Would you date someone with kids?

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Jul 7 51 Comments

I connected with a nice girl on a dating app. She has a 2yr old daughter. I feel a bit odd as she is 6yrs younger and has a kid.

She is 29 working in tech and soft spoken.

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  • Facebook Yoop
    If you want a family, go for it! She's done the hard work of getting the kid to the toddler stage so you can have an instant family with less stress.

    Downside is that you have less of an opportunity to have a real courtship since she has child obligations.
    Jul 7 10
    • Facebook Yoop
      Jimster, a 30 year marriage is pretty fucking successful, no matter how it ends. Let's see how long yours lasts. Guessing it will be the under 10 year average since you sound like a dolt.

      Correction.... Avg in the US is 8.2 years. Good luck with that jimster. Report back if you break the average.
      Jul 7
    • Microsoft Jimster
      Quantity by itself does not imply quality. Could be 5 years of good marriage followed by 25 years waiting for the kids to grow up and bye bye. Very common.
      Jul 7
    • Facebook Yoop
      Just get to 10, jimster... As they say, "quantity is a quality all of its own."

      I have to go walk my Chihuahuas of which I have three (really! And I got them as rescues at various ages and can still be a good "doggy parent" for them.)

      You kids behave... I have to go be a real adult today while you kids can argue. Cheers.
      .
      Jul 7
    • Facebook chunkya
      Yoop. I will fuck your wife and you can raise my sperm. Looks like I hit a nerve...lol.
      You raised 3 kids, none of them yours..LOL. we need more yoops so I can get my genes raised by the yoopies of the world. Woot woot yoop yoop
      Jul 7
    • Microsoft Jimster
      “Quantity is a quality all of its own” doesn’t apply to marriages or prison sentences.
      Jul 7
  • Microsoft Jimster
    It’s not the kid to worry about. It’s the ex and all the potential baggage and drama associated with the ex. Just like she will always have a kid, that kid will always have a father that is not you. That can work out well or it can be total Maury Povich stupid shit.
    Jul 7 2
    • Microsoft / Eng bebK16
      Everybody has exes, though
      Jul 7
    • Microsoft Jimster
      Not the same. You don’t see that college boyfriend every other weekend, you don’t have to deal with fallout from their arguments rehashing whatever broke them up in the first place. Etc.
      Jul 7
  • Read somewhere, a single mom does not date, she is always looking for the baby daddy.
    Jul 7 4
    • Microsoft / Eng bebK16
      That's bullshit.
      Jul 7
    • Read somewhere huh
      Jul 7
    • PayPal isPa
      It’s not bullshit, her kids will always be her number 1 priority, which extends to wanting a good role model for them, which extends to wanting a daddy for them
      2d
    • Microsoft / Eng bebK16
      Why would you assume the kids have no dad?
      4h
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    Why does it matter if we would? If you like her and you’re cool with her kid (and associated responsibilities in the future) go for it.
    Jul 7 1
    • Symantec
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      Kid is not an issue at all
      Jul 7
  • IBM xlajduf
    No. Why would u want to take care of kids that arent urs?
    Jul 7 5
    • Amazon / Eng andzon
      Umm... I think you can date someone without taking care of their kids.
      Jul 7
    • IBM xlajduf
      Without the intention of marrying them? I like the way u think
      Jul 7
    • Google singl4ever
      Amazon is definitely thinking out of the box lol
      Jul 7
    • Microsoft / Eng bebK16
      Not every relationship has to end in marriage.
      Jul 7
    • Intel Spikiera
      I guess because you love the girl enough to do so? Who knows, you might fall in love with the kids too.
      Jul 7
  • Amazon / Eng 1099-B
    At your age and up it would be increasingly difficult to find someone without kids.
    Jul 7 1
    • Credit Karma ckftw
      I mean it’s “increasingly difficult” but still not difficult at all.

      Once you get up to 45-50 then it might be challenging, but even at that age just need to stay in the right geographies and it’s not a problem.
      Jul 7
  • Microsoft / Eng bebK16
    Having kids myself, it'd be hypocritical to refuse someone else because they have kids. Besides, other single parents understand the scheduling problems of having kids full time.
    Jul 7 1
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      Agree
      Jul 7
  • New / Eng MwSA45
    Go for it. Kids are fun, and you could instantly make a difference in the kid’s life, just being around.
    Jul 7 0
  • Search up "why to never date single mothers" and along those lines and see if you can stomach all the arguments first. Generally it's considered a huge no-no.
    Jul 7 2
    • Apple tim_c00k
      Listen to this
      Jul 7
    • Amazon / Eng andzon
      Then search "why to date single mothers" and do your own analysis.
      Jul 7
  • IBM xlajduf
    OP. Hire urself a nice escort before making any life changing decision.
    Jul 7 1
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      You are a nut and disgrace
      Jul 7
  • Look, take things on a case-by-case basis. There’s no rule that applies to “all” single mothers.

    If you like the girl and her kid, and think you can be a good support system for them, then why not?

    However, don’t act like you’re doing them a huge favor or anything — have a good attitude and accept the responsibility of helping to raise a human being. It’s immensely rewarding.
    Jul 7 0
  • Aurora dEQR73
    There's a difference between being a person's "father" and being their father. Real fatherhood is taking the time to love, nurture and raise a child. If you want to be a father then you could be that for this child if it works out. Obviously you're not at that level yet, but if you did get to that level it could be an extremely meaningful experience to be that for that child. Best of luck going forward.
    Jul 7 0
  • Amazon / Eng andzon
    I have, and it was great for me at the time. Every person has some amount and some sort of baggage from kids to parents to animals. If you like spending time with her, tell her and keep doing it. If you don't, then stop.
    Jul 7 0
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Nah, kid is baggage.
    Jul 7 0
  • Microsoft kebabs
    Why do you feel “odd”?
    Jul 7 1
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      I don't. I am just trying know everyone's thoughts.
      Jul 7
  • Amazon echo $?
    Yes. I date my wife, and we have kids. :)
    It’s very important to keep dating your spouse after you have kids.
    Jul 8 0
  • Intel Spikiera
    Blind is probably the worst platform to be asking a question like this. Be ready for a ton of non-constructive insults
    Jul 7 1
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      This is a good place to ask without being shamed or worried what the friends and relatives will have a bias. This is pretty much like a wider society where not everyone knows each other but have an opinion.
      Jul 7
  • Apple tim_c00k
    Nah too much trouble with baby daddy like others have said, don't sign yourself up for that bullshit, you're only about 35 and can totally still date twenty somethings without kids. Also her kid is always going to come first instead of you and while you will end up paying for her kid, that kid will know you are not her father.
    Jul 7 1
    • Amazon / Eng andzon
      I was just at a wedding of a friend where she was given away by her step-dad. She was pretty certain that the man walking her down the aisle was her father.
      Jul 7
  • Microsoft leetworld
    Run
    Jul 7 0