constantly under pressure and have anxiety issues

eBay bskbsg
Sep 5 25 Comments

i am tired of giving interviews studying need a break. but i need to find a new job with a couple months due to some personal reason.
i cry when i am alone. i don't want this to take a toll on my health . what can i do keep myself healthy under thia circumstances .

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  • Lockheed Martin / R&D Schz3
    1) notice breathing.. anxiety begets shallow breathing and in turn tends to make us more anxious. Check yourself when you are feeling tense and take some slow deep breaths.
    2) meditation. Start GLNG to a zendo. 40 minutes of wallfacing is really hard at first, but keep showing up and you will get there. This investment will take a week or three to start to pay off. Consistency is essential. Try guided meditation app like Calm if you have never meditated maybe.

    3) Make sure you set a regular sleep schedule and practice good sleep hygiene (**no** screens or eating an hour or two before bed)

    4) regular eating. Don’t get hungry , increases anxiety. Have decent meals and don’t skip. Try to avoid comfort eating. Just don’t eat if you do not actually feel hungry.

    5) regular exercise. If you do not belong to a gym and can’t afford the Y, then just take a half hour brisk walk or jog if you are in better shape daily. A 15 minute walk is also a good stress reliever (and a workout even better) . If you do have gym access, go every day, even if just for s while
    Sep 5 5
    • eBay bskbsg
      OP
      Thanks a lot. I am going to follow this.
      Thank you
      Sep 5
    • New DkbP71
      Another minor thing I would add is take Magnesium Glycinate off Amazon - relaxes your muscles, doesn't make you tired, non laxative (unlike Magnesium Citrate) and good absorption (unlike magnesium oxidate). It actually works for me with compulsive fidgeting that often accompanies anxiety.
      Sep 5
    • New DkbP71
      And yeah the breathing thing is so true. Breath with your belly instead of your chest and neck muscles.
      Sep 5
    • Lockheed Martin / R&D Schz3
      I am glad that landed .

      I have struggled with depression much of my life, and while those things alone do not cure it, they do make it come less, and when it comes it is less deep. Depression and anxiety often come together. Maybe different symptoms of the same underlying thing.
      Sep 5
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  • Symantec oocla
    Rub one out a few times a day. Worked for DiCaprio.
    Sep 5 2
    • Redfin / Eng Treert
      Once a day? You've gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers.
      Sep 5
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  • New FlXq26
    Stress isn't as a result of your circumstances it's as a result of how your mind reacts to it. Just take it easy and enjoy the little things in life then you'll have lots of mini breaks throuhout the day.
    Sep 5 0
  • New Ben6
    I hear you. Same position 😪
    Sep 5 0
  • New 2004dis
    Most important is knowing that change is the only constant and the fact that everything is constantly changing - the situations you have today, your problems, struggles and pains will all pass. Some will pass faster than others. Tell yourself every morning "these are my struggles, and I am going through this because success eventually awaits me" and use that to fuel your motivation to keep giving your 100% towards change. When you meditate for 15 minutes each morning, circulate these thoughts in your mind. You will notice that it is an incredible tool.

    I am happy to listen if you want to chat sometime :-)
    Sep 5 2
    • eBay bskbsg
      OP
      Thanks for your kind words. I will look towards the positives as you mentioned
      Sep 5
    • New 2004dis
      You are welcome stranger 🙂
      Sep 5
  • Amazon wEju6g
    I tried to interview recently handling the stress at work too and it took a toll on my health. See if any of your friends' teams at other companies are hiring. I've seen connections help a lot to get hired at Oracle or Microsoft (easier interviews).

    If changing teams within eBay or PayPal an option? Is location change internally an option?

    The following suggestion is only if you are sure you want to leave. Take a month off just for preparing and interviewing. Give reasons at work like you're going on a vacation or some health issue. You can even be honest if you have good relations with your manager and if he understands your situation.

    The things I suggested are mainly for a situation where you are stressed because you are not able to balance work, interviews and their prep together.
    Sep 5 1
    • eBay bskbsg
      OP
      Thanks for your advice. I am trying what I can like changing teams but unfortunately there is some kind of freeze in the orgs i can move. Sometime i feel such things will happen only when one needs it.
      Sep 5
  • Uber domin8
    1. Stop interviewing and start leetcoding. Don't get up until you did 300-500 letcode. Prepare for design interviews. You need to know what the interviewer want to hear.
    2. You should not have too many interviews. 3-5 tops, but at the best companies, which want you.
    3. You should be ready to get 2-3 real meaningful offers.
    Good luck.
    Sep 5 0
  • Microsoft LQbM56
    Meditation will help
    Sep 5 0
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    Sep 5 0
  • Intel / Admin kanseeu
    Leave this industry. Go wait tables. See if your mind settles out there. Determine what stress threshold you want or can handle in your life
    Sep 5 1
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      OP
      I am on visa.
      Sep 5
  • Cisco 7oclock
    In addition to the self care suggestions above, do you have friends or a community around you? It sounds like you need support. Do you talk with friends and family from back home? Have you made friends here? If your job sucks and work is your whole world it will make you miserable.
    Sep 5 2
    • eBay bskbsg
      OP
      Yeah i do have good set frnds here but i hardly share these things with them... I used to share with my mom but recently hv reduced thinking she ll get worried too..
      Sep 5
    • Cisco 7oclock
      It's natural to withdraw when feeling overwhelmed and it feels safer to do so, but with chronic workplace stress it can help to open up a little bit, vent, and do fun things with people you care about as a counter balance.
      Sep 5
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