunt them.
    Dec 60
  • Amazon Northman
    I have two kids. Divorced. L7 Sr. SDM. Dating a beautiful, smart woman with two kids who is also divorced. Just don't bother dating women who aren't divorced with kids. They won't get it. I dated a few of em after my divorce. For casual sex - sure. After divorce you don't want to jump too quickly into serious stuff anyway.
    Dec 62
    • Amazon spinnaker
      OP
      Thanks for this perspective. I appreciate it. Do you both get to spend enough time together, each of you having kids and while being an L7 at Amazon 😀
      Dec 6
    • Amazon Northman
      Yeah, I do. I like work and she doesn't work in tech though. I sometimes have to manage her expectations too. Her kids are older (11 and 14) which makes it much easier for us to spend time together.
      Dec 7
  • Microsoft hihighhi
    stupid fucking post. if a woman is not divorced and doesn’t have kids, she’ll see divorced and kids as negatives, all other things equal. blocker is relative to your other traits and no one wants to hear about those here. it is highly unlikely that a divorced woman with three kids will see either trait as a blocker. each of your other traits that you’re not listing will be blockers for some and non-blockers for others. but you knew all that without posting this. you fucked up and got divorced. get over it, man the fuck up, and go spend your time on a dating app instead of blind.
    Dec 62
    • Yahoo Thunder!
      Salty much?
      Dec 7
    • Microsoft hihighhi
      not at all. it’s just a dumb post.
      Dec 7
  • Facebook supichai
    If you don't want to screw your body have a chance at family + career, great option
    Dec 61
    • Intel / Other
      ilamo

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      ilamomore
      In addition, you have the option to request a refund and walk away. Win!
      Dec 6
  • Splunk zSIL05
    You want someone to love you for your TC? Or for you? Laugh out loud
    Dec 90
  • New stuY17
    How old are the kids?
    Dec 70
  • Apple Ymczta
    Too much work for three kids. You won’t get enough attention.
    Dec 60

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