I connected with a nice girl on a dating app. She has a 2yr old daughter. I feel a bit odd as she is 6yrs younger and has a kid. She is 29 working in tech and soft spoken.
Why does it matter if we would? If you like her and you’re cool with her kid (and associated responsibilities in the future) go for it.
Kid is not an issue at all
It’s not the kid to worry about. It’s the ex and all the potential baggage and drama associated with the ex. Just like she will always have a kid, that kid will always have a father that is not you. That can work out well or it can be total Maury Povich stupid shit.
If you want a family, go for it! She's done the hard work of getting the kid to the toddler stage so you can have an instant family with less stress. Downside is that you have less of an opportunity to have a real courtship since she has child obligations.
This is a stunningly stupid response from someone who knows jack shit about being a father or husband. The kid is not a housebroken Chihuahua. You don’t get to slide in and call yourself a father. And you must be non American if you use words like “courtship”. Please do not reproduce.
It's not your kid. They dont have your genes. It's not your family. You are raising someone elses sperm
At your age and up it would be increasingly difficult to find someone without kids.
I mean it’s “increasingly difficult” but still not difficult at all. Once you get up to 45-50 then it might be challenging, but even at that age just need to stay in the right geographies and it’s not a problem.
Nah, kid is baggage.
I have, and it was great for me at the time. Every person has some amount and some sort of baggage from kids to parents to animals. If you like spending time with her, tell her and keep doing it. If you don't, then stop.
Read somewhere, a single mom does not date, she is always looking for the baby daddy.
No. Why would u want to take care of kids that arent urs?
Go for it. Kids are fun, and you could instantly make a difference in the kid’s life, just being around.
Having kids myself, it'd be hypocritical to refuse someone else because they have kids. Besides, other single parents understand the scheduling problems of having kids full time.
Agree