broke up with girlfriend

VMware dude109
Jan 4 57 Comments

i broke up with my girlfriend 3 months back because my south indian parents are orthodox and were not approving. we are different castes. we were in love and happy together. she has probably moved on but i feel miserable now and regret i let her go. i try to meet other girls, go on dates but nothing like her.

should i try to contact her again? she is out of contact from then

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  • Amazon lolwhat
    Dafuq is that reason? What century is this?
    Jan 4 3
    • PayPal Sey
      Sadly it’s still rampant in India.
      Jan 4
    • Microsoft lHcN54
      Very sadly...
      Jan 4
    • Google jersey456
      OP, I’ve always been curious, what happens if you just marry her anyways ? Would your parents stop talking to you ? Is it like when Mormons leave their religion and get shunned out ?
      Jan 6
  • Microsoft UMbR31
    "Parents not approving" is the Indian girl's way to politely decline marriage.

    Hard to digest, but true. Move on.
    Jan 4 3
    • Amazon lolwhat
      Politely and cowardly. Yes. Very true.
      Jan 4
    • VMware dude109
      OP
      my parents did not allow, so i broke up
      Jan 4
    • SAP pmpdgm
      UMbR31, and all those who liked his comment: at least take the trouble of READING the original post.
      Jan 4
  • SAP Cabron
    Did u fuck her at least?
    Jan 4 5
    • Amazon lolwhat
      Funny how that's ok to do despite disapproval from orthodox parents
      Jan 4
    • SAP Cabron
      It is OP's life, not his parents life. He can do whatever he wants.
      Jan 4
    • A10 Networks / R&D
      fropser

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      Needly doing the kindful by living life today morning for the same with no revert backs.
      fropsermore
      But was the unrevertable needful done?? 🍒🍾
      Jan 4
    • SAP Cabron
      Looks like no
      Jan 4
    • Facebook ftdrhe
      Damn that’s sad.
      Jan 4
  • Google ovBk62
    Block her on all apps. If you know that there's a way for her to message you, you might keep checking your phone anxiously waiting for her message.

    Focus on work, get that next promo. Maybe switch for more comp. Start hitting the gym. Make yourself more desirable. You have more time now, go reconnect with old friends.

    You're missing her only because her departure has left a void in your life. You still look at her with Rosy glasses.

    You'll get over her in time, don't worry. Don't go back. You broke up for a reason. Don't forget that.
    Jan 4 2
    • Amazon gemalto
      Best advice in the thread.
      Jan 4
    • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
      Wow. Xie xie
      Jan 4
  • Google / Eng Denice
    TC or GTFO
    Jan 4 3
    • Uber bikes
      Moron spotted again
      Jan 4
    • Google / Eng Denice
      You've made no empathetic contribution to this whole thread. GOMD betch
      Jan 4
    • Oath / Mgmt Atinlay
      Empathy for what?
      Jan 4
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  • New vpkf84
    You Indian guys really need to man up. Heard too many stories like this from Indian friends. It’s your f-in life!
    Jan 4 0
  • Flagged by the community.

  • Autodesk dunkinDs
    Rich-poor, religion-caste, man-woman-straight-lgbtq-Pokémon, What’s up with this bich as$ attitude of Indians in general? Get a life of your own or accept your fate, in either case just move on and stop biching about it on blind. You want sympathy/approval go seek it from your family/friends/significant other or someone real outside blind, just stop biching about it
    Jan 4 0
  • Amazon Am A Bot
    OP, unless you’re really willing to go against the strong advice and wishes of your parents, leave her be. If you’re going to stand by her no matter what, including your parents, then fine, contact her. If you’re doing this so she can be a security blanket for you, move on.
    Jan 4 0
  • Drive.ai rsrs
    Dude that's dumb AF. Get her back if you can.
    Jan 4 0
  • Cavium vitaminQ
    Girls aren’t that dumb to just blindly go with their parents say, my guess she kept you as a back up until her parents found a better one. Move on if she hasn’t contacted you since 3 months. Also you are no less , you are regretting only because you did not find anyone like her in these 3 months which means you moved on too 😏
    Jan 4 3
    • SAP Cabron
      This one was not girl anymore, she was official size playground
      Jan 4
    • VMware dude109
      OP
      my parents disapproved and so I broke up
      Jan 4
    • SAP Cabron
      Your parents have lived their life already. Why don't they let you live yours and let you have your own choices? How can they dare to decide what is best for you? Last time I check we were in century 21
      Jan 4
  • Microsoft / Mgmt livelove
    If you really love her and want her in your life then go talk to her. No turning back after that. If you are not ready for that , then just suffer through your feelings for the phase, it will wither with time and probably good for both of you.
    Jan 5 1
    • Salesforce
      lozere

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      lozeremore
      Agree. If you go to her now, you need to ask forgiveness and propose. If you aren't ready for that, let it go.
      Jan 10
  • BlackRock Ikqf10
    You are a dumb asshole. If you’d believe in caste and all that stuff why did you even love her in the first place. If you really loved you would convince your parents or at least do your way till they understand your feelings for her. Find a shithole and burry yourself there
    Jan 4 1
    • Wipro
      JohnnyCa$h

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      JohnnyCa$hmore
      Right, no right to love and make others life miserable with your cast obsession
      Jan 4
  • Microsoft lalalond
    Women move on better than men. Once broken up, she has most likely made up her mind. You need to move on.
    Jan 4 4
    • SAP pmpdgm
      ..and your assertion (first sentence) is based on anecdotal or statistical evidence?
      Jan 4
    • Microsoft lalalond
      Statistical evidence provided from research at Harvard medical school and Oxford psychology department - no, just joking. Anecdotal and common sense which many of my friends share. I am surprised someone questions this. Are you from a country where dating culture is not prevalent?
      Jan 4
    • SAP pmpdgm
      Interesting, will check it out. 'Anecdotal' was not contentious, statistical, not so sure, hence the inquiry.
      Jan 4
    • SAP pmpdgm
      Also, lalaland, another one for you. Just to say that statistical evidence does not always bear out at the personal level:

      https://us.teamblind.com/s/0pQ2Mwsa
      Jan 5
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    • Fitbit / Data
      Makemeceo

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      HotelTonight
      Makemeceomore
      He said his parents disapprove not hers
      Jan 4
  • AMD
    I/O

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    I/Omore
    If you contact her, be ready to propose
    Jan 4 0
  • Microsoft / Admin ULrV32
    I'm really really sorry this is your reality - life is too short.. I say take action and grab life by the horns and take control of what you CAN DO.. as opposed to living up to the expectations of others (even if closest ones to you).
    Regret and the guilt that comes with it over time will eat at you. I know from experience. Start living and designing a life that YOU WANT and the rest will play out.

    Hang in there. You got this!
    Jan 4 0
  • Oath / Mgmt Atinlay
    This is pathetic in many ways
    Jan 4 0
  • Pandora Pfaa13
    Don't you have a mind of your own? Why would you breakup with her just because they won't approve? You have 1 life, can't just be a slave of your parents.
    Jan 4 0