Guys won’t understand it. It’s something I’ll always remember -how much of a dickhead some investors are. The whole investor/female founder sexual harassment phenomenon is real. Most female founders just ignore these guys and pretend it never happened.
Obviously most men aren’t this way. I’ve always felt supported by the men I’ve worked for. For that I consider myself lucky.
Smiley, That situation wasn't some guy at a bar, which would be an expected thing. An investor is a decision maker, and completely inappropriate. The other YC company founders we're being self interested, so they will help him, but the investor crossed a line and didn't take a hint and kept doing it.
I stuck it out. It permanently destroyed my self esteem and I don't think I could ever apply anywhere else; I now genuinely believe that I'm as worthless as that boss said I was. Wish I'd never met him.
Twice have had someone bully/harass me to the point where it was uncomfortable. Both times I was pissed off that my nice work environment was getting shat all over, and I didn’t want them to get away with it. Friends advised me to go to HR, but I felt like they were just repeating corporate policy or virtue signal BS. Did not want to feel like a victim who needs corporate HR to take care of my problems.
In each case it escalated until I was pissed off enough that I ‘confronted’ the woman (bully) / guy (harasser) by simply being brutally honest and not holding back. Woman backed off a bit and working relationship became normal again. Guy was angry and tried to turn things around on me as if he could get me in trouble with HR (I had documented everything though). I was so pissed I didn’t give a shit abt my career/reputation and basically indicated I was crazed and ready to escalate 0 to 100. He backed off. Awkward to see them around the office and I try to avoid it, which kinda sucks, but I know I won and have the upper hand.
In today’s world I know this seems a little crazy, and I am probably a bit crazy to be sure, but everyone I’ve seen go the victim/HR route has ended up way worse and probably vulnerable just like they were before. My burden of more awkward environment is comparatively small, and I never expected life to be fair anyway so whatever. I have TC.
Also should mention I didn’t tell mutual coworkers about either incident or create unnecessary drama/gossip. Did not tell manager either. Do not like attention or the idea of being defined by such BS.
I was in a similar situation before. Demoted in a month, publicly insulted for doing my job, had to hear their racist conversations during team meetings, some people even made up stories about how bad I am at doing my job.
It was painful, but I have been in the industry long enough to know my true worth, and that they are the real dumbasses.
Eventually, I became a key engineer in the team. Everyone was dependent on me, even though some of them still disliked me. I LCed 4 months, left the company along with everyone else on the team. The whole product team was in chaos.
Now I am at Google, and it is most amusing and soothing to see my previous company in such pathetic state from here.
You should do the same. Besides sex, nothing feels better than watching your enemy burn.
This is what I’m struggling with, I’ve been with the company a short time so it looks bad to leave this soon but to deal with it day by day is mentally draining and it’s affecting my life outside of work.