Would you go to the party?

Jan 20, 2018 32 Comments

I have a friend... let’s call him opportunistic... when he needs help he is all over and begging but when he is all set and in good spot he wouldn’t take a second to show off that he is in better spot and won’t even acknowledge that he ever took help..

Long story - this guy was a great friend and coworker and I did a lot for him during my good days and I never really asked for anything... I referred him to all
Positions at apple whenever he asked even though he barely qualified..I invited him for lunches at apple...

Tables turned and he got a job at google and I had personal situation which made me quit my job at apple and when I asked him to refer me at google he literally shut me off by saying I won’t qualify... even though I was clearly qualified... at times won’t answer my text or phone since I wasnt of much help..

Seems he has been put on pip and I heard from him after a while and he was trying to indirectly wanting me to refer him at uber.. I did not entertain anything as I recalled how he treated me during my rough phase..

Last week he invited me to a family party which is a big surprise for me as he would normally invite others over me..

Debating should I go?


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TOP 32 Comments
  • Google / Eng asshole
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Apple lulbk
    Paaji ... don't go .. he is selfish and only inviting you because he needs a favor . He does not really care about you .
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Glint OGYp15
    I would go to the party and then when he asks for a favor tell him he is not qualified.
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Expedia Maddy1
    If you believe in karma then do good to others no matter what...But don’t go to party.
    Jan 20, 2018 2
    • Qualcomm / Eng Sanku
      Doing good to bad people is considered bad karma :)
      Jan 21, 2018
    • Expedia Maddy1
      Not returning favor is selfish. What is the definition of bad ? Harming others for no reason I guess? This so called friend is just selfish not a terrorist. Helping others is about make yourself feel good and peaceful too.
      Jan 21, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng QTkL38
    Paaji you are not alone. In desi circle, such friends are common :-) Just ignore him
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Microsoft Brain
    Don't go ...he is a big sucker !! Cut him loose
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Google Grub2
    Fuddu bande di party ch ni jana beere
    Jan 21, 2018 0
  • OP
    Thank you everyone for our feedback... I don’t want t to call him names ..

    I only know that everyone is your friend when you are successful and I learnt when I failed few years ago..

    That experience made me more humble and kind and Always think practically and never go above and beyond for anyone..
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng

    Amazon Eng

    Engineer at AWS
    Dude sounds like a cunt, don’t go.
    Jan 20, 2018 1
  • Yahoo K0SV3N@R7
    Don’t go. He owed you help when you were in trouble. Now you don’t owe him anything. Cut him lose. Have some self-respect. (Mard ban yaar, usne teri khudari ko lalkara hai) 😊
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Apple / Eng hans32
    If you don't respect yourself, why should he (or anyone else)? If you do respect yourself, you don't need me to tell you what you should be doing.

    Always forgive (don't remain angry at a person for wrongs, you are poisoning your own mind), NEVER forget.
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Syapse / Eng MfNC31
    If you feel really petty, you should go to the family party, enjoy the food and give him the same canned response he gave you when he asks for that referral
    Jan 21, 2018 0
  • Microsoft M$FT100
    Yes, go enjoy free food but don’t do him any favor.
    Jan 21, 2018 0
  • New / Eng

    New Eng

    Don’t go, he need help now and thats why he called you as simple as that.
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Microsoft richardhea
    Unless you want to get off with him - no, there is no reason to go to that party.
    Jan 20, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng 🏗SEA🚧
    Talk to him face to face (phone at worst) and tell him why you’re not going.
    Jan 21, 2018 2
    • Amazon LaserCatEi
      No he doesn't need to explain anything.
      Jan 21, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng 🏗SEA🚧
      Confronting may be more healthy than saying nothing.
      Jan 22, 2018
  • LinkedIn Uytpab
    Don’t go to the party, waste of time. But, as Expedia pointed out, you could still consider helping him if you are comfortable with it.
    Jan 20, 2018 1
    • Amazon LaserCatEi
      In general you should help people. But don't help people like this.
      Jan 21, 2018
  • Pinterest


    Google, Facebook
    Tech industry is a small place and fortunes can change overnight.
    Never diss your friends and coworkers
    Jan 20, 2018 1
    • Fitbit mahalo2
      At the same, have some self respect. Fortunes are not what define you at the end of the day.
      Jan 21, 2018
  • LinkedIn / Other

    LinkedIn Other

    From the Upside Down
    No. Don’t go. Lose ‘friends’ like these.
    Jan 21, 2018 0
  • Facebook public
    A family party? Lol no regardless.
    Jan 21, 2018 0