How to forget the person you have loved very dearly and move on? My bf is going to marry a girl of his parents choice. I feel like dying each moment thinking about it. How do I get over it?
Make your heart rock solid. Give yourself a goal. Push yourself to a corner to reach that goal. Day in day out. Nothing comes to your mind except that goal. Make an oath to yourself not a single drop of tear will fall out of your eyes because of that person. Follow it religiously. Only way is it push them so far back in your head, that they don't come into your day to day life. Make yourself strong. Keep your eyes on your goal. Channelize all your energy everything you got just on your goal. That's what I did.
Out of curiosity Is your BF Indian? If so, are you Indian as well?
Yes
Weird, i thought you would be fine if both of you were Indian. Anyway, I hope you'll get better soon. Times are hard now, patience and time will cure you
Did he promise he will marry you?
No he didn’t He had told me that his parents will never agree to it. But we had spent many beautiful yrs together. We had both dearly wanted to spend rest of our lives together.
Doesn’t sound like it was both. At least he was honest with you about this though. It’s a big world, you’ll find others just as fun!
2 days of sweat pants, ice cream, and The Notebook followed up with a shower, get your nails did, hair did, and be on the look out for another engineer. Plenty of fish in the sea, this just wasn't meant to be. Chin up buttercup. You're alive, healthy, and employed. Things could be worse.
Here is what is going to happen. You will never forget him. But you will learn to live comfortably with his memories. You will cry and you will feel like dying. May be you will end up on bathroom floor drenched in your own pool of tears thinking what you could have done to change it and not lose them. You might have sleepless nights. Perhaps you will cry yourself to sleep. May be you will try to contact him and try to work it out tirelessly. But mostly it will not work out. And you will lose the last hope of getting him back. You will feel depressed. You will not feel like working or doing anything for that matter. Days or weeks will pass where your entire time will be spent reminiscing your past and regretting everything you did or didn't. Slowly , day by day , the pain will lessen. The memories will not freeze you in stone. Slowly you will start to laugh a little. Slowly you will feel better. Slowly life will seem more , much more than dying after a lost one. Slowly you will start to love yourself again and see sunshine where it is due. One day you will wake up like nothing happened. You will still think of him but now a smile will embrace your lips , you will be content. You will be fine. Slowly.
Amazingly put together! Time - heals. A lot of time - will need to pass, before you realise that low feeling was soo bad, mentally physically psychologically and you soo need to get out of it and soo need to just effing move on!
And then one day after a few years, you will have amazing, amazing truly good, extra ordinary reunion sex. True story!
Give it some time, time Heals everything. And remember time also needs some time
Marry a boy of your parents' choosing, that'll show him
It is not bollywood soap drama.
Truth is - you will never forget the person. And why are you even trying to? You both made some great memories, and grew with each other. It’s okay if things didn’t end the way you thought, well that’s life. If you think you really loved him ever, then don’t demean it by being depressed when you couldn’t get him- that would be shallow. Try to love deeper- by being happy in his happiness.
I am sorry to hear that. Things do get better you need time and distance. It's better to have a heartbreak than be married to someone who doesn't value you. Don't create your own prison.
Yes, but the period of recovery will come with lots of self-inflicted isolation... its kinda unavoidable. Part of being depressed...
Ah, yes. This is absolutely true, in my case. But I think it's different with different people. Some people come out of it very fast or atleast looks like it from outside.
You meant your ex bf !