decison , decision !

Intel fghyr
Nov 12 18 Comments

i have two offers

1st in bay area. work is eda tool development, 165 base 15 % bonus and 60/3 stock, 20 joining

2nd in boston in a self driving startup.
195 base 15% bonus 250/4 stock, 25 joining

i would be much more excited about the work in job2, and will likely have a much better exit option ( correct me if i am wrong). also think in terms of equity going up it has much more upside.

However(!), wife has an offer in California and may not find something in Boston soon ( she is not in tech). we have done long distance before and it sucked; almost broke our relationship. I dont know that I can do another long distance stint and keep my marriage, but this also looks like an opportunity to break out of harware ....

help me out here folks, in a big jam

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TOP 18 Comments
  • eBay / Mgmt kakashi69
    Take Boston and find a 2nd wife. One for each coast.
    Nov 12 0
  • Microsoft thefob
    A good wife will follow husband's dream
    Nov 12 2
    • Google ΛωΛ
      A good husband will follow wife's dream
      Nov 12
    • Intel fghyr
      OP
      ^ this is the crux of the dilemma I am facing :(
      Nov 12
  • Microsoft / Eng TC_slut
    If job1 is cadence or synopsis stay the fuck away from that. Get as far as possible from EDA
    Nov 12 1
  • LightStep DVng15
    Go with your relationship. There are plenty more jobs in the bay and you can switch easily if job1 doesn’t work.
    Nov 12 0
  • FLYR hQJf32
    Way better work and comp in Boston. Sounds like you’re asking Blind for personal decision regarding your relationship or career, which only you can answer.
    Nov 12 1
    • Intel fghyr
      OP
      Yes, I don’t really know who to ask. Everyone is hedging, so I thought anonymity might lead to some honest truths ..
      Nov 12
  • Walmart wowzie
    Happy wife happy life !
    Nov 12 0
  • New / Design ⭐️⭐️⭐️
    Is it possible for her to decline the job and job search in Boston when you move there? The difference in compensation is a decent non-tech job. How much is her TC for her offer?
    Nov 12 2
    • Intel fghyr
      OP
      Her TC offer is around 200 and a very stable job... difficult to get a similar offer again. Looks like it’s going to be a choice between her career or mine :)
      Nov 12
    • New / Design ⭐️⭐️⭐️
      Oh man that’s good for non tech. Hmm then I don’t know. Very possible if you go to Boston you’re household income could drop.

      I might go to Bay Area because there’s so many tech jobs out here. Might be easier for you to transition than her. Plus a startup isn’t the most stable thing ever.
      Nov 12
  • Facebook / Mgmt hey13
    Stay happy and enjoy life, you will make to something great there too
    Nov 12 0
  • Bose
    haITried

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    haITriedmore
    What company in bosotn ? Is it optimus ride ? Btw theres a lot of companies in general for ur wife in boston
    Nov 12 2
    • Intel fghyr
      OP
      How is the tech job market in Boston ? I see the Alexa team but do other big name companies have presence there ?
      Nov 12
    • Bose
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      haITriedmore
      Yes pretty much every company has some footprint but it is smaller than bay
      Nov 13
  • Cisco mosalahhh
    Where does your wife work that Boston doesn't offer?
    Nov 12 0

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