Would you marry a woman 6 years older than you?

Hotwire zyxwcba
May 8 111 Comments

Would you a marry a woman 6 years older than you, if you like them? Does it work out well in the future?

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  • Oracle / Data bendy
    I take it that you are a dude. For her she needs to lock it down because her window is closing.

    Things for you to look at is you are going to be prepared to have children in the next couple of years.

    But if this person makes you happy, and you can see yourself spending the rest of life with her why not
    May 8 16
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      When emotions are involved, it's a big thing. I guess you are not married and have never been in and out of a relationship?
      May 8
    • Facebook / Eng 435
      I’m married and have two kids, very happy. But I would be equaly happy if I wasn’t married and with the same person. Getting married didn’t change anything about our desire and commitment to be with each other. It’s in you, if you need a contract to force you to commit to someone then there’s a problem.
      May 8
    • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
      Agree with FB. Marriage is not a big deal. Its reversible.

      Kids are the big thing here. Not reversible.

      And make no mistake, if she's 32 and hasn't said otherwise, she is going to want kids pretty soon. That's a window most women pay very close attention to
      May 8
    • Intel Riso4ever
      I’ll take the extra $10k/year in tax savings by being married.
      May 8
    • Intel apsodj
      Get her to freeze her eggs to take the pressure off. You will both make more rational decisions.
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      I think she does want kids pretty soon too. Now, I wonder if it's me or the kids that she's interested in. Shit!!!
      May 8
    • Intel apsodj
      Kids. Way stronger biological desire for that than finding someone to cohabitate with for 60 years.
      May 8
    • Cisco meowwww
      “Get her to freeze her eggs”- so sick of men trying to control women’s bodies.
      May 9
    • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
      Meowww, yes its phrased poorly, but I dont think there is anything wrong with the suggestion itself
      May 10
    • Intel apsodj
      Meowwww- you are prob right, he should just dump the old bag.
      May 10
  • Microsoft ToTTi
    Why not ?
    May 8 5
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Because relationships can be complicated, especially as everything changes with time. You know, younger people may have different expectations and older ones, a bit different. So, does it work out well in the long term?
      May 8
    • Oracle pzd
      6 years is not that much. I'd say two people 6 years apart are still from the same generation.
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Hm...
      May 8
    • Amazon / Eng KHCr70
      6 years is not that much. Consider that women marrying 10+ years up is pretty 'normal'

      Also pretty dependant on your ages. 40-46 is much less difference than 20-26
      May 8
    • Amazon qwertyup
      ^ exactly
      May 8
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Intel babubhatt
      Wow.
      May 8
    • Veritas asdf12345
      Ouch. Good to know Uber is addressing its sexist corporate culture /s
      May 8
    • Qualcomm dynasty001
      Da fck ?
      May 8
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Such a dick of you to say that
      May 8
  • Booking.com XqBM21
    i think it’s question of whether you’re ready to get married not the age of your partner...
    May 8 13
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      don’t women on average live longer than men? so... your point? also 6 years... you’re indian right?
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Yeah, but what does it have to do with being an Indian? Economics? I mean economics of freedom, not financial.
      May 8
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      the way you think, i noticed such type of thinking from indians. You see marriage as economics not as lifelong partnership with someone who makes you happy. Economics are important but counting 6 potential years of you supporting your loved one is just very sad imho...
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Partnership to do what? Earn livelihood? Have fun? Raise kids? All such humanly activities are hinged on money so that's definitely a factor. There are so many pretty and poor girls, but they are so poor that I can't do much for them, even if I like them very much. You know, economics isn't just about luxuries but also about necessities. You don't know how many relationships break down due to economics. And not just marital ones but all kinds. Even friendships.
      May 8
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      oh well, i earn well enough and can support my partner, no biggie here. it’s difference in values, we think differently.
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      We refers to whom? Brides are sold in Eastern Europe. One of my American friends chose to pay for a Cambodian virgin bride than marry an American, not that he married her because of money but because he didn't like the values of American women. Not sure which values you are referring to.
      May 8
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      you and I, you and a lot of europeans. People who for whom material things are no longer the top priority. you can buy whomever you want, but that’s a failure as a man...
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Would you marry a partner who is rich enough to get you rid of the Perl scripts or a partner who would chug along?
      May 8
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      you are still not getting the point... it’s ok.. i wish you all the best. maybe even one day you’ll meet someone that will clear all those doubts
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Tell me you are not using Perl.
      May 8
  • Intel apsodj
    NFW. Women’s attractiveness declines significantly at 35 while mean don’t hit their peak until mid-40s
    May 8 4
  • Microsoft ok2Bwhite
    No, they ganna hit the wall
    May 8 6
    • Cisco meowwww
      Men hit that too. Usually worse
      May 8
    • Amazon yuri
      And for the most part, they don’t use sunscreen, don’t do cosmetic treatments, and no makeup to cover it up. Just wham and you’ve got that sad, hollow, sagging man face. At least the ladies are more likely to take some degree of preventive measures. Age is a b*tch. Everyone wear sunscreen.
      May 8
    • Google notachad
      Makeup ages the face.
      May 8
    • Amazon yuri
      Not lipstick. I wanna see you put some lipstick on, Chad. Mmm.. put it on bright and thick baby... 💋
      May 8
    • Google notachad
      I am not a Chad :( sorry
      May 8
    • Amazon yuri
      Are you saying you’re... NOT a Chad? I don’t even know who you are anymore. This is too much. Just put the lipstick on and pretend to be him. Just for tonight.
      May 9
  • Akamai Technologies VmQQ44
    Gotta love a cougar!
    May 8 2
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Pathetic
      May 8
    • Akamai Technologies VmQQ44
      You got something against cougars?
      May 8
  • New / Consultant time_pass
    No. This is how it will go. Baby soon after marriage. She will go part time or quit. You will be single income and fully domesticated. You will be going to lots of baby parties where the other moms will be much hotter than your wife. Your lust levels will differ significantly. Some women do not age well, especially if they spend too much time in the sun.
    There is a reason most wives are younger than their husband. Tread carefully.
    May 8 2
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      I don't wanna cheat after marriage and satisfy all the list, before. Would you just move away from a woman you like just because of her age?
      May 8
    • New / Consultant time_pass
      I would not. But if she is the one for you, and you know it, then go for it. If you are just going along because she wants to get married and you are ambivalent, then think it through.
      May 8
  • Microsoft ToTTi
    Less than 10 years is not that big of a difference imo
    May 8 1
  • Microsoft / R&D pr~
    Reading your answers, I would say No. And if your partner is also reading, would recommend her a Big NO.
    May 8 5
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Are you a guy?
      May 8
    • Microsoft / R&D pr~
      Another gender discriminating indian brat ! How does it matter?
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      You sound like a rejected girl. Just confirming.
      May 8
    • Microsoft / R&D pr~
      Ok. I should have been more polite. If you are confused, in dilemma, I would recommend move on. Settling down is more of a emotional dicision and most comes by heart. You know your answer yourself and I feel that are you trying to find reasons to justify it.
      My recommendation is go by your heart, that will be the best for both of you.

      My reaction was more based on your thought process in replies.
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Are you a guy?
      May 8
  • Qualcomm dynasty001
    Woukd you marry a woman 6 years younger to you?
    May 8 4
  • Microsoft megamanX
    No
    May 8 3
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Why not?
      May 8
    • Microsoft megamanX
      Why buy a raisin when there’s fresh grapes available
      May 8
    • Amazon yuri
      Because raisins are delicious. I heard it on the GRAPE-VINE.
      May 8
  • Nutanix bdienfiwow
    I know quite a few people who have had really long successful marriages with the women being 6-10 years older. Go for it. Dont think about the age.
    May 9 0
  • Expedia ¥₩$
    Age shouldn't be matter for a relationship
    May 8 0
  • Facebook / Eng e999
    Why did you tag FB, Google and... Expedia on this post?
    May 8 5
    • Qualcomm dynasty001
      He thinks FB, Google folks deal with this stuff regularly
      May 8
    • Facebook / Eng e999
      Uhh ok. But then why Expedia?
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      For no reason in particular. Random. Was thinking of whether to tag or not but did anyway. I guess, maybe because I think Googlers are intelligent and Fb folks are social. I work for Expedia so gives much variety of opinion.
      May 8
    • Facebook / Eng e999
      Did you just call us non-intelligent? :/
      May 8
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      You guys are perhaps best at networking. Engineering - I'll give to Google.
      May 8
  • Lyft McGee
    Depends on how old you are. I feel like the older you get the less it matters
    May 8 4
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      I'm 26.
      May 8
    • Activision Blizzard / Eng bugehalls
      26 and 32 isn’t that bad, honestly

      but if she plans to have children she will probably rather go sooner than later, so i guess that would be on you
      May 8
    • Lyft McGee
      Yeah that gap isn’t really a huge deal. Wife is 5 years younger than me.
      May 9
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Hm.. I think having a younger wife is the norm.
      May 9
  • LinkedIn EnginHere
    Macron (French pm) is 42 and his wife is 66. It works
    May 8 2
    • Intel apsodj
      She’s rich af tho
      May 8
    • Oracle Dplaner
      Macron is french. Enough said.
      May 8
  • Cadence Fhvz
    Why not? It’s been done before. It’s up to you.
    May 9 0
  • Microsoft klao
    In the long term, 6 years has no difference at all
    May 8 0
  • Amazon uKnowNthin
    If she is 6 yr older, i would expect a shit load of experience in the of maturity level, a complementing nature to mine, and good financial standing.
    May 8 0
  • Accenture / Eng __lkjhg
    +1 on this, i'd definitely find out how her mother looks. that's your wife 20years from now plus/minus how she maintains herself
    May 8 0
  • Intel aryaa
    If I were under 30, then yes. Maybe not when I am over 35. I wanted children, and the body clock is real
    May 8 0
  • New hqWe60
    too old
    May 9 0
  • Google coolguy00
    if she's rich, sure.
    May 8 0
  • Facebook YOdV52
    Maybe
    May 8 1
    • Hotwire zyxwcba
      OP
      Depends on what?
      May 8
  • Google / Eng hank_moody
    Just do not. It is not about age. Why not just keep banging chicks to give you an alternative. Why would limit your selection and make your source of intimacy exclusive?
    5d 0
  • Expedia / Eng ymCz35
    Depends on your age.
    May 16 0
  • Microsoft Alias267
    1. As other commenters said, double-check you have same expectations about when to have kids. 2. To ensure that she will be attractive to you later, looks at her mother. Is she hot? If yes - will be attractive too.
    May 8 0
  • Facebook / Eng 435
    Only sticking point is if she wants to have children and when imo. You’re 26, she’s 32, if she wants children, expect a lot of pressure by 35 at the latest (if not immediatelly).
    May 8 0
  • EA / Eng
    YJMJ04

    EA Eng

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    YJMJ04more
    Not interested in women but I would marry a guy whose 6 years older than me
    4d 0
  • If you must then sure why not. But it is likely she might precieve you as less mature than her from time to time. Stick with someone your age or younger if you can.
    May 8 0
  • Ascension Health / Eng
    10xUrTC

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    Can she get pregnant?
    May 8 0
  • F5 Networks buzz-word
    If she is Sugar Mommy
    May 8 0
  • Microsoft / Product Festy
    Yes
    May 8 0

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